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Would a relationship between a Hobby man and Outgoing Woman work?

Asked by joscketSeper (323points) March 21st, 2010

I would say no. And i’m pretty sure that’s true.

Because I’m a quiet guy, introverted, shy who prefers hobbies at home. I’ve met some women at work and i’ve met Asian foreign girls too, who travel soo much. who travel to many countries and they love that.

I really don’t like travel, don’t like going to visit places all the time, i like to stay at home and make stuff.

But if i had a gf who just loved to travel , i think that would be hard for her if i didn’t want to go anywhere.

male in my 30’s, just thinking about stuff. dont have a gf yet

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Likeradar's avatar

Get to know people as individuals. No woman is only “outgoing woman” or “foreign girl.” You’re thinking about excluding a whole lot of women from your dating pool based on a singe subset of their personality.

and what is with your apparent Asian fetish?

iluvyou's avatar

I’m very interested as to whether you are asian yourself??

lillycoyote's avatar

Why wouldn’t it work? Some of the best relationships are between people who complement each other rather than match each other. Don’t count out a relationship just one the grounds that you and the other person may have different likes, styles and personalities. You have to deal with each person as an individual, as @Likeradar said.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

As long as She is your main hobby, everything will work out just fine.

lilikoi's avatar

You’ve just described me and my bf. It works for us. I wish he’d travel more. He wishes I’d travel less. Compromise. It doesn’t hurt that I also have a ton of hobbies, many of which we share in common.

Coloma's avatar

Depends, as always on a lot of things, especially good communication and comprimise.

I am an outgoing woman and I ended a relationship last year with an introverted type.

I enjoy space and solitude as well, but he was waaay too reserved and unsocial for my energy.

I knew when he declined to attend a big live music bash I threw in the summer that it wasn’t going to be a blend. Hostessing my own party and dancing alone?
Not a match!

I have now decided that I won’t date highly introverted types…oil & water.

joscketSeper's avatar

exactly coloma. that’s my point

Coloma's avatar

Yes, and of course it’s a two way street..I was too much for him as well. haha

goldfishchaser's avatar

ive seen it work out. people sumtimes balance each other. the question is are you good at communicating with this person and are you understanding of each others needs as well as boundaries. its all about respect. and sumtimes the differences help keep the excitement going.

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