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Are you ever surprised by the intensity of your emotions?

Asked by SuperMouse (30785points) February 7th, 2010

After a night of intense discussion between myself and my SO, I am at the point of debriefing with myself, trying to process exactly what happened, and trying to obtain some insight about where to from here, I find myself surprised and maybe a bit overwhelmed by my emotional reactions. It seems that, even though I like to think I am in control of myself and understand what makes me tick, I find myself surprised by the intensity of some of my reactions. Have you had a similar experience?

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marinelife's avatar

Yes, although more when I was younger. I once picked up a skin of ice from a puddle and broke it over the head of someone who had attacked my little brother.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I am certainly sometimes surprised by the lack of intensity in my emotions to situations that would warrant it.

Steve_A's avatar

I’m a very calm and relaxed person, people say I tend to be mature for my age.

The thing with me is there a little fine line in my head, once you crossed it I kind of snap….I am sure that not a good thing but I try my best not to get around people or situations that might have me snap….

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Yes.This past year has been a rollercoaster.I am in the process of figuring out exactly what I’m going to do about it ;)

janbb's avatar

I am often surprised by the intensity of my emotions, although I don’t usually express that emotion outwardly.

Silhouette's avatar

I’ve had very strong emotional reactions but I have never been surprised by them.

AstroChuck's avatar

Yeah. I find myself being brought to tears watching some stupid scene in a movie or on television that prpbably wouldn’t affect many. The same goes for music. It can be quite embarrassing at times.

phoebusg's avatar

I used to. Back when I didn’t understand that all emotions are – is a secondary information system. Attenuating the first. Connecting us with the environment, establishing a basic priority system that often helps save us (aka, predator, RUN/hide/FIGHT). So emotions are, thoughts – like any other, but coming from a different network of systems that is geared toward priority. Since they are thoughts the pre-thoughts – learning more about how they are made, what they really mean – awareness or emotional intelligence – will help you a great deal.

Spinel's avatar

Oh yeah. Sometimes, in any discussion, the cold notions of certain people really trigger deep responses in me, often by the desire to get physical. It’s at those times I am surprised by the gravity of what I can feel. I’m one of those people that prides myself on my self control and disciple, so the few moments of intense emotion come as a surprise.

philosopher's avatar

Sometimes. More often I am surprised by my strength and determination. I never back down and can not be undermine by evil stupid and viscous people.
LOL they can keeping trying but I am stronger,smarter and more determined.
I laugh daily at them. I am a rock and their words are pebbles.
It is my strength and endurance that surprises me most.

shadling21's avatar

Yes, but this wasn’t always the case. I’ll elaborate on this related question.

Lately, I’ve been feeling first, then thinking later. I have to figure out what causes these strong reactions. It’s surprising, maybe mostly because for several years it took a lot to rile me up. I think I’ve developed passion.

Christian95's avatar

all the time I act very unpredictable
When I was a little younger I made a real crisis because my brother has eaten my chips but when someone(we were pretty close)told me that I’ll end up in prison because of my behavior I just laughed(of course that ended my relation with that person).

filmfann's avatar

I am amazed at how sentimental I have become while watching parts of movies that, I realize, are trying to tug at your emotions. I used to laugh at such moments. Now I find myself giving in to weeping during a sad moment.
Also, I am normally pretty mellow, and I am often surprised when I get so angry I begin to shake. It isn’t fear, it’s like my body vibrating from holding back.

Facade's avatar

Things which make me angry surprise me, not necessarily how angry i get. I’ll get to the point where my whole body is trembling… pretty bad temper.

aprilsimnel's avatar

I used to be, until I got in touch with why certain things would set me off in one way or another.

The more I learn about myself, the less surprised I am when certain emotions are triggered, and now I’ll just think, “Oh, there’s some more internal housecleaning I need to do here.”

Merriment's avatar

Actually yes.

Recently I was doing some spring cleaning of my computer and stumbled across a draft of a “venting” email I had written to someone who seriously hurt me. As I read the email I had to laugh at just how pissed I had been while writing it. It was nearly unrecognizable as anything I would have written/said. I laughed and laughed at how het up I was back then about something I then went on to live with quite nicely.

I was glad that it just sat there, safely contained, in the draft box and never sent until I was so over it that it just made me laugh.

Usually, I’m not surprised by emotions but I have been surprised by the silliness of the straw that breaks the camel’s back of my restraint sometimes :)

susanc's avatar

I think my emotions are really trustworthy. I do occasionally get panicky about silly things. Luckily my daughter-in-law’s mom (or my stepson’s mother-in-law, take your pick) talks with me a lot, and she has a perfected bedside manner that calms me right down. She says really sensible things like “I know you’ll figure that out in about a minute” or “Well, don’t forget you’re an artist, you see things intensely”. She’s so generous.

I was watching a beautiful docudrama on HBO last night, about Temple Grandin. Whenever it showed a breakthrough moment of understanding animals, I broke down into tears of love.
Big shaking sobs. Not tears of distress. Relief, recognition, gratitude. Such tears are
welcome.

ducky_dnl's avatar

I recently was suprised by emotions. I have had a friend since grade 2 and since March of last year my feelings have gotten more romantically intense. I think about him nonstop and it’s kind of an annoyance. I will be working on an English paper, next thing I know I’m writing our IMs from the previous night on it. Talk about my English teach being mad lol. I usually never let my emotions get a hold of me, but since I started having feelings for him I can never control my emotions. I am trying to gather myself and get a hold of my emotions, but I can’t. Ugh!! :/

definitive's avatar

Yep I sure am surprised by the intensity of my emotions over the last 8 months. I was in a 18 year marriage in which expressing emotion and passion was not high on our agenda. Everything was all very amicable and we rarely argued.

I’m now in a new relationship and I would say it’s a very passionate and often volatile relationship due to my SO being as he has admitted ‘hard work’ and me reacting to him. I’ve been experiencing a wide spectrum of emotions (not all positive) that I am definitely not used to and often analyse whether this is a good or bad thing?

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

Like @Simone_De_Beauvoir , I tend to under react in most situations (except when Fluthering about them). Maybe the meds?

partyrock's avatar

I love too much and when I get mad I feel intense hatred. And when I feel really low it gets to a really depressive state so yes. I’m really emotional, sensitive, intuitive, intense. But I wouldn’t want it any other way. I like my intense emotions, I just don’t want to become destructive. I really like that I love a lot, I just have to put intense feelings to good use.

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