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When in a situation with someone you dislike, how do you maintain your objectivity when your decision impacts them?

Asked by Holden_Caulfield (1139points) February 18th, 2010

In other words, consider you have to make a decision that could make or break a person that you personally do not care for. How you do separate facts and observations from feelings and perceptions? Can you maintain objectivity?!? Have you ever been in that type of situation? What was your thought process?

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Trillian's avatar

Funny that you should ask me that. This has come up recently for me twice. One I formally disqualified myself, and gave the honest reason that I wasn’t sure of my objectivity. The second time I told the person that I was uncomfortable dealing with him from a position of power. I never wanted to have that inequality and his belittlement was not my goal. That time I made a decision which has yet to bear fruit, but I think I made the right call.

CMaz's avatar

By staying objective.

It is just how I roll.

CaptainHarley's avatar

If you can’t recuse yourself, do the best you can to remain objective. Sometimes it helps to “re-name” the individual in your mind in order to grant yourself a bit more objectivity.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

If you can’t recuse yourself, judge their behaviours and apply objective operationalized standards.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Ahh…just send them down the river with a pat on the @$$ and a smile on your face!That’s what my kindly grandmother used to say!Oh wait,she was talking about door-to-door salesmen.I think one should remain objective at all times and try to see the other guy’s side…his backside as your boot connects with it!!Noooo!I didn’t mean that either! Try to be fair.—yes,that’s it—empathy.Mmmm hmmm!

Captain_Fantasy's avatar

If you’re incapable of making a unbiased decision that will affect someone’s life, you need to pass that responsibility on to someone who is capable of not letting their emotions overcome their ability to make a logical decision. You can’t just tell someone who has a strong bias to be objective. It’s not that simple.

evandad's avatar

All decisions have some impact on people. If you don’t like the person, there’s probably a reason for it. Don’t second guess yourself to death. Do it to them before…

YARNLADY's avatar

I would make a list of the objective points I need to consider, and rate them. The best thing would be to ask for assistance. A person who can’t be objective should not be in a position of power over anyone, but if it happens it can’t be helped.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. In a situation like that the best way to do it is to go off just the facts, separate the facts from emotions. If the person earned the promotion, time off etc apart from them being a scumbag, you give it to them. If they earned the penalty for wrecking company equipment then they earned that. Just go with straight facts.

Cruiser's avatar

Hit em with a pie…a cheap diet low fat creme pie will suffice!

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