I think I am in an online" relationship" that is all a lie, I really need advice?"?

I am hoping to keep this short, but not miss anything out, as I really need some insight, more than advice.I have had my own issues over the years, and realize that being on line and chatting filled a “gap” for me. Over the years, I have met many people whom I didn’t take too seriously, as I realize the limitations and issues with this sort of thing.
Six years ago I met a guy, and over a process of time, we shared our thoughts and ideas, and then progressed to sharing our daily activities. You could say we became really important to each other in this capacity. He is now 33. He lives at home with his parents, and although highly educated does not work. Which I have always found hard to digest. About two years ago, he was going to fly out to me to meet me (different countries). But 3 days before due date he said he broke his foot? Now he is a very honest guy, or so I thought, but decided he was not ready. Of late, he has been telling me of a business venture that takes up most of his day. So he is off line during the day. (We talk all the time). He said that this venture was going so well, (as his others had not) and all he needed was a connection in India. I arranged a connection with a guy in India, but when I asked the guy, the guy said my friend had not even contacted him, or asked him. I feel freaked out. Is he lying? If so is everything a lie, I am totally confused. The thing is I have trusted him with my life, all of it. How do I deal with this? He knows “too” much about me to feel comfortable right now and should I distance myself from him. Oh gosh, I am so confused. Thanks for your insights in advance.