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Do you have a friend who is dating your ex?

Asked by njnyjobs (7592points) March 25th, 2010

Was it your friend’s conscious decision/action?
Did your friend ask for approval?
Has it severed your friendly relations?
How do you feel about it?

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9 Answers

Captain_Fantasy's avatar

That’s a no-no in the man-handbook. Plenty of women out there. Too many to warrant causing drama between friends.

meagan's avatar

Haha. I’ve done it (a few times). Oops!

No biggie, though. Men aren’t property. I don’t stay with a dramatic crowd. There weren’t any kind of weird feelings. I didn’t ask my friend permission to do this. I didn’t particularly care, either. And it didn’t change the friendship.

Lothloriengaladriel's avatar

this may sound sort of confusing but boyfriend’s sister’s ex is dating one her cousins now, That cousin did not ask for approval to date her ex, and the family basically disowned her.

KatieDiez's avatar

When I told my best friend that me and my ex broke up she got with him a few weeks later. She tried to hide it from me but when I found out what was going on I stopped talking to her. She obviusly chose him over me.

wonderingwhy's avatar

Yes.
Yes.
No.
No, but we don’t really get together much anymore so maybe that’s kind of cheating in answering this question. But that’s from having taken different paths in life and finding different interests, not from him and my ex dating. I still call him a friend without hesitation and would be there at the drop of a hat if needed. As to my ex, she and I are still very close and dear friends. We manage to get together semi-regularly and neither of our S/O’s, to my knowledge, mind.
It’s all good. I hope the best for them. There were concrete reasons she and I didn’t work out, they’re both good people in my eyes and deserve to be happy. If they can manage it together great, if not that’s ok too, I’ll still be here for both of them.

Just as an aside, I think two of the central reasons it works for me is I really just don’t do drama (life’s too short and there’s too much out there, I’d rather enjoy it than get worked up over it) and I understand fully and agree with why she and I don’t click that closely over the long term.

Just_Justine's avatar

I think having been around the gay and lesbian subculture and having had relationships with females, I would have to say yes I have. I really don’t mind it and of course wish them happiness.

phil196662's avatar

The wife and I have her Ex and his girl over several times a year, no problem but the gf gets jealous when him and the wife kiss when they show up!

deni's avatar

Kind of. I was friends with her at the time we broke up, but not close friends where we’d hang out just the two of us. They go together way better than we ever did, and I get along with her really well now. They just came to visit and stay with me for a week last month and it was not awkward at all, in fact it was really fun. I am happy for them. It feels good.

Chongalicious's avatar

I’ve dated a friend’s ex before, but I never found out it was the same guy until over a year after I broke up with him lol
My friend who he went out with first laughed up a storm at the idea of it!

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