Regarding women (not men) in the family, have you heard the phrase, "She got the beauty, I got the brains" as if the two are mutually exclusive.

Further, the woman who “got the brains” always sounds rueful, like, “OK. I’m not pretty, but I’m smart. But I’ll settle for second best.” First, what was the original assumption/stereotype and where did it stem from? And why?

Second, why did you never hear those same stereotypes applied to the males in the family?

Further, it wasn’t that long ago that it was considered “unbecoming’ for a female to show intelligence, so in that type of restricted, backward society, which of the two would have been the most advantageous?