NSFW what does sex feel like after your partner has given birth?

I’m pretty sure my partner will get around to this q eventually but from what he’s told me, it feels the same. I can tell you, though, that my vagina and the surrounding area do not feel the same as before the 2 babies – things kind of got shifted around and rearranged in there – strange feeling but the sex, to me, is also the same.

A little difficult at first if she’s up for sex before she’s really producing as much mucous as before because it requires lubricant. Also, if there was a tear or episiotomy that was stitched up, it may be a bit tighter (I find tight to be quite unpleasant – virgins are the worst). After a while it feels the same as before.

@Snarp really!? don’t have sex with virgins then…better for them not to have someone thinking they’re too ‘tight’ when they’re thinking about what it’ll all be like

My partner would probably say it didn’t change at all, but it did change at first. We began having sex prior to the six week post-partum check, because I felt up to it. Things were much tighter, I only had a small tear but did need stitches. Also, with breastfeeding and hormones, we needed to use lubrication for at least a year…not a bad thing, but it would just take longer for my body to produce enough for it to be comfortable for me.
I have to say, sex was even better after having my first. I’m betting my husband would agree. Maybe because I felt more comfortable with my body and all the changes, but it was amazing for both of us.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Yes, I suppose that sounded awful. I don’t have sex with virgins, I did once, when I was a virgin, and that’s just the way it was.

@Snarp so you’ve had sex with 1 virgin and this makes it okay to say ‘virgins (emphasis on plural) are the worst’? yea, it did sound awful

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I apologize.edit. I’d edit the original if I still could.

@Snarp look, since this is off topic – I’d prefer to discuss all this in a PM, if you want – but I see nowhere where I mentioned that virgins, imo, are ‘a protected class’ and I am not beating you over the head with it, okay? but saying (post-factum) that it ‘was intended to be humorous’ does not make it better

Oh wow i never thought of that!

Rest assured, it’s not like throwing a sausage down a hallway or parking a trike in a 3 car garage. There are some qualitative differences, but mostly from the woman’s perspective, certain things shift imperceptibly, certain nerve endings seem to have changed. So, the guy’s qualitative differences have less to do with the tactile sensation and more to do with the partner’s overall reaction to different stimuli.

I have never had sex with a woman who has recently given birth (I am snipped and have not been with one pregnant by another guy) but I would be terrified of hurting her. I imagine that she would have to convince me to have sex soon after pregnancy for that very reason..

One of my exes had had two and was as tight as a woman who had not had children.

@Arisztid I assumed the question meant some reasonable time after birth. No one should be having sex with a woman immediately after child birth, and most women won’t want to.

Here comes the TMI – women are instructed to do “Kiegel” exercises to strengthen and tighten the muscles of the vagina after birth. In my case, I was planning to do a normal delivery but due to complications, the doctor decided to do a last minute c-section.

Afterward (6 weeks after birth), my husband said it was much much tighter… probably due to the Kiegels! :)

If you don’t, and I quote Jenny McCarthy on this, “it will feel like throwing a hot dog down a hallway” lol. If you do, the results are FASCINATING.

@iLove That’s silly to think that, about the hotdog down a hallway. That does not happen from giving birth. Yeah, if you try to have sex the day you give birth…but things are usually tightened down there because your muscles have to regroup themselves. It’s such an annoying misconception about giving birth…and probably leads to unwarranted c-sections from such a ridiculous fear.

@iLove I had a c-section as well, but my vaginal muscles still tightened, and I did no Kiegels. We didn’t have sex for about a month and a half and for another few weeks it was very uncomfortable, not just from having surgery, but I was just all discombobulated in the reproductive organs. Tightness, dryness, very weird sensations for me all around. My poor husband… I hope it goes better for us this time, for his sake.

If you are going to breed and have kids you should not be so shallow and selfish to worry about how sex will “feel”...plus you will be too tired to have sex anyway!

don’t bang the wounded for crying out loud. Let them heal before getting back to recreational abuse.