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Is it possible to train yourself to not feel emotions?

Asked by TheJoker (2795points) February 19th, 2010

I’m pretty sure it is through classical conditioning, but how exactly would a person go about this?

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

This can be learned at Ted Bundy University ;)

Blackberry's avatar

It’s easier if you just let other people do it for you by screwing you over in life. That’s how it worked for me ^^b

mrentropy's avatar

@Blackberry That’s the school I’m currently going through. I’m hoping to graduate soon.

Blackberry's avatar

@mrentropy Lol! I’m sorry/Congrats. I think it’s better with this schooling, I got my MBA in looking out for myself so people won’t take advantage of me anymore :)

Cruiser's avatar

Get married!

Seek's avatar

That would be called “Psychopathy.”

You can’t train yourself to “not feel”. You can train yourself to “not react illogically”, by learning to take a step back and assessing each emotionally charged situation from a non-biased perspective.

Yep, it’s hard. And no, you’ll probably never get to the “Kolinahr” state, but hey, where’s the fun in that?

marinelife's avatar

You can’t not feel emotions. You can suppress them, but doing so has all kinds of negative effects on your body and your mind that will eventually catch up with you.

Just_Justine's avatar

I don’t know but I really wish I didn’t feel any emotion right now. I feel like I am being swallowed. Its all my own doing (the emotion). I wish I could change it But I cannot change my core. I suppose take loads of none feeling caring medication is the answer. Or just keel over and die (not you, me).

phoebusg's avatar

To some extent I’ve achieved this. But it’s not ‘not feeling’ emotions, but seeing them as information. Instead of my amygdala screaming for attention, I see a bleep, and take note something is up – then what that something is. Works better for problem solving, and that’s something I love to do.

So yes, it is possible, through conditioning (fast), meditation (slower) – and maybe other routes such as self suggestion/ hypnosis if susceptible.

TheJoker's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille Would that be the one in Florida? ;)

john65pennington's avatar

No. as long a person can hear, their emotions will always play a part in their being. here is an example: my wife and mother-in-law went to see Smokey and the Bandit years ago. i refused to see the movie for reasons unknown. in bed one night, my wife was telling me about one part of the movie that made her roll in the aisles of the theatre. i was quiet in bed and never said a word. suddenly, i began to quietly laugh to myself. it was funny. point here is that i attempted to control my emotions of not laughing, but my hearing would not let me control myself.

BoBo1946's avatar

Men have two emotions: Hungry and Horny. If you see him
without a boner, make him a sandwich.

loser's avatar

Is there something in paticular you don’t want to feel or is it just emotions in general? If they’re really interferring with your life somehow, maybe therapy and medication would help.

BoBo1946's avatar

Seriously @TheJoker, when “most” people get older and wiser, you control the emotion, not let it control you!

Sophief's avatar

Which emotion are you not wanting to have?

Just_Justine's avatar

@BoBo1946 are you saying older “wise” people have no emotions? or have them and can control them? how do you measure that in years?

BoBo1946's avatar

@Just_Justine oh, we all have the same emotions, but as you get older, you should be able to control them better….at least, in my case, have learned to control them better…still want to get mad when i miss a three foot birdie putt to win all the money, but age, as taught me to stay calm, cool, and collected..loll..most of the time!

candide's avatar

no, but you can train yourself very well not to react to them

TheJoker's avatar

@Dibley Mostly depression & sadness right now.

Sophief's avatar

@TheJoker I don’t think you can stop those emotions just like that. You could probably do things to work round them, sometimes you have to take a chance.

TheJoker's avatar

@Dibley You’re right, I know…. thats just not something that comes naturally to me, I tend to think about a subject until I’ve covered every possible outcome…. which probably explains why my head hurts.

CMaz's avatar


Better way to say it is to suppress your feelings.
You can never not feel. What you hold on to will just get dumped to the subconscious.

Then you will find yourself sleep walking at 3 in the morning, trying to break into your neighbors house to eat their yogurt.

Merriment's avatar

Yes. Put yourself in a situation wherein you have no control at all over how much pain is dished out to you and no hope of escape and your mind, as a coping strategy to keep the body alive, will neatly shut off your ability to feel your emotions.

I don’t recommend doing this for “fun”.

TheJoker's avatar

@ChazMaz You never fail to put a smile on my face dude!

stump's avatar

It is possible to train yourself to detach from emotions. By thinking about the subject that gives rise to the unwanted emotion when you are in a very relaxed and secure state, you can release the energy that builds up in the emotion. Each emotion is a pattern of tension and relaxation in the body. When feeling the emotion, identify the area in the body that is tense. Different emotions manifest in different parts of the body. Then learn to relax that part of the body. This can be done with deep breathing and focused concentration on that part of the body. This site can give you the basic techniques. I highly recommend this practice. We all have regrets and painful experiences in our past. This practice can release the anguish associated with these memories without repressing or denying them.

TheJoker's avatar

@stump Thank you for that. This was exactly the kind of thing I was looking for, & you nailed my reason for looking as well….. Kudos

SABOTEUR's avatar

@Zen_Again Didn’t work for Spock, though.

stump's avatar

@SABOTEUR That is because he was half human.

Val123's avatar

Yes. You can practice until it just becomes a part of who you are now. It’s called getting ready to file for divorce.

CMaz's avatar

@Val123 – Interesting how divorce does that to a person.

Val123's avatar

@ChazMaz You just get to the point where you don’t feel anything any more, but….it does take some practice first.

CMaz's avatar

So true.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@TheJoker -Yes,and the campus in Utah and Washigton State..

Berserker's avatar

Child soldiers.

mattbrowne's avatar

No. You can only try to influence your conscious reactions to them.

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