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How can i stop being my own worst enemy?

Asked by c_will103 (43points) February 8th, 2010

How is that all signs point towards success for me, but one stupid decision puts me in a situation that i had no hand in commiting, but i suffer the full consequences. This happens alot and i need good, quality, and helpful advice.

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grumpyfish's avatar

I’m thinking two things (just a guess, without more details)

1—You need to improve contingency planning. That is, I typically hope for the best, but have at least one or two plans when things fall through.

2—Look carefully, if things keep going wrong, you might need to take a more active role in ensuring your success.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

What grumpy fish said :)

john65pennington's avatar

Have you ever heard the old saying, “when one door closes, another door opens?” old saying, but its true. your time will come, just give it time and be prepared to make the move when it happens.

Snarp's avatar

Sounds to me from you description like this is a pattern. If it’s a pattern it is not likely coincidence or being in the wrong place at the wrong time, it is in fact something in your own behavior and/or decisions. Perhaps it is your judgment that is flawed in thinking that all signs point to success or that you had no hand in the situation.

nebule's avatar

I’m not sure but it sounds to me just like this is an obstacle that you must overcome… whatever it is… apparently they happen to the best of us when things are going swimmingly! they are simply a necessary evil in the process of acquiring success… apparently

AstroChuck's avatar

Send yourself flowers.

YARNLADY's avatar

Read the Dale Carnegie books “How to win friends and influence people” and “How to stop worrying and start living”. Follow the exercises as written, and you will see improvement.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Part of learning from your mistakes is recognizing that you make them, and it’s your own fault. Your question seems to indicate that, so congratulations. It sound like perhaps you have an overwhelming need to act or react. It sounds like you need to develop circumspection. Learn to analyze a situation and assess what could possibly go wrong. Before you act, assume that something will. There’s a saying, “not to decide, is to decide.” Not to act, is also an action. No one will look out for your best interests as well as you can your own.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Believe in yourself and always strive to maintain a healthy level of self-esteem.

The Man In The Glass

When you get what you want and you struggle for self
And the world makes you King for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.

For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass,
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.

He’s the fellow to please, never mind all the rest
For he’s with you right to the end,
And you know you’ve passed your most difficult test
If the man in the glass is your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of life
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

nebule's avatar

@Bluefreedom that’s beautiful… who wrote it?

Bluefreedom's avatar

@lynneblundell. The author is anonymous. This is one of my favorite sayings of all time. I was given this by a friend back in my younger years when I was going through some difficult times and it has always held a strong and special meaning for me.

nebule's avatar

it’s amazing thank you…just what I need x

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