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Where can I run away to where nobody will know who I am?

Asked by meneedsmoney (13points) December 27th, 2009

I’m 22 years old, a college student who’s fed up with education, tired of visiting my father in rehab, and tired of my verbally abusive mother. I was born out in Oklahoma and was thinking of going back there to a town called Happyland. While it might not make me happy, I feel no one would ever find me there (if they would even look). Any suggestions of places to go? (I love warm weather and am quite skilled in the business field)

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gemiwing's avatar

In my experience, it didn’t matter where I ran to. The problems followed me.

Then again, I never tried the Florida Keys.

thriftymaid's avatar

Go to Las Vegas.

Kelly_Obrien's avatar

Branson Missouri…

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

No matter where you go, problems within yourself go with you. As a practical matter, it would have to be a country where your ethnicity does not stand out, you speak the language perfectly and the country is sufficiently undeveloped or corrupt to make identity tracking impractical. Learn Spanish and head for Paraguay, like the old Nazis did.

Cruiser's avatar

Answer bag!

Zen_Again's avatar

Edit: after reading the details.

john65pennington's avatar

Rain Forrest. take an umbrella.

ucme's avatar

Boston

nebule's avatar

where have you always wanted to go?

and like @stranger_in_a_strange_land said.. this quote always brings me back to the truth when eanting to run away… ’ At home I dream that at Naples, at Rome, I can be intoxicated with beauty and lose my sadness. I pack my trunk, embrace my friends, embark on the sea, and at last wake up in Naples and there beside me is the stern fact, the sad self unrelenting, identical, that I fled from.’ Emerson

Of course if you really must leave…for somewhere I@d go for a log cabin with a roaring fire and plenty of books….and internet access!! (so you can do business and talk to us!) :-)

antimatter's avatar

The thing is you can run away from your problems but you will never be able to leave your demons behind. Deal with your problems it will make you a better person, it that does not not work, go to Canada. Another piece of advice, your past always catches up with you no matter how far you run, deal with your problem, it that does not work go to the Bermuda Triangle. If you want to run away, you need to know where to run to and you need a good plan, if you don’t have a plan, deal with your problem, if that does not work go to Area 52.

aprilsimnel's avatar

I think you’ll feel better if you tell your parents the truth about how you feel (and tell your mother to piss off if she can’t treat you like an adult person), even if you’re scared that it will hurt their feelings. Not in a pissy, bratty, childish way, of course, but just lay it on the line as if you were in a debate class. Seriously. Your parents are yanking your chain because you’re letting them, and you feel like shit because that’s your intuition’s way of telling you that you’ve got to be honest with them and stand up for yourself now. You will never get a moment’s peace in your life if you just continue to take things like this.

You can let go of the idea that they will “punish” you, because you’re an adult now. They’ve already done their worst. Don’t run away. Take yourself back. Then you can go anywhere you like and not end up an Emerson quote. And I’ll bet your desire to work on your studies would also return.

Believe me, I’ve been in that place and the only way out was through. Good luck.

SirGoofy's avatar

Deep in the bowels of Carlsbad Caverns, NM.

JesusWasAJewbot's avatar

Ive thought about that sometimes, go somewhere far off where no one will find me, enjoy the solitude. Then i thought about how much ill miss my friends, my family, familiarity. Youre young, things only get better.

jules96's avatar

Tulsa is where a lot of businesses are in Oklahoma.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Go to Tibet, and on your way, stop at your doctor’s office for some antidepressants and a good counselling session.

woodcutter's avatar

would they who you want to get away from really try to find out where you went? If not then anywhere more than a day’s ride should do.

susanc's avatar

A road trip can do wonders for the sense of which one, of all the characters impinging on your life, is actually yourself.
You get to suck up wisdom from old dudes at truck stops and so on. See a lot of landscape. Alternate solitude-in-landscape with encounters-with-unfamiliar-types-of-people. And travel light. Forget “Business” for a few months. Because – isn’t this a vision quest?

SundayKittens's avatar

Where did you go?

crazerishpsyco's avatar

My opinion… A road trip or something. Doesn’t matter where you go, and anywhere you go theres bound to be problems. If you move to a totally different place you can always make new friends, start a new job, etc… but you might also find that once your gone, you’ll start missing your parents even if you are really tired of them. Just sounds like you need a vacation, get your mind off things and think. Try to make the stress go away and look at the bright side ^_^ Do something that will make you happy, or smile at least a bit. Find something you can think of that makes you smile and when the stress comes think of it, but than again what do I know?...

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