NSFW - How do you like your s/o to treat you in bed?

When I first started seeing my s/o, we had some really good rough, urgent fuck me good sex. We still have good sex now, but he is a lot more gentle to what he used to be. Why? He likes to be more loving, more kissy, more slow. I don’t mind any of that, but sometimes, I would like some really rough, make me sore, sex.

I mention this to him and he says he doesn’t want to hurt me. He never hurt me before! What does this mean? and what would you do?