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What should I do knowing that my girlfriend is borderline cheating?

Asked by MrNiceGuy (10points) December 15th, 2009

By that I mean all but physically cheating. For example she phones the other person quite constantly, claims she doesn’t like him yet always talks about him, ‘suddenly’ wants to visit his home town and she(s) follows/following him around internet chat sites (including this one) using various pseudonyms. A lot of little things really.

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deni's avatar

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MrNiceGuy's avatar

Well she is all but physically cheating. By that I mean she constantly phones the other person, claims how she dislikes him yet talks lots about him, has “suddenly” wanted to visit this persons home town. Also she(s) follows/following him around various internet chat sites (including this one) under various pseudonyms. Lots of little things really.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I think the only thing you can do is confront her about it.

CMaz's avatar

If your conclusion is that she is developing feelings for this person.

Put her straight. Actually if she feels the way she does, by your account.

Talk to her, get back on track ot it is time to move on.

Sounds to me like a cross in the road.

dpworkin's avatar

Your intuition is hollering. Pay attention.

marinelife's avatar

What do you mean what can you do? You have limited options.

What you should do is tell your girlfriend that this is not acceptable behavior and break off the relationship you have with her.

There is nothing you can do to change her behavior toward this other person. We cannot control the actions of others, only our reaction to their behavior.

wundayatta's avatar

Figure out what’s missing in your relationship. Some things you can work on. Other things…. well, you have to let go.

deni's avatar

i agree, confront her about it. sounds like bad news.

john65pennington's avatar

This is a new one on me. what is borderline cheating? its like being pregnant. either you are or you are not. same applies to cheating. how about flirting? would that be a better definition?

Pazza's avatar

Are you married? – No
Have you been together long? – No
Answer – Binbag her.

Are you married? – No
Have you been together long? – Yes
Answer – Tell her your not happy with the attention she’s paying this other, give her an ultimatum ie ‘PACK IT IN!’. If she refuses ‘BINBAG HER!’

Are you married? – Yes
Have you been together long? – Yes/No
Answer – Seek legal advice!........Divorces can be costly!......

janbb's avatar

People are very complicated; my answer is talk to her about your feelings and see if you can work it out. If you can’t come to a satisfactory place with each other, you may have to walk. Not an easy situation, you have my sympathy.

thriftymaid's avatar

Tell her goodbye.

Blondesjon's avatar

@Marina nailed it. You have to tell her it’s one or the other and then accept the outcome. If she chooses Mr. Internet then you have to move on.

Trying to win back her affection only works in teen movies. In real life it makes you look like a bitch.

broncosgirl's avatar

Trust your gut. It will become physical eventually, is my bet. If you want to try and salvage things, tell her it isn’t fair to put you through this situation. She should be honest about her feelings, and if she isn’t invested in a relationship with YOU (not the person who is talking to), then she should take a hike. She is being selfish, and you deserve better. I am willing to bet there is someone out there who wouldn’t do this to you, and would treat you for the amazing, caring person you are. My advice: Find that person! You come first.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

It’s not love, it’s infatuation. Something about this person is exciting.

Oxymoron's avatar

Get rid of her. Why would you want to be with someone who is like that anyways. I don’t get how you could even put up with her. If I were in your position, I would definitely dump her. She’s one of those stupid girls that thinks she can get away with everything, don’t let her!

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