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ducky_dnl's avatar

How would you judge his behavior...?

Asked by ducky_dnl (5384points) March 9th, 2010

My friend Alen and his older brother Eric came to visit me at the hospital today. Well, we just talked for a while until they had to go. Alen was very quiet only looking and smiling at me.. like he was glad to see me. Alen’s older brother Eric said to me: “I don’t know if you feel like giving a hug, but…” and almost put his arms around me, when out of nowhere a loud “EH!” came from Alen and was directed at his brother. He sounded so mad and I saw him give Eric a mad look. How would you percieve this? I felt fine today until Alen shocked me with that angry scream. I didn’t let him see that he upset me, but I was actually scared. After Alen looked at Eric, they just left. Alen seemed upset and mad and ignored me, while Eric was polite and happy and just said “bye” with a smile. Anyway… suggestions?

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Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Well what kind of an ‘Eh!’ was it – like one of anger or disgust or what? Do you think Alen likes you and thought your brother was taking advantage of the situation even though he knew this?

ducky_dnl's avatar

Eh… like he was about to cuss his brother out. Sorta like a “get away from her.”

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@ducky_dnl Well I have no idea what’s going on but maybe he thought Eric was just using you even though you’re sick (I’m sorry I don’t know why you’re in the hospital)

ducky_dnl's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Everyone says both of them like me, but I just kind of ignore it. Anyway… I’m undergoing chemo.

liminal's avatar

Is this connected to the guy you weren’t sure you wanted to feel things around?

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@ducky_dnl yes I remember now, I am sorry I forgot. It sounds like they do both like you. well there could be worse things in life, :)

ducky_dnl's avatar

@liminal Yep…

@Simone_De_Beauvoir True, but I don’t want them being mad at each other… if they are that is. :/

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@ducky_dnl well if you’re up to it you have to talk to both of ‘em – do you like either of them? then you should let the one you do like know.

ducky_dnl's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Both are nice. It’s just that I don’t want to hurt any of them. I like Alen and Eric, but it’s just ughh. I can’t decide. :/

janbb's avatar

Alen likes you, Eric knows it and Alen was warning his brother away from his likey. It’s clear to me.

Maximillian's avatar

I don’t know, but this a radical answer. Could it be perhaps that Alen assumed that you might have gotten injured, maybe, and that he was being over protective. IT probably wasn’t personal, just making sure you were ok. I get mad long after the incident when my brothers go to even touch something of value.

ducky_dnl's avatar

@Maximillian Not really.. I wasn’t having very much discomfort at all. I just felt a little sick, but nothing too bad. I wanted a hug and Alen noticed that I really wanted one, but still screamed at his brother and gave him a nasty look.

Cheeseball451's avatar

This guy probally has deep feelings for you.

cbloom8's avatar

Alen is obviously very scared and worried about you…he’s having a hard time.

Dr_C's avatar

They are “in like” with you and most likely have come to terms as to who gets to try and get you to notice them first. It’s likely that the guy who was going to hug you had let his brother “go first”. The other guy was marking his territory.

SeventhSense's avatar

Ok I don’t want to be the one to break it to you but….Eric is a vampire. Allen knows that his brother always has a bad reaction to your blood type but he’s like an addict. He just can’t pass up easy blood. But Allen has got his back. I think he gets tired of playing the bad guy but he loves his bro and the incident with the hemophiliac is still fresh in his memory.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

You need to stop hanging with children, unless you’re also a child. This all sounds so ‘junior high’.

Your_Majesty's avatar

Someone is jealous.

SeventhSense's avatar

@Doctor_D
Actually Allen is a werewolf so there’s no conflict of interest.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Sounds to me like either “EH! Be careful with her!” or “EH! Don’t get to familiar there.”

john65pennington's avatar

Are any of the people mentioned in your question gay?

cyn's avatar

Alen likes you and he’s jealous.

chamelopotamus's avatar

I would say Alen was jealous of his older brother, and doesn’t realize how Cain & Abel he is coming across as. If you’re friend Eric keeps up the affection, Alen is going to really resent him. Alen’s just not comfortable enough to show affection with the possibility of rejection.

kevbo's avatar

If it’s not that it’s that some people get freaked out by hospitals and sick people and don’t know how to act.

SeventhSense's avatar

@ducky_dnl
Actually who the fuck could possibly tell. You need to supply more of a backstory and/or your relationship to these characters.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Alen likes you and wants his brother to feel like he (Alen) should have first shot at any reciprocal attention from you.

jwilliams7777's avatar

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