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erichw1504's avatar

Maturity, confidence, leadership abilities, and a receding hairline.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Some people never grown up. Some people grow up too soon. A man is when a man feels he is no longer a boy – a trauma, a responsibility, a true love…all of these can open one’s eyes. I believe comfort within one’s body and with one’s mind and a certain clarity about the world and your goals is what makes one an adult, separate from their younger counterparts. why, did you think I’d change my answer according to gender? ~

ucme's avatar

A big strong pair of kahuna’s & knowing when & where to use them.

meagan's avatar

I honestly have no clue.. I think most men want to be coddled like boys forever, though.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Men do what’s best for others, even at the expense of their own suffering. Boys do what’s best for themselves, even at the expense of others suffering.

Just_Justine's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir lmao what more could I expect from you roaring with laughter

Mr_A's avatar

Taking responsibility for your actions.

Just_Justine's avatar

@ucme such wisdom lmao

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Men have a direction and a plan for their lives. It benefits all around them.

Boys have no direction and couldn’t dream of a plan beyond the night. It butchers all around them.

stump's avatar

A boy is preparing for life. A man makes life happen.

Trillian's avatar

Maturity and the undertaking of a responsible life with accountability and rationality.

davidk's avatar

Two words: commitment and responsibility.

gailcalled's avatar

Penis jokes, poop jokes, pee jokes, boob jokes and pubic hair jokes.

Cruiser's avatar

Aside from body stature the only thing I can think of would be virginity. There are a lot of men who act like boys and are even big babies about things and I know some kids who are quite manly about matters.

FutureMemory's avatar

Being more concerned about the welfare of your loved ones than the fulfillment of your own selfish desires.

Pandora's avatar

Responsible, honest, and able to communicate in an adult fashion without drama.

Fenris's avatar

The emotional strength and maturity to harbor compassion, tolerance, and peace. There are few adults.

ragingloli's avatar

Unfortunately, only an altar.

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

The ability to grow a beard.

Blackberry's avatar


RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Men just do “it”. Boys don’t know what “it” is.

Just_Justine's avatar

@Blackberry who the boys or the men loll.

njnyjobs's avatar

The price of their toys.

erichw1504's avatar

If there was a button for you to pick your favorite answer to a question I would be giving the lurve to @njnyjobs.

Just_Justine's avatar

I must say I like boys and I like men. When I say boys I mean “legal age” do let’s clarify, very important side note that!

Plus I am generalizing, second side note!

I love boys because they are so forthcoming and unafraid to show their feelings, perhaps less baggage. Their adoration is adorable and they just seem so beautifully naive. Their energy is great; their simple lives a pleasure to behold.

I like men because they hold me tight and tell me everything will be all right. I love their insight born of experience. The knowledge that women are special because they have loved and lost. I love the wisdom of a man and I love the innocent vulnerability of the “boy”. I think both have their good points 

MrsDufresne's avatar

Respect, honesty, and communication skills.

gailcalled's avatar

Clean underwear?

ragingloli's avatar

When I say boys I mean “legal age”
In what country? Mexico?

BoBo1946's avatar

MEN 101 Combating Stupidity

MEN 102 You Too Can Do Housework

MEN 103 PMS- Learn When To Keep Your Mouth Shut

MEN 104 We Do Not Want Sleazy Underthings For Christmas

Winter Schedule:

MEN 110 Wonderful Laundry Techniques

MEN 111 Understanding The Female Response To Getting In At 4AM

MEN 112 Parenting: It Doesn’t End With Conception

MEN 113 Get A Life, Learn To Cook

Spring Schedule:

MEN 120 How NOT To Act Like An Asshole When You’re Wrong

MEN 121 Understanding Your Incompetence

MEN 122 YOU, The Weaker Sex

MEN 123 Reasons To Give Flowers

SECOND YEAR Fall Schedule:

SEX 101 You CAN Fall Asleep Without It

SEX 102 Morning Dilemma: If It’s Awake, Take A Shower

MEN 201 How To Stay Awake After Sex

MEN 202 How To Put The Toilet Seat Down

Winter Schedule:

MEN 210 The Remote Control: Overcoming Your Dependency

MEN 211 How Not To Act Younger Than Your Children

MEN 212 You Too, Can Be A Designated Driver

MEN 213 Honest – You Don’t Look Like Tom Cruise – Especially Naked

Spring Schedule:

MEN 220 Omitting @#%~&*! From Your Vocabulary

MEN 221 Fluffing The Blanket After Farting Is Not Necessary

MEN 222 Real Men Ask For Directions

MEN 223 Thirty Minutes Of Begging Is Not Considered Foreplay

FutureMemory's avatar

@Just_Justine Are you saying those qualities don’t overlap?

wundayatta's avatar

Men like green and blue. Boys like burnt umber.
Men drive Toyotas. Boys don’t.
Men smoke cigars, boys smoke oregano.
Men chew with their mouths closed, boys swallow.
Men prefer blonds. Boys really don’t care.
Men can keep a secret. Boys can keep a secret.
Men have a weather eye, boys eye the weather.
Men smell strong. Boys smell like girls.

I could go on, but…. ;-)

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@wundayatta Men smell strong, boys smell like girls – yeah, please don’t go on.

njnyjobs's avatar

@wundayatta men drive Toyotas??? . . . not if they can help it!
Boys wouldn’t care what they drive as long as they got something to drive.

Sophief's avatar

Men can, boys can’t.

escapedone7's avatar

@BoBo1946 You have earned your PhD in manhood!!!! Are you single? ***wink****

BoBo1946's avatar

@escapedone7 loll..—shhhh—don’t tell anyone!

LeotCol's avatar

The women

BoBo1946's avatar

@escapedone7 yes but, got a lot of miles on me!

Just_Justine's avatar

@escapedone7 go girl go…. floozy loll

escapedone7's avatar

giggles. If I said I had a lot of miles on me, it would probably be misconstrued. Or would it be? Omg. I’m shutting up.

@BoBo1946 age is just a number, and you’re a real man!

Just_Justine's avatar

peering @BoBo1946 to check if he is a real man

Ron_C's avatar

@BoBo1946 sounds like a challenging course. I would add “Accepting challenges that don’t involve beer”. Great answer.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

A very thin,alomost invisible line!

PacificToast's avatar

Maturity mostly. And location of hairline.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Same as for females, the self respect and that to others to follow through on things stated, not shirk responsibility and address things as they come, even painful things.

Pandora's avatar

@BoBo1946 LMAO, That was amazing. I love 2nd year 102. Where can guys take these courses. I know a few who can benefit. Still laughing. Awesome. :)))

Pandora's avatar

Please someone tell me how I can cut and paste bobos answer. I’ve tried two different ways and it won’t give me the option to copy unless I do the entire page. Is it possible to link this to someone who isn’t on fluther?

BoBo1946's avatar

Now I’m a man…once was not! “Young and dumb!” Age allows you to see your mistakes. So many regrets, but yesterday is gone! Only can do better today. Today is the best day of my life.

Pandora's avatar

@BoBo1946 You should write a book before all that knowledge is gone. Only don’t make it too expensive being I have to buy a few copies for quite a few people. LOL

BoBo1946's avatar

@Pandora loll..some, like myself MsP, learn the hard way

FutureMemory's avatar

@Pandora Please someone tell me how I can cut and paste bobos answer. I’ve tried two different ways and it won’t give me the option to copy unless I do the entire page.

Left click at the beginning of what you want to copy.
While holding down the left mouse button, highlight the text you want to cut.
Let go of the left mouse button, hold down the Control key and press the C key.
Now place your mouse wherever it is you want to paste the text.
Hold down the Control button again and press the V key.

@Pandora Is it possible to link this to someone who isn’t on fluther?

Using the same method described above, highlight the URL address
(in this case it’s
Cut it (Control C).
Place your mouse wherever it is you want to paste the link.
Paste it (Control V).

pearls's avatar


slick44's avatar

Big boy toys

Neizvestnaya's avatar

That’s a great list! I just copied and saved for some laughs later on, thanks.

BoBo1946's avatar

@Neizvestnaya and a lot of truth to it….wish I had been that wise when i was a young guy! but, we live and learn!

BTW, my son is everything i was not…great kid! My only child!

Violet's avatar

Responsibility and maturity

wundayatta's avatar

Since you asked…
Men call themselves Simone, and boys call themselves Jean-Paul
Men read comic books and boys read À la recherche du temps perdu
Men smell like crap and boys push up daisies
Men do pushups and boys cry in their beer
Men play beer pong and boys light their beards on fire

Get it now? ;-)

Pandora's avatar

@FutureMemory Did that the first time and it didn’t work. Don’t know why it worked the second time. I did something wrong I guesss. Thanks for your answer.

Boombip's avatar

1)When you’ve stood up to someone because you believe they’re wrong.
2)When you’ve been willing to punch them for what they’ve said.

Violet's avatar

@Boombip I did that in 6th grade..

BoBo1946's avatar

@pearls how much ! Jumbo hotdog…or the footlong?

pearls's avatar

@BoBo1946 How about a jumbo footlong?

JeffVader's avatar

Its a matter of inches!

BoBo1946's avatar

@JeffVader lmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. What separates the men from the boys is this:

Men cowboy up and get the job done.
Boys whine and expect someone else to fix the problem.

Men get angry about the time it takes a thick log to catch fire.
Boys get mad a quick as the fuse of a firecracker burns.

A man will see that his partner is as happy in bed as he was.
Boys care just so long as she will stay around so they can get theirs.

Men will seek out 8 ways to help before seeking 2 ways to beg off.
Boys will beg off 9 times and think about how to get out of it 1 time.

Men a relationship just happens to have sex in it.
Boys think sex is that the relationship is about.

Men think it out.
Boys just react with little thinking.

Men have knowledge and wisdom.
Boys have cluelessness and arrogance.

That is just a few of the things that separate the men from the boys.

warwickmcghee's avatar

the hairs on your chest

gailcalled's avatar

Long trews. And not using nonsensical and meaningless saws over and over.


@BoBo1946 That is sexist. Replace the word “men” in your course list with the word “women”. You’d get such an earful you wished you never stepped out! Lol.

Rufus_T_Firefly's avatar

@BoBo1946 – I too thought the male perspective needed adequate representation.

WOMEN 101 Control Those Pesky Mood Swings, Not Your Husband

WOMEN 102 Killing Spiders Or You Too Can Learn To Do Yardwork and Automobile Maintenance

WOMEN 103 PMS – The Difference Between Natural, Hormonal and Insane

WOMEN 104 No Prudes Allowed


WOMEN 110 Killing Male Fantasies With Estrogen Imbalances

WOMEN 111 Understanding Why Shoe Shopping Isn’t Fun For Men

WOMEN 112 Why Blow Jobs And Kinky Sex Shouldn’t End After Marriage

WOMEN 113 Accepting Life And Learning To Cook What Men Like To Eat


WOMEN 120 How NOT To Act Like You’re Always Right

WOMEN 121 Understanding Your Mental Inconsistencies

WOMEN 122 Remaining Attractive After Marriage

WOMEN 123 Reasons To Give Head For No Reason


SEX 101 Sex – It’s Not Just For Diamonds Anymore

SEX 102 The Morning Wood Dilemma: If You Really Care About Wanting Him To Be Happy, Mornings Are The Best Time To Show It

WOMEN 201 Men Like Being Touched Too

WOMEN 202 How To Put The Toilet Seat Down When You Pee


WOMEN 210 Remote Controls: If Women Came With One, The Mute And Blow Job Buttons Would Be Completely Worn Out

WOMEN 211 How Not To Ignore Your Husband’s Sexual Needs

WOMEN 212 How To Be A Good Passenger – (a.k.a., Learning How To Accurately Read A Map)

WOMEN 213 Honest – You’ll Never Look Like Aishwarya Rai Or Zoe Saldana – Except In Your Man’s Fantasies


WOMEN 220 Omitting “Fine” From Your Vocabulary When Things Obviously Aren’t

WOMEN 221 Farting Is Necessary Or People Would Explode

WOMEN 222 Real Men Have Thoroughly Read The Map, Understood It And Have Planned Out The Optimal Route – Asking For Directions Is A Last Resort

WOMEN 223 Bitching And Whining Is NEVER Attractive

gailcalled's avatar

@Rufus_T_Firefly: Is that original work? If so, well done.

Rufus_T_Firefly's avatar

@gailcalled – No, sorry, I just used the same basic format provided in @BoBo1946‘s earlier post. I just tweaked them a bit, but thanks anyway. I’m glad you could appreciate it.

BoBo1946's avatar

@MRSHINYSHOES oh no..not going there…my life means too much! loll


@BoBo1946 Ahh, you have seen the light my friend! Lol. (wink)

Zyx's avatar

Facial hair and a firm dislike of women’s nonsense.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Hard experience.

Aster's avatar

Determination. Strength of character. Having the courage to raise children with lots of love and affection but never fearing to discipline.
When the going gets tough, real men don’t give up. They find solutions. They follow through.
Determination to stand up for what’s right and to fight for it. And at the same time being humble and showing respect for authority and other people in general.

flutherother's avatar

Inside every real man there is a little boy trying to get out.

Smashley's avatar

It can be called many things:
Ambition, reliability, character, determination, courage, motivation, honesty, maturity…

Of course, they all mean the same thing: BALLS

Justice13's avatar

One word: Hesitation.


Men have sausages and walnuts. Boys have little weenies and peanuts. Lol.

mindful's avatar

Men account themselves for their actions and live in a respectful, accountable fashion towards the world. They have menaning in thier lives and are responsible towards themselves, loved one and society. Men conquer obstacles and challenges and deliver results. Boys run around breaking things and having “fun”.

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

Men don’t leave when the going gets rough.

Boys do.

BeccaBoo's avatar


markylit's avatar

Owning up and taking responsibility.

andrewmagnum's avatar

You grow up when you learn to invest more time in yourself so that you migth grow.
Learning when to say NO and to quit..I never follow my advice but i hope this helps.

chokolatcake's avatar

a real man knows how to treat and keep a good woman.

noraasnave's avatar

Self awareness has been a quintessential key in being a man personally.

All the normal answers have flowed out of this. Understanding oneself and coming to terms with oneself provides confidence, value, grace, insight, persistence, kindness, passion, instinct, rigidity, firmness, balance.

How does one develop self-awareness? Commit to experience oneself by experiencing life! Secondhand knowledge from books and movies only gets one so far.

Chase the wrong dreams hard and far, realize they are wrong, and start a path toward chasing the right ones.

A true man, one that embodies every serious answer here, is one that has successfully melded being a boy and a man…has balanced out both aspects/facets of himself…and is both a boy and a man, or only one when it is appropriate.

fredTOG's avatar

Well in Greece I think its a crowbar that separates them.

Inspired_2write's avatar

Boys get an allowance.
Men earn it .

chinchin31's avatar

Real men don’t have commitment issues. Don’t drink themselves silly. Don’t treat women as objects to be conquered. Have focus in life. Think about the future and just don’t live for the moment.

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