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should i stay with my girlfriend

Asked by imcelv (4points) March 4th, 2008

when we first got together it was perfect and we fell in love, but then she started hangin out with friends more than me, so we break up and i dont talk to her for a while cuase im trying to get over her, but then she comes to my house and she says that it will be better and she still loves me and she wanted a second chance so i gave it to her im just trying to figure out if we will constantly go back and forth with the spllitting and getting back togetther, all my friends say im an idiot for getting back with her but im in love and i dont know what to do, im not sure if she is really in love with me or not cuase she is so caring and loving when we are together but over the phone she talks to me like im nothing to her and its like she is running the relationship her way and i think it should be a couple thing like both of us should work together not just me i just feel like i come second best but i just dont know, i cant tell if she is just messin with my emotions or toyin with me or playin me or what, i just need some help. If anyone has any advice it would be great

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Sneakerfreak503's avatar

Bro u gotta let go no girl is worth all that stress. I know ur in love and it seems impossibile 2 live without her but u gotta do it and no doubt its gonna b hard but you’ll get over her eventually and when u do you’ll b a better person trust me

allknowingone's avatar

well if I was in this situation I would just be straight forward with her and tell her that you love her and then just say that this is the last chance you are going to give her so if she feels the same way about you she will treat you right thats what I did with my girl and everyhing was good after that not saying that everything was perfect but I think that once you get through fights it makes your relationshp stronger

kawaii_ninja's avatar

I don’t really know….but it doesnt seem like she is very trustworthy….i think you should have a chat, tell her how you feel about all this, then make your decisions on what she thinks too.

lozza's avatar

If you have to ask, I would say you definitely need to move on. Life’s far too short to be messed around.

jrpowell's avatar

Hook-up with her mom… Don’t listen to me I have been drinking.

I have been in a similar situation (I was 19) and it didn’t end well. Eventually one of you will find a steady companion and everything will go to shit. Be honest with her and ask where things are going.

With my ex I had I had to tell her I wasn’t something that was waiting around for Sunday nights when there wasn’t anything else going on.

Justnice's avatar

I think you should let her go honey. Its better for you cause if you dont you’ll be more hurt later on. I’ve been in the same position except I am the girl. I was toying with his feelings because I wanted him to break up with me

Poser's avatar

She sounds a lot like a girl I dated in high school. I couldn’t believe that someone that made me feel so great most of the time could make me feel so lousy other times. I ended up marrying her. Now I wish we’d never met. That’s saying a lot because I firmly adhere to the “it’s better to have loved and lost” mantra. But she is the worst thing that ever happened to me.

Let her go. She sounds selfish and inconsiderate. You deserve better. There are girls out there who will appreciate you.

kevbo's avatar

She is jerking your chain, and if she isn’t then it’s because she doesn’t quite know what she wants (or she’s just plain cold). Either way, it sounds as if you’re not quite ready to give her up. My advice would be not to fight your heart. Rather than wringing your hands over it, just stay in the relationship until you get stomped on enough to thicken your skin and until you get sick enough of her sh1t to realize that you’re not attracted to her anymore. You’ll be a stronger man for it coming out on the other side, and you won’t put up with that crap from women you date in the future. The key is to remember that eventually you’ll be getting out, so don’t do anything that will make the relationship more permanent.

siri's avatar

I’ve been through the same and thought I’d never get over my x but never say never. I went and started dating again and I’m working on a relationship with a beautiful lady right now. And you know what, my x still tries to play games with me even after a year. Just let her do her own thing and do what you got to to get past that. But remember not to be in the next relationship and compare it to the last. It just won’t work out. You’ll hurt yourself and your chances of being happy to much. Instead of lingering upon the past work on a healthier relationship. That way you’ll feel happy and know that the next woman yourr with will love you for that

nicoleanna69's avatar

my only advise to you is if it didn’t work the first time its not going to work the second time. Move on there are plenty of girls out there for you. I know its easier said then done, we all have been there once or twice in our life. Your young and seem to have a caring and loving heart don’t let thus useless girl mess you up. Share what you have with someone that’s willing to let you enter her heart !!! Bless u !!

Justnice's avatar

you need to leave now because trust me it’ll only get worse. She’s gonna start treating you even worse. Maybe she’s still with you because she feels sorry for you and doesn’t really like you. That’s why its so hard for her to be nice to you

nicoleanna69's avatar

here’s a little poem for you to give to her .
don’t look back when you head for the door. Cuz if you do it’ll hurt even more Don’t stop to explain , don’t tell me why. If your going to leave just tell me good bye .I love you , I need you but I’ll make it alone! I miss you , I want you but I’ll hold my own. Because I can’t make you love just one guy like me. So if your going to leave just tell me goodbye !!!!

scamp's avatar

Time for you to find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated honey. She’s not gonna change. You will find someone who your love and devotion isn’t wasted on soon enough. but if you stay with her, you will take more emmotional baggage into the next relationship, and you could lose the one that’s truly right for you.

Oz_1's avatar

Be honest with her and tell her what you think. If she doesn’t understand…how will you spend the rest of your life together? Be open and honest…and pray for it all to work out well (”,)

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