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clarice's avatar

Would you be willing to give up sex for one year if you knew it would give you a much deeper sense of peace than you have now?

Asked by clarice (244points) January 29th, 2010

Self-explanatory question really.

Just interested in seeing what you people have to say. Especially the men here.

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76 Answers

Sophief's avatar

Easy answer, NO.

rangerr's avatar

Sex involves a lot of emotions for most people. It’s a total mind-fuck. No pun intended.
“Giving up sex” makes it sound like a bit of an addiction in my mind.
And being that I’m not addicted to it, I’d go without sex for the rest of my life if I had to pick that or being at peace with myself.

ninjacolin's avatar

i can’t imagine it being a worthwhile benefit.
sex doesn’t take away from my sense of peace.

Violet's avatar

Can I still masturbate? If I can, then yes.

liliesndaisies's avatar

I haven’t had sex for some time now. But No.

ucme's avatar

A “sense of peace,” but I practice the theory that it’s better to make love not war. So best of both worlds for me i’d say.

jrpowell's avatar

“deeper sense of peace” sounds like hippie bullshit. It doesn’t even make sense to me. The question should be “Would I give up sex for a year for a iPad?”

The answer would be yes.

kevbo's avatar

I’d give up anything if that was the result. IMHO though, sex has it’s place on that path. It’s how it’s used that matters.

Zen_Again's avatar


Hey, I’ve done it for nothing.

njnyjobs's avatar

I don’t see how the two are related. As a matter of fact, if I give up sex, I probably would be in trouble for not providing for the needs of my SO.

Violet's avatar

@johnpowell really?? An ipad? Would you give up a year of sex so that a starving family could eat for a year?

Sophief's avatar

I wouldn’t/couldn’t give up sex for anything.

jrpowell's avatar

@Violet :: Absolutely, that is a not even something I would consider rejecting. A family eating vs. me getting laid. Obviously food for the family is more important.

I’m actually a bit bothered that this is even a question.

Zen_Again's avatar

For an ipad, I’d even have sex with @johnpowell for a year.

jrpowell's avatar

@Zen_Again :: Deal. As long as we can share.

Zen_Again's avatar

I’m on top.

jrpowell's avatar

@Zen_Again :: That works, I’m lazy.

Zen_Again's avatar

@JP There’s this position where we can both see the ipad at the same time…

Violet's avatar

@johnpowell I was just wondering. I’m happy with your answer. . to be honest, from the way you brought up the ipad, you sounded kind of greedy. I’m sorry, I know you’re not.

Zen_Again's avatar

@Violet He is greedy, lazy and gay. Wake up and smell the Apple.

Violet's avatar

@Zen_Again lol, what does being gay have to do with greed and the ipad?

Zen_Again's avatar

He wants me. And he’d do me for free. The ipad is an excuse. Ask him.

augustlan's avatar

While I know this is a fallacious choice for most people, I suppose some with sex addiction could in fact benefit from this plan.

That said, since we’re dealing in the hypothetical… sure. Like @kevbo, I’d give up anything for that kind of a result.

Cruiser's avatar

Nope, making love is that perfect mind erasure for me and is what helps me achieve that total peace.

BoBo1946's avatar

Well, at my age, not a problem! As you get older, sex takes on a whole different meaning. By the by and by, you will understand.

Here is a real funny sex joke!

The doctor thought for a moment and said “Hmm, tricky situation. But I have a solution to the problem if young sir would permit.” The husband being very concerned agreed that the doctor could use whatever method to get the bee out of his wife’s vagina. The doctor said “OK, what I’m gonna do is rub some honey over the top of my penis and insert it into your wife’s vagina. When I feel the bee getting closer to the tip of my penis I shall withdraw it and the bee should hopefully follow my penis out of your wife’s vagina. The husband nodded and gave his approval. The young lady said “Yes, Yes, whatever, just get on with it.”

So the doctor, after covering the tip of his penis with honey, inserted it into the young lady’s vagina. After a few gentle strokes, the doctor said, “I don’t think the bee has noticed the honey yet. Perhaps I should go a bit deeper.” So the doctor went deeper and deeper. After a while the doctor began shafting the young lady very hard indeed.

The young lady began to quiver with excitement. She began to moan and groan aloud.

The doctor, concentrating very hard, looked like he was enjoying himself, he then put his hands on the young lady’s breasts and started making loud noises.

The husband at this point suddenly became very annoyed and shouted, “Now wait a minute! What the Hell do you think you’re doing?” The doctor, still concentrating, replied, “Change of plan. I’m gonna drown the bastard!”

laureth's avatar

Give up sex? What do you think gives me that sense of peace?! ;)

tincansailorforever's avatar

I gave up sex in 1984 and have never been more at peace. I had enough of the ‘Games’ females played. Most males are addicted to playing their games for a few seconds of what they believed to be ‘Pleasure’. In reality, Sex is taken too lightly as a mere physical act.
The consequences can be “Disasterous’. So my answer is “Yes”!

Jack79's avatar

sure, why not? I think I’ve probably spent long periods of no sex, perhaps even a year here and there.

I should explain though that I had a lot of sex when I was 20–22, enough to last me a lifetime, so I don’t generally miss it (even though I do enjoy it when it’s meaningful).

nebule's avatar

I’m just coming up to my anniversary of not having sex for a year. Yes, I do feel a greater sense of peace, I’m exploring my sexuality in ways that I’ve never done before, I’m revealing old wounds, opening up to pain, healing and (I hope) about to discover the real joy in my own true sexuality. Basically I’m no longer seeking gratification and validation from someone else…and sex has always served that purpose for me.

dpworkin's avatar

I once gave up sex for seven years(!) That was sufficient to give me the impetus to divorce.

Trillian's avatar

I haven’t had sex since I left my SO. I think I probably see sex differently than a lot of people. I didn’t “give up” sex. I gave up a man I loved deeply, still love. Sex was part of what I had with him. Without him, God, without him I’m just not interested. I’d gone without sex for nine years before I was with him. Again, it’s because sex is part of a relationship for me. If I’m not in a relationship, sex is not part of my life.

pearls's avatar

I gave up sex for over two years due to a divorce but I don’t think it contributed one bit to deeper sense of peace.

BoBo1946's avatar

@pearls got’cha MsP!

TheLoneMonk's avatar

For me there would be no peace without a piece.

pearls's avatar

@BoBo1946 What does sex have to do with a deeper sense of peace. It’s pleasurable with the right person, but to give it up for peace. Don’t think so.

Shield_of_Achilles's avatar

Probably. But then again, I can’t really say anything definite. I like to try and account for variable change..

Facade's avatar

Absolutely. I stayed a virgin throughout high school. I don’t think it’d be that difficult.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

No way. There are years of my life I chose abstinence and it didn’t bring me any added calm, peace or revelation but for others, it might. Quite the opposite, sex with a trusted and loving partner is what brings me the most calm, stability and ease.

Supacase's avatar

Absolutely. No doubt.

Of course not having sex for a year doesn’t mean inner peace, but this is a hypothetical. I would give up sex for a lot longer than that if it did mean I could find peace – which, for me, would include a release from depression.

pearls's avatar

@BoBo1946 Goodness!!! That brought back some memories. Loved that song and loved the Doors. Are you suggesting something….lol

deni's avatar

im at a happy level of peace right now….i would not be willing to give up something i enjoy so much, especially in the past few months, for something that i dont need, which is a deeper level of peace. i’m happy how i am. and sex contributes to a nice little chunk of my current happiness.

JONESGH's avatar

what does deeper sense of peace even mean?

deni's avatar

yeah come to think of it i dont know what it means either. and i feel like if i were giving up sex i would be all fidgety and irritated a lot of the time when i would rather be having sex, so i’d probably be grumpy and start stressing out and then it would have the reverse effect and i would have no peace at all.

Naked_Homer's avatar

I have had to for 5 years in that I was married and she wouldn’t. So no, I wouldn’t.

It did nothing for my sense of peace.

It just made me want to get a piece.

SarasWhimsy's avatar

I’m past the one year mark. I have no deeper sense of peace.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’d give it up for a deeper…anyway
If that sense of peace was guaranteed somehow (which it can’t be but anyway) then yes I can give up sex for a year – certain things transcend physical need.

Shield_of_Achilles's avatar

Peace comes from within
not from with out…

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I’ve given it up permanently. Out of love and respect for my late wife. No one could compare to her loving and any attempt would seem like cheating. It has nothing to do with inner peace, just respect and an eternal love that transcends the boundaries of mortality.

deni's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land bravo/round of applause. very touching.

BoBo1946's avatar

@pearls sometimes, i’ll tell you a good story about that song!

nicobanks's avatar

Yes, if I knew that were true, but I don’t think it is.

phil196662's avatar

I’m with @Dibleyno – because then I would miss out on a 1,000 times with the Wife!

plethora's avatar

Not on your life….especially since I don’t think the two are related. If anything, great sex and the deep feelings that go with increase my inner peace

LethalCupcake's avatar

Thats a big fat Negative

Chikipi's avatar

I would. I have done it two times in the past after a relationship ended. It helps me center myself, re-group, and figure out the next phase of my life.

Zen_Again's avatar

@phil196662 Three times a day with your wife, every day of the year – what’s your secret?

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Zen_Again we can manage it once a day every day but we have kids.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

Yes, I would, no hesitation.

BoBo1946's avatar

@Zen_Again wow..where does he get that much time? Would like his job when he retires Zen!

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

When we weren’t separated by deployments, my lady routinely was treated to 4–8 orgasms a day. Oral, other techniques and selfless love. Our honeymoon never really ended.

phil196662's avatar

@Zen_Again ; Healthy Eating, plenty of sleep as a start…


No, definitely not. I wouldn’t be able to stand it. Not even for a week! Besides, I’d much rather have excitement in my life than more peace. Lol.

Just_some_guy's avatar

I don’t know about giving up sex. Maybe its because I’m young yet, but I would give up this jumping around with different women For one woman. That might just bring me some peace. Probably would bring me a divorce tho. That seems to be they way it works for people now. I think I’ll stick with sex for now, maybe when I’m older I’ll want peace.

nope's avatar

What’s sex?

nebule's avatar

@nope quite! lol x

Coloma's avatar

Hmmm..well..I havn’t had sex for a year and I am at peace, but then again, I was at peace, moot! lolololololol

Coloma's avatar

If it doesn’t happen for another year then I think that fact might start disrupting my peace. lolololol

pinkgirl02's avatar

i havent had sex yet so i couldnt say

Coloma's avatar


Are you too young for this thread?
You should stay innocent for as long as possible! lol

Coloma's avatar


Good for you!

Moegitto's avatar

…you have to have sex first to give it up(hangs head down)

Pandora's avatar

I don’t think so. I would have to forget what sex was like to feel at peace about giving it up for a year. Went without for 11 months when my husband was at Dessert Storm. That was the longest 11 months ever. I would say my stress level was way up high. Where as after sex, I can honestly say I always feel peaceful. At least I know I will get a good nights sleep. :D

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