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How did your relationships begin? Did you jump right in, or was it more gradual?

Asked by LocoLuke (1126points) December 14th, 2009

Just wondering how most people’s relationships started.
For example, formal dates at the start? Or simply hanging out and liking each other’s company? What was it like for you?

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TLRobinson's avatar

Been together 2 weeks; met online, he came to see me for the first time last week. We now are professing our love for each other. Best sex ever, that may be what I “love”.

gemiwing's avatar

We met and talked until sunrise. We talked on the phone for a few weeks then went on our first date. We dated a while, then became engaged and got married.

Facade's avatar

We met online. Went on some dates. Liked each other. And the rest is history.

AngelKisses's avatar

It all started with being friends. I wouldn’t go out with him because I worked with. I finally gave in after about 6 months. We ended up becoming best friends and were in a relationship for 5 years. Things, unfortunately, didn’t work out but I still think he was my soul mate.

spacemonkey's avatar

i have known her for close to 10 years.we always hung out and when we started getting into amatuer astronomy did something more start to develope.we have been together for a month now but seems longer.friends first and anything is possible after that.

Alrook's avatar

It was gradual at first, then we took a mutual “leap of faith”, and as one would find out – we did not fly – we followed gravitational laws and ended up a rather large smudge when we hit bottom…still trying to get the stains out…if ya know what I mean.

FrickenFlutherer's avatar

I used to jump in with both feet and no regrets (at the time of jumpage). Now I’m far more careful. Times have changed and one must be more careful.

gememers's avatar

gradual. fellow classmates, hanging out, then…I think I like you, which happened to mean I don’t think I’m heterosexual.

WilAthart's avatar

i think it depends on the boyfriend. some were gradual. i really liked that, it showed me he wasnt there for the status or the sex. and sometimes i just wanted to have a good time! it really depends on what you are both ready for, and what he is like. good luck!

sevenfourteen's avatar

It was a longgg time coming. We were best friends (and in my opinion long time crushes) for a year until he met another girl and dated her instead (not sure if this was from me being to shy to say anything or what) but once they broke up a year later and he hated her as much as I did we became friends again, and unofficial for a year or so. We’re finally together now and even though it’s been only a few months it feels like years.

Iclamae's avatar

Super slow. He didn’t seem like my type and I was generally wary of being asked out. I had seen him around but spent a decent amount of time with mutual friends who introduced us. Talking over aim, talking in dorm lounges, and late nights were the start (2 months). Eventually upgraded to “I could try a relationship” and movie nights (1 month). Then became, “We’re dating… whoa.” He said “I love you” first. (My wariness lasted… hrmmmm…. 5 months or so.) Sex at 9 months (pure coincidence at the time, really).

First and current boyfriend, has lasted almost 4 years. Slow may not be the best for everyone but it worked out really well for me. Made it easier for us both to lay down what we expected/liked/disliked/needed. And for me to ease up my trust barriers.

deni's avatar

Craigslist rideshare. I needed to get from point a to point b. He was going from point a past point b. So I joined. Who would have known he’d end up being beautiful, jewish, and as close to perfect as I could ever imagine. :D I smile everytime I think about how crazy it is.

pearls's avatar

I always approach a new relationship very slowly.

SuperMouse's avatar

I jumped in with both feet (since he couldn’t jump if he wanted to). When I first laid eyes on him I knew he was the one. I felt like a 15 year-old high school freshman with a huge crush. I met him in a class we took together so the second day I waited until he had taken his spot then sat next to him. The third day I made up a goofy excuse to talk to him. We got serious in fits and starts, but I think we both knew right away that this would be it forever.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

We met on (which is no more…)..we were both married at the time so were not looking to fall in love…we talked on gchat and kept on talking and talking and then we talked on the phone…and somewhere along the line I realized ‘shit, I no longer want to be with my husband’ but this wasn’t entirely because of Alex…because I didn’t think we were going to get together (he was married and living in Illinois…and I was in NY)...then he went on a business trip and I, completely impulsively, hopped on a plane and went to see him…we had an amazing 4 days…upon his return home and during the next two months he divorced his wife, packed up his things and moved here…he became a father to my child, we got married, had another child…it’s really unbelievable…it was all worth it…if I were to be careful, this would never have happened

butterflykisses's avatar

It was a long time…we were strangers that saw eachother often but never spoke. There was always eye contact. It was a year and a half before we actually said anything to each other. That moment was akward at best. The eye contact was always so the conversation was choppy..LOL

It took about two months before we actually kissed and from that moment on we have never left each others side.We have been around each other 24/7 for the last 10 months, as he got laid off and not once have we really fought. I am having the time of my life. So is he. It’s been three years since we fist spoke to each other..LOL Best three years of my life..=)

Slow and easy…kinda like the turtle in the race…; )

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

I always jump in. And I always regret it.

Shemarq's avatar

My husband & I actually met on a blind date! LOL!!! Believe it or not they sometimes work!!! When we met, we pretty much knew that there was something there. We ended up getting married a little over a year later and have now been married for almost 13 years. Before we met, we were both happy in our lives. I had a career I enjoyed and I was a single mom, but I was able to support us. We didn’t “need” to be with someone, but when we met, we found out we needed each other.

YARNLADY's avatar

I married my first husband two weeks after we met at a skating rink. He didn’t live long enough to find out if it would be successful or not. My sister introduced me to my second husband, and we decided on our second date to marry, and spent as much time as possible together until the wedding ceremony, six months later. After I lost him, I met my current husband at a convention, moved in the beach house he shared with 6 other people, and we’ve been married 35 years now.

RubyReds's avatar

Jumped right in!!!! Still in after almost 8 years!!!!

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