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How to tell my ex and the "father" of my children that Im seeing other men?
My ex is one of my best friends. We have known each other since we were 15 (about 14 years), have been on and off again, but have decided in the last year that we were best as friends. He is not the biological father of my 2 boys, but has taken the role since the “sperm donor” is not a constant in their lives. He calls my boys his sons, and my boys call him “dad”.
Since we broke up for good (over a year ago), I have dated a few men, but quickly got out of the relationships before they became serious. I’m scared to death of my boys losing their “dad” because I dont know how he will take me being with someone else. Im about 90% sure he still helps me with the boys because he loves them, but there’s that 10% that I have to wonder if he’s not just around for them because he still wants to be with me. It’s that 10% that makes me run from new relationships. I don’t want my little boys to lose their daddy :-( They would be heartbroken!!
Now…Ive met someone, and I’m actually having problems coming up with an excuse for why I should dump him. I think I may want to take this to another level, so I know that Im going to have to discuss this with my ex, my boy’s “dad”.
So the question is not should I tell him…but how?!?! How should I respond if he says he doesnt want anything to do with the boys if i move on? (which Im sure he wont, but that is my fear). How and when should I bring this up?!?!
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