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What was the best piece of advice you ever got?

Asked by wundayatta (58714points) January 5th, 2010

Think back on your life. You’ve probably received a lot of advice from a lot of people. What was the advice that helped you the most? What was the advice that was most meaningful to you?

For me, the best advice I ever got came from a home inspector. He told us, that since we were buying a very old house, we should expect to spend $3000 per year on maintenance. Best advice I ever got.

It helped us plan and budget better for items we might not have included in our expenses. It totally changed my attitude about things that go wrong. They are no longer a surprise. They are expected.

The amount has tripled or so in the 20 years since we got that advice, but I still think it’s the most useful thing anyone ever told me.

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Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Do not make an elephant out of a fly until you’re close enough to touch the fly’s wings – basically do not be anxious or cry that something terrible will happen until the situation actually comes up and when we reach that bridge, we’ll cross it then and not a minute too soon.

prasad's avatar

1. Try your best, and leave the rest! to God.
2. Don’t expect anything from others.
3. Don’t be afraid, I’m always with you. You will succeed!

Snarp's avatar

When you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging.

Velvetinenut's avatar

1. Don’ sweat the small stuffs.
2. Have fun in studying. Distinction is good enough, no need to kill yourself for a High Distinction grade.
3. Have a stash of money that your husband doesn’t know about. (This is one of the best advice I had been given. My STBX knew of a little container of emergency cash I kept for myself. Needless to say, he helped himself to it).

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff
Know when to say f**k it and walk away

TheJoker's avatar

When confronted by a hostile group, single out the biggest, meanest member of that group & hit him as hard as you can….. then run!

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

“Whatever life throws your way, keep on laughing” – from my grandmother on her 90th birthday.

Snarp's avatar

There is a corollary to “don’t sweat the small stuff’: “Take care of the ounces and the pounds will take care of themselves”.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

The other was a quote from Mao: A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

philosopher's avatar

The best piece of advise I ever got was to be perservant .To work relentlessly for what I must accomplish. To ignore those who say I can not.
I have shocked many people with my attitude. They are often overwhelmed by my success.
I was also told to keep a positive attitude despite everything.
This attitude has helped me survive .

cornbird's avatar

Beauty fades….Dumb is forever….

cornbird's avatar

Laughing and Crying lives at the same house…

Dr_Dredd's avatar

Enjoy college now, and don’t worry about the grades. They’ll come. You’ll wish later that you took more advantage of the things college has to offer.

curosity_killed_the_cat's avatar

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.?

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.? He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage…deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.

Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.


jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

@curosity_killed_the_cat You know, there’s more to life than men and relationships.

Austinlad's avatar

I’ve received matoo many good pieces of advice in my life to come up with just one, but here’s something I’ve always remembered that uncle told me when I was a little boy: when you meet someone, look him straight in the eyes and shake his hand firmly. Sounds simplistic, but just think about the times you’ve met someone who looked away and/or gave you a limp hand—or no hand at all.

mattbrowne's avatar

When you’re really upset, sleep on it before approaching other people who are the cause for your being upset.

Grisaille's avatar

“Don’t be fucking stupid.”

john65pennington's avatar

I was leaving for junior high school one morning and my mother stopped me at the door. she said. “you are NOT going to school looking like that, are you?” my clothes were a bit wrinkled, my hair was out of place and my clothes did not match, at all. i was born a neat person, not a neat freak. she turned me around and made me look in a long mirror. “look at yourself. this is how other people see you. remember, you never get a second chance to make a first impression” those words hit hard in my brain and are still there today. now, before i walk out the door, i look in a mirror to see if my first impression is satisfactory. its funny how just one little incident can have such a great effect on a person life. her words were immortal. thanks. mom!

Sebulba's avatar

don’t smoke

rhodes54's avatar

“You’re not late until you get there!” – my dad

“If you don’t care where you are, you’re not lost” – unknown (anybody know this one?)

Snarp's avatar

“See this here son? This is shinola. See that over there? That’s shit.” – The Jerk probably not quite right

Strauss's avatar

If you are walking down the street and see someone without a smile, give them one of yours! (My mom)

knitfroggy's avatar

Marry for love and no other reason.

When you are a new mother- Sleep when the baby sleeps.

And this from my aunt when I was dating-Date fat guys, they never skimp on the food. i found this humorous and useful.

knitfroggy's avatar

@Grisaille that is probably the best advice I’ve ever heard!!

HTDC's avatar

If life throws shit your way, catch the shit, then throw it back.

baxter's avatar

Sometimes you eat the bear

And sometimes the bear eats you.

ratboy's avatar

Take the day off.
Sleep in.

FlipFlap's avatar

When I was going on my first job interview, I asked my grandfather, “What do I answer if I am asked why he should hire me rather than someone else?”

My grandfather advised me to say, “I am reliable and will always be here when I am supposed to be. I do not ever miss work. I work hard and you can count on me.”

That advice has served me well at job interviews over the years.

Colen's avatar

Don’t trust anybody.
Be independent.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

You better shop around… yes.. from that old song.

SABOTEUR's avatar

Ask yourself, “What useful purpose does this serve?”


Before speaking, ask yourself:

1) Is what I’m about to say true?
2) Is what I’m about to say kind?
3) Is what I’m about to say necessary?

If your speech does not meet all three challenges, you would do yourself and others a great service by saying nothing at all.

HGl3ee's avatar

My Mum sat me down one day not to long ago and said this:

“Choose your love wisely. Love your choice always.”

She told me that the man I choose to marry will be one of the biggest decisions of my entire life. I have taken this piece of advice and it’s always poking me in the back of my brain :D

HGl3ee's avatar

@SABOTEUR : Thanks! My Mum is a very wise woman ^.^

Michael_Huntington's avatar

Delete System32

zephyr826's avatar

“Be excellent to each other” – Rufus

Eureka's avatar

Never, ever, let anyone take naked pictures of you. It will only come back to haunt you. (My grandmother was 75 when she told me this!)

philosopher's avatar

Eureka I remember people asking me to pose nude when I was in college. I always sad no way.
Lurve for you.
That is called having a little common sense.

broncosgirl's avatar

“Friends will come and go, but your family is what you can always depend on”
-I’m glad I found this out being young, because it’s nice to have friends, but I have found they come and go with life circumstances, whereas my family is my solid foundation. Thankful for the advice, and happy to follow it :)

Irishmar's avatar

Keep off the tower, your gonna fall man, and its really gonna hurt.

Just_Justine's avatar

What anyone is saying about me, is none of my business.

AshlynM's avatar

Trust but verify.

john65pennington's avatar

When in doubt…...DON’T.

Never trust someone that says, “Trust Me”.

wundayatta's avatar

@john65pennington I totally agree with that last one. If someone tells you to trust them, there can only be one reason for that: they aren’t worthy of trust. Otherwise there would be no need to say it.

MooCows's avatar

My mother told me that the words “please and thank you”
will get you further in life than anything else.

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