Do you have any good advice you wish someone would have shared with you?

My parents never told me about the “birds and the bees”. my school buddies enlightened me of the facts of life. wife and i discussed this and decided our children would have this information as soon as we believed they were old enough to understand it. this we did. why did my parents not tell me? my dad was in the Navy at the time and i guess he figured i would discover this soon enough at school. he was right.

I wish my biological mother could have told me that alcoholism ran in my family, and that it would be a good idea to avoid it. ( I was adopted, so did not have this information.Thirty years later she contacted me, and I found out, but by then the damage was done)

No matter what things WILL get better, just hold on.

Just typing that brought me close to tears, theres been so many situations where ive wanted to let go of everything but you just gotta stick it out no matter how hard.

@JesusWasAJewbot Keep on Keeping

Make sure you don’t take any thing for granted. my sister died suddenly and never got a chance to let her know how much i loved her. and my grandmother just passed too so i made sure i spent as much time as possible with even though she was 96 and didn’t know who i was anymore. :)

The worst vice is advice.

As I was at great pains to tell my own children:

1. Life is not fair. It’s not designed to be fair. If you want “fair,” you have to make it for yourself.

2. If you want to be liked, if you want to attract the opposite sex, make yourself into the best “you” you can be. People who like that “you” will be attracted to you, and those relationships will outlast any other sort.

3. Never give up. Never surrender. Never say “die.” And take no prisoners.

4. Do you have food to eat, clothes to wear, a roof over your head, some way to occupy your mind, and at least one other human being who loves you? Then you are indeed a wealthy human being!

5. Learn to focus with great intensity over extended periods of time, and you will succeed.

6. Be kind! It costs you nothing. Remember that we are all ‘soldiers of life,’ and that everyone you meet is fighting some sort of battle.

7. Most rules are made by others who seek to control our behavior in some way. Ipso facto, freedom dictates that most rules are made to be broken.

8. The greatest ‘sin’ is in dying without ever having truly lived.

9. Youth passes, and beauty fades, but a loving heart lives forever.

10. Live today so you have as few regrets tomorrow as possible. And if you find someone along the broken roads, consider yourself among the most fortunate of humans.

Eat your vegetables
(seriously)

@CaptainHarley Great answer with great advice!

As a senior in college, I have discovered that my extracurriculars are much more important to me than my academics. I get Bs, and I need a B average to keep my scholarship, so I wish someone had told me to just aim for Bs and be happy rather than stress out trying to get As then not meeting them.

@Cruiser

Thank you! Most of that I had to learn the hard way.

Invest young and you’ll be rich or wealthy by 50.

Yes.“Don’t do that!“is at the top of my list ;)

I wish I could have comprehended. Youth wasted on the young. When I was young.
I so get it now.

Wear sunscreen.

You are responsible for yourself, so don’t just do something because an “authority” is telling you you have to do that something. Assert yourself.

I tend not to regret much of what’s happened becaue the way I see it, if it hadnt have happened, I wouldnt be the ME I am now. However, the one thing I look back at and wonder is why no-one tried to talk me out of my first marriage! because when it ended a lot of friends and family said “we knew it wouldnt last etc etc” I mean, WTF?
If I was to offer any advice to anyone it would be this:
Do unto others, what others would do unto you! Only do it first!!

Driving advice : HANG BACK, don’t drive close to the vehicle in front of you. Give yourself time to react.
Also, when approaching a stationary vehicle in traffic – BRAKE EARLY, don’t assume that your brakes will stop you at the last instant. Again, give yourself time to react.

These are not lessons that you want to learn ’ the hard way ’.

Always wear your wellies and don’t listen to any girl ho says its safe!.......

Though personally I’d have just got it snipped when I was sixteen, you can always get a reversal, its cheaoer than child maintanance!.....

Eat right. Get in enough grains and vegetables to keep your brain operating. Trying to get through school on nothing but microwave burritos and TV dinners literally destroyed my grades and ability to stay awake, let alone concentrate.

1. Everything ends up fine at the end. It sure doesn’t seem like it will, but it does.
2. Children are born and just like that, they’re grown and gone. When you’re up all night with a sick one that’s crying unless you remain in the same awkward position for 12 hours straight, you wonder why anyone ever told you that horrible lie. Then it happens and you have absolutely no idea where the time went.
3. Whatever you were in high school, and whatever great grades you had really makes no difference to the rest of your life.

Learn to love yourself.

@janbb I would second that advice Jan! Best lesson I ever learned!

Anything other than yourself is a persona or ego.
I third that seconded first statement.

@janbb Lurve!

Life is 10% what you make it and 90% how you take it. For a long time I was sure it was the other way around, it’s not.

@Silhouette but wouldn’t a good part of that 90% of “how you took it” then involve a pretty big part of “making it” out of what you just took?? ;)

@Cruiser Could you draw me a pie chart? lol Way I see it is all you really have control over in your life is yourself. Bad things happen that are beyond your control but you get to choose your own reaction to those bad things.

@Silhouette..Very true and as you can see this piece of pie I “took” over here I “Chose” to add Whipped cream to 100% of the pies surface making that pie piece 110% better than it was and subsequently “made” my life better in the process. So in conclusion, I took a marginal piece of pie that would have been only 10% of the enjoyment had I not added the whip cream and shows that I can have my pie and eat it too! LOL!

Can anyone here explain to me what I just said??

@Cruiser

GROAN! LOL!

@Cruiser As I understand it you just said make the best of what you’ve got. Sounds like very good advise to me.

@Silhouette I make very good lemonade would you like some!! ;-)

@Cruiser Don’t mind if I do. I make a mean Lemon meringue pie care for a slice?