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What do you do when you make eye contact with a stranger?

Asked by The_Inquisitor (3163points) December 31st, 2009

Well, let’s say you’re walking down a hallway at school, or even down an aisle at the supermarket. You make eye contact with a stranger (either they looked at you first, or you looked at them first), or maybe somebody that you’ve seen around before, but you’ve never spoke to them, what do you do? Smile? Look away? Ignore them? Wave?

I’m just curious as to what people would do in this situation. I guess this may sound extremely strange, but I don’t know what I should do when I make eye contact with strangers, or acquaintances. It seems the most obvious thing to do is smile, but I find it hard to smile at people when I don’t know them, and also if neither of us is about to say a greeting of some sort.

I usually just ignore and look away, as if they’re nothing. But this, I just realized, seems kind of rude? Am I being rude? I see them, but then my eyes roll onto something else. What SHOULD I be doing?

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eLenaLicious's avatar

It depends who the person is and how they react to your eye contact.

Sarcasm's avatar

I lift my shirt and tickle my nipple. Then I offer to do the same to them. Haven’t gotten any positive responses from it yet.

I quickly dart away and look at something else. I don’t want to get in a fight with the @jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities s of the world.
If it’s with my friends, I’ll turn my glance into a straight up glare.

SABOTEUR's avatar

Smile and say, “Hi”.

faye's avatar

Smile and nod. This action works in so many situations.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

@SABOTEUR, what if they’re at a distance?

- my smile would probably look forced… AND awkward =\

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I smile and nod.

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

@Sarcasm People turn down a free nipple tickle? What is this world coming too?

SABOTEUR's avatar

@curiouscat Hard to make eye contact from a distance.

Grisaille's avatar

I start throwing punches.

jrpowell's avatar

A slight head nod to acknowledge their existence.

absalom's avatar

I look furtively away and apologize profusely. Or maybe just look furtively away. I’m pretty awkward so I try to avoid all confrontations, even innocuous ones.

Once, though, I attempted a “sexy look” at this (cute) guy in a hallway at school, and he ended up smiling, so I guess it pays to make eye contact sometimes.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

@SABOTEUR, oh, I meant, too far to hear?.. lol.. in a hallway at school though, it could be pretty loud as well.

applesaucemanny's avatar

I nod and say, good morning/afternoon/evening

SABOTEUR's avatar

@curiouscat Smile and nod. The thing is, I don’t know where I got this from, but I almost feel obligated to acknowledge people I make eye contact with…smile, nod, “wazzup”...something to let that person know they’re not being ignored.
(Wonder what they call that obsession?)

JLeslie's avatar

If it is walking down a hallway or passing each other in the supermarket I would smile, maybe say hello. If I am sitting on a bus or some sort of public transportation I would probably not hold a stare and look away or focus on something else. If I am in a restaurant and caught someones eye at another table I would probably also just look in a different direction.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

I usually smile and look pleasant. Sometimes I make a passing comment. But this is the upper south, so I probably know them or their mother, or work with their uncle, or went to high school with their father’s old girlfriend, or they went to day care with my daughter, or… you get the idea

The_Inquisitor's avatar

lol, this will be hard…. for me (I know, pathetic) ... =\ .. the ‘don’t ignore people’ part of it. I’ll probably have to consciously be thinking about it at the time that it happens, to successfully acknowledge them.

Facade's avatar

Smile. Although I’m normally the one initiating eye-contact. I honestly can’t help myself lol. I feel rude if I don’t make eye contact with everyone I pass.

gemiwing's avatar

It really depends on a lot. If I’m tired or over-stimulated I’ll just look at them and blink a few times. Wait to see what they do (ie offer me a better clue of what I’m supposed to do).

If I like someone I stare at them. If I don’t like someone, or the feel of them, then I won’t even give them eye contact in the first place. yes, I am a freak.

JLeslie's avatar

I should have added if we are right next to each other, like on a line waiting, I would smile and maybe strike up a conversation.

SABOTEUR's avatar

@curiouscat: Well, that’s my..eh..quirk. I’m often overly concerned about slighting people, so I’m watching them to see if they’re watching me so I don’t fail to acknowledge them in some way.

Facade's avatar

@SABOTEUR It’s good to know I’m not the only “quirky” person who does shit like that lol.

SABOTEUR's avatar

@Facade I have it so bad, I thought I made eye contact with Prince at a concert a few years ago.

(Of course, I acknowledged him.)

My family still gets a kick out of that.

augustlan's avatar

It depends on the setting, but most frequently, a smile and a slight head nod. Like @JLeslie, if I’m next to someone (in line, in the grocery store aisle) I’ll even talk to them.

rooeytoo's avatar

I give the aussie nod, which is a sort of a head tilt and a certain look sometimes accompanied by a quick wink. Very difficult to explain but very distinctive once you’ve seen it.

If it is a good looking man, I give them my ear to ear grin and they always run away yelling. I wonder why that is???

Fernspider's avatar

Give them a “How you doin’?” eyebrow lift thingy and a slight smile.

You could point your fingers at them like fake guns and make the click noise like “How you doin’!?” while winking…

bunnygrl's avatar

I always smile. Mostly people will smile back.
hugs everyone xx

knitfroggy's avatar

I smile and say Hi. I hate it tho when I see someone I went to high school with and didn’t like or know well and we are both trying to ignore each other but we made eye contact anyway. Awkward! I just look away and keep truckin’.

robaccus's avatar

Make a quick soul assessment, and then…

lovemypits86's avatar

i look away don’t like making eye contact with strangers then some want to talk to you

Bluefreedom's avatar

Most of the time I’ll smile because it just seems like the natural thing to do. I’m happy to say that I receive a smile in return more often than not.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I don’t. Eye contact to an autistic person is like having fimgernails torn out.

Rude_Bear's avatar

Shields to maximum power and photon torpedoes armed and ready to fire.

Sarcasm's avatar

@bunnygrl That sounds so weird coming from someone with a House avatar.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

Pull the cord on the bomb belt.

bunnygrl's avatar

@Sarcasm lol I hope that I don’t share any characteristics with the good dr House :-) he is lovely eye candy though lol
hugs xx

rileymakesmotion's avatar

Kind of happy that they were looking back, then like a creepster.

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