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What's the best way to make "couple friends"...

Asked by bellusfemina (808points) March 1st, 2010

My husband and I have been together for about 7 years, and have never really had any “couple friends”. (I’m 28 and my husband is 32) He has a couple guy friends, and I have a couple girl friends. It would be nice if we had friends that were married that we could hang out with all together. We’ve outgrown our college friends, since all they want to do is still party like 20 year olds. No one at work is in our age group, and the our church really doesn’t have a lot of activities/people we have things in common with.The town we live in is so small, with ZERO going on. Any advice? (besides move some place better)

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Cruiser's avatar

Join sport leagues, clubs, art groups, take classes, volunteer at community events…all these are opportunities to meet other people with similar interests.

buckyboy28's avatar

Have some kids. Sounds kinda crazy, but when you have kids, you will meet other people around your age who also have kids. When the kids get a bit older, they’ll have friends and you’ll have friends. It’s a win-win.

janbb's avatar

We’ve made a number of couple friends over the years through the sailing club my husband joined. It’s the old advice, find some activity that you like to do and then look for a club. Hiking, boating, bridge? You say there is nothing going on in your town; is there a bigger town in the area that might have some of these activities? In addition, one or the other of us has sometimes made a friend at work and initiated going out as couples with them and their spouses. Otherwise, your last resort could be to have children and then meet other parents through the school. :-) Good luck.! (It took us a number of years to find the friends we have, but I now feel quite fortunate.)

chiplmprincessa's avatar

You should probaby join gyms like lifetime fitness or maybe clubs and cooking classes. Most married woman (and sometimes men) usually do these types of things depending on the age groups and stuff. And you probably will make friends. Soon you’ll be talking on the phone, planning shopping trips, soon they’ll meet the husbands and there you go!

marinelife's avatar

What about a couple from one of your workplaces? We just had dinner with friends of an out-of-town friend (someone he had formerly worked with), and we hit it off and made plans to see them again.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Do you have a neighborhood association that you can become involved with? Activities like Habitat for Humanity, arts groups, etc. usually yield interesting people. Take a class together, like ballroom dancing, or wine appreciation, or join a Yahoo group in your area. Don’t lose touch with the college friends; eventually they will pair up. You might want to talk with your church about having more activities—offer to organize them—or perhaps try out different churches to see what their community building activities are like.

janbb's avatar

Have you looked into any events in your area?

njnyjobs's avatar

Join a country club and get active with the social activities.

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