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Are you ever been taken aback at the audacity of some people?

Asked by Rude_Bear (879points) December 29th, 2009

I belong to a recycling group. If you have something you no longer need, you offer it, rather than trashing it. If someone has use for it, you set up a time for pick up. Lately, the group has been taken over by people asking for things: Computers, game system, even a pool table. Have people just lost it, or do they just not understand? The most frequently “offered” item are moving boxes and packing materials… What makes people think anyone is just gonna give up something expensive just because you asked?

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baxter's avatar

we live in a day and age where there is little to no shame in the antics of modern society. people will say something and do something, then justify it with “I don’t care what people think of me” or other flavor of the month phrases. I’m positive this isn’t the case with all people who participate in such organizations, but I’m more than sure that there are people like that out there.

With that said, there’s always good with the bad. You just gotta know when to recognize the good ones. because when you do, especially in an organization like that, helping a truly needy person is one of the best rewards you can give yourself.

SarasWhimsy's avatar

I think this (unfortunately) happens a lot. It’s like you give an inch and people want a mile. A very good friend of mine is very stingy – but I love her. We’ve gone away for a couple of days together and I’ve paid for everything. Once I loaned her $5 and the next day she asked for $200. And, she’s never paid me back for one thing.

My advice is the next time someone asks for a computer after someone offers packing supplies laugh and say sure, next time we have one floating around we’ll make sure you get it. Maybe they just need someone to point out what the group is truly about.

Pretty_Lilly's avatar

It all depends,if they just provide a list of items which might be useful to them I guess it is Ok but if they are asking for specific items I own and they feel I should turn over to them I would tell them to F* off !! !!

marinelife's avatar

I am never amazed at the audacity of people any longer.

cookieman's avatar

As my father would often exclaim, “The balls on some people!”

But it’s sadly common. I find myself shocked when I encounter someone who is humble, appreciative and polite – not the other way ‘round.

Silhouette's avatar

No. I can honestly say the one thing that will never surprise me is the cheek of some people.

RocketSquid's avatar

Playing devil’s advocate here, I think a lot of it has to do with the anonymity a site like that provides. Even though they’re posting ridiculous requests on the website, I doubt they would walk up to you in a group and request something like that.

JustPlainBarb's avatar

When it comes to people wanting “STUFF”, some have no shame in getting it anyway they can. Also it seems a lot of people just have a sense of entitlement now. You don’t have to earn things… you just deserve them for some reason!!

Tink's avatar

My mom. She doesn’t buy me one thing I want and instead she wants to take me to Hollister. And she still asks me why I don’t like that store.

philosopher's avatar

Some people have no morals or class . They will use any decent person. Most people are sheep and will follow along to avoid confrontation. I have never understood why?
I will follow no one and will say NO . If they persist. I will put them in their place.
I learned to stand up for myself many Years ago . I was a nice young Women but now I am over forty; and a force you do not want to oppose.
The only way to stop these people is to clearly say NO. If they dear to attempt to convince you let them know what you think of them.
Everyone in our society has to learn how to stand up for themselves and not blindly follow others just because it is the easiest way.
Following others is a weakness in our society that dangerous leaders throughout history have played on. When you no something is wrong you should say No. That is your right.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

All the time. Customers where I work seem to know no bounds, have no shame and have a HUGE sense of entitlement. Here are a few of my more favorite moments:

* People complaining when the complimentary breakfast donuts run out

* People complaining about the thoroughness of the complimentary machine car wash

* People complaining when the complimentary bottled water runs out

* People who call in to complain if there was no popcorn made when they visited

* People who load their pockets with packets of instant hot chocolate and then come ask for more as if it magically disappeared and we didn’t seem them steal in the first place. Same thing for artificial sweetener packets.

occ's avatar

I don’t really consider those requests to be audacious. Maybe unrealistic, given that your list is used mostly for people getting rid of low-budget stuff like moving, boxes, but it never hurts to ask. Plenty of people have an old computer sitting in their garage that they aren’t using (or, who knows, maybe even a pool table that is taking up space and they haven’t had the time to sell it on ebay or craigslist). The only way to get what you want is to ask for it, and it doesn’t seem to me to be rude to ask a list. If, however, a friend said to you personally, “hey, give me your computer” – well, that would be audacious.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I wish I could say that the boorish, selfish and thoughtless behavior shocked me.
I have studied and observed human behavior for way too long to be taken aback.

Does it surprise me, no!
Do I object and speak out about it? You can count on it!

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I’ve had that proplem with a few peple that I’ve given things to. Now I only do such things anonymously. I don’t like being embarassed by thanks, but “demands” from people who now feel “entitled” enrage me. I’d rather use an old computer for target practice than give it to a shitbag like that.

Berserker's avatar

Your example is indeed disturbing…it’s like, this is a recycling organization, not a fucking goodwill store.

I’d send em to the dentist, ah wood.

It’s like when I’m at work. I’m a waitress in a bar, and in my town it’s customary for the patrons to buy the waitresses beers or shoorters. But because they do this, they seem to think I’m obligated to go home with them at the end of my shift.

It’s really upsetting and stressful, and makes me hate my fucking job, but what can I do about it. I’d find it arrogant, that is, if my personal esteem and sense of worth wasn’t questioned. I mean I’m not really pretty or sexy but I’m not anybody’s fucking sperm disposal center, either. This is a bar, not a goddamn whorehouse.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@Symbeline ((hugs)). Please know that there are at least a few men in the world who would never do that. :^(

Berserker's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land Oh I know it. :) And thank you. Hugs! :)

rottenit's avatar

This started happening to a freecycle group that I was in, people wanted Wii’s, Xbox 360’s, LCD Tv’s, etc.

The other crazy thing with this group is people want expect you to deliver what you are offering.

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