What's the difference between being proud and being pompous?

Actually having dignity in one’s decisions and abilities vs. making up for having no dignity in one’s decisions and abilities.

Being pompous highlights a person’s extreme arrogance!

ZEPHYRA nailed it. Pompous equals arrogance. It’s the assumption that you are somehow better than everybody else when you’ve done nothing to earn it. By contrast, it’s the lack of humility, or lack of gratitude toward another person for their efforts on your behalf.

On another topic, it is perfectly okay to feel a sense of accomplishment over a job well done, and it’s even okay to be excited about it, and want to talk about it. That is enjoying your life! The days of smearing ash on yourself and wearing sackcloths is over. Perhaps your family, though well-meaning, gave you the wrong message while raising you. Being happy or excited about something you did a good job on and yapping about it with your gal pals is NOT arrogance. A well-rounded relationship includes sharing all aspects of your life, don’t you think?

Really, judgments like this are made in the eye of the beholder, not in the action of the person. There are many people with such low self-esteem that they will assume the worst by any action of a fellow person.

There’s nothing wrong with being proud of yourself and your accomplishments but in terms of talking about them, a little goes a long way. Other people have accomplished things too. And the Birthday song? I hate that too. It makes me feel very uncomfortable. It’s not a pathology though.

You can be proud while keeping your mouth shut.

“Tooting your on horn” only singnifies to others that your are pompous. Modisty is the key. Like someone here said…Keep it to yourself.

To me pompous means to be proud with no good reason.

Confidence needs no boasting.