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How do you deal with a boss that acts like a child?

Asked by calipalagigirl (31points) March 20th, 2010

I worked at Executive Business Suites for 2½ years and a family took over the company last July and put the youngest daughter in charge (voila-my new boss). She is 37 but acts 14. It is a professional office, but she treats it like a playground. She’s loud, doesn’t want to learn how the company works, talks on her cell phone and is on Facebook all day. When important matters come up she shrugs and says to take a message. I have tried to confront her about this, but she blows up at me each time and then starts lying about random issues.

I figure my only options are to: A) Do my job and slowly start to take over her responsiblities. B) Keep bringing up the subject and getting my head bitten off or C) Find a new job- for which I am looking.

I am open to any feedback.

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Lightlyseared's avatar

I’d go with C find a new job.

edited after I got round to reading all the way to the bottom of the details section

cazzie's avatar

Document EVERYTHING. If you want to stay… deal with everything she’s not willing to. Show initiative. and document everything. Start getting responses from her in writing. You could have her job in not time.

If you DON*T want to stay, look for a new job immediately. You don’t want prospective new employers talking to her for a reference.

YoH's avatar

I chose Door A even though I knew it was idiotic to do so. It kept me sane and focused on the jobs that needed to get done. I was completely aware I would arrive at Door C. It lasted 3 years before Door C arrived. I quit when the outrageous behaviors escalated. After I left,I was told things started to fall apart. It took 9 months for her world to fall apart and she is now unemployed. The ideal option for me would have been to have someone to go to,but in my case that was not to be.

Fyrius's avatar

Send her to her room.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Get her a babysitter.

neverawake's avatar

Tell him if he gives you a raise you’ll get him candy.

wildflower's avatar

Depending on how much you have invested in this job and what your future opportunities are, I’d choose A or C.
Option B isn’t going to get you anywhere.

figbash's avatar

Continue to do your job and do it really well – while looking for another one.

While you’re doing this, propose new ideas for improvements, innovation, and show that you’re taking extra initiative at company or board meetings and hopefully others will see the gap between the responsibility you’re taking and what she’s not. Then, if it doesn’t get better, have something else in your back pocket, and jump.

janbb's avatar

Give her a potch in tuches – and then look for a new job!

Trillian's avatar

Get the belt.

jrpowell's avatar

I would just continue doing your job. The job that you were hired for. When the ship sinks you did what you were supposed to do. Let her take the fall. And I would start looking for other jobs too.

Just_Justine's avatar

If there is an option I’d take over her job. But I’m a hard nosed biotch. I’d also take the others advice and document “everything”. Plus I’d work very hard, be very professional in order to secure a great reference for plan “c” in case I need to leave.

ucme's avatar

Sit her on the naughty step until supernanny comes along.

FutureMemory's avatar

I would go with C also. The sooner you get out of there the better.

CMaz's avatar

A or C

B just lowers you to her level.

thriftymaid's avatar

Thankfully I can say I’ve never experienced this.

bob_'s avatar

Get her some Legos to keep her busy.

anartist's avatar

Give her a lollipop.

anartist's avatar

Now what do I have to do to see those “removed by fluther moderators” remarks? They gotta be good!

anartist's avatar

If you can afford to do it—Johnny Paycheck wrote a very nice thing to say.

RedPowerLady's avatar

I would get a new job. This does not seem like something that is going to change. And if she really is childish then she will not be open to constructive criticism. Sounds like you will just be miserable. Of course you have to remember the job market is really difficult right now so don’t quit until you get hired somewhere else. In the meantime can you play on facebook too while at work?

Of course you could always make a real life “The Office” and just film her and have a good time over it. :P

Jeruba's avatar

I wouldn’t trust this cookie not to make it look like you are to blame for problems. What’s to stop her from lying, and why wouldn’t her family take her side against you? The longer you stick around and the more threatened she feels, the more likely that you get set up to take a hit for some failure or screwup of hers.

I would make it a priority to move on while not burning any bridges until you can afford it. In this economy it could take longer than you’d like.

RedPowerLady's avatar

@Jeruba you make a good point.

YARNLADY's avatar

Working in an establishment run by ‘family’ is always difficult. As stated above, document every instance that relates to your issues, and perhaps a time will come when you can present your side. In the meantime, keep up a search for another position.

phillis's avatar

It’s a family business, so it is unlikely that anything you say, or anything you document, is going to matter one whit to whomever you deal with. They are allowing her to act this way, so it is obvious that they don’t care. I’m sorry, but this is a classic example of “it’s not waht you know, but who you know.”

If your tolerance for it is waning this rapidly, GET OUT. It isn’t good for you.

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