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How to flirt with this guy at the bus stop?

Asked by TheOnlyException (2182points) March 28th, 2010

Wow that sounds lame..
I take the bus to and from sixth form college everyday and there is this one guy at the bus stop on the way back home almost every day. I smile at him sometimes upon seeing him, out of recognition, and he smiles back, but we’ve never really talked. I know he is from the all boys sixth form college nearby as last year he wore the uniform for the lower school, so im assuming he moved up into the sixth form college.
Anyway, besides my quasi-stalking of him, how do i initiate a conversation. Please do not suggest anything stupid like winking or licking my lips or whatever other rubbish. I don’t want to chat him up necessarily, just have a run of the mill intelligent conversation with him while waiting for the bus.

My friends suggested maybe i accidentally-on-purpose drop an item to see if he helps me pick it up and start a conversation by saying “oh glad it didnt break” or whatever.
But to be honest this sounds kind of dumb. I am not a very forward person and he seems kind of shy too.
How should I go about it so I dont look weird?

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DrBill's avatar

Just say “Hi”,

Guys are easy

JeanPaulSartre's avatar

How about “Hi, I see you all the time, I’m [your name]. What’s yours?”
”[his name]”
Then go from there… ask about what he’s studying, etc… try to focus questions on him, while providing connections in your own life… figure out what really interests him and roll with it.
Unless he’s most interested in shooting animals or something… then maybe move on.

PacificToast's avatar

Ask his name, let it go from there.

HungryGuy's avatar

I’ve made a lot of friends at train stations, bus stops, and on trains and buses. As other’s have said, don’t force it. Just say “hi” and start talking.

janbb's avatar

@TheOnlyException How many balls are you trying to have up in the air at once? :-)

The_Idler's avatar

When the bus is late, as usual, talk about how privatization and incentivization, borne out of Thatcher’s and Blair’s monetarism, have ruined our public services and will ultimately ruin our country.

EDIT: That is, when the bus doesn’t turn up, throw a hand in the air and shout “Money-grabbing bastards! You call this a service!?”

whatthefluther's avatar

Good suggestions above. Here’s another:
Today: hello….do you think the bus will be on time today?
Tomorrow: hello again…..well, do you think the bus will be on time today?
Some day: hello again…..what names do you like for naming our children?
Or something like that, considering there is some progression each day in conversation and in the relationship. Yes, he is probably shy. Take some initiative and “break the ice”. Who knows, someday the two of you may laugh over the whole thing as you share the story with your grandchildren.
Much lurve. See ya….Gary/wtf

TheOnlyException's avatar

@janbb oh I am quite the player! haha, this guy is a lot less of a question mark than the one from some of my earlier questions. a nice clean slate to work on.
and @The_Idler i might just do that hahaha see if he scares easily :P

janbb's avatar

@TheOnlyException Have fun with it! You only live once.

TheOnlyException's avatar

@whatthefluther LOL at “what names do you like for naming our children?” ahahah i am so out of it right now I almost took that into account as an actual suggestion! damn this polluted air, it is seeping into my brain! But drawing from your ideas maybe something like ‘have you been waiting long?’ is enough to break the ice.

Maybe i should just ask him what happened to the overweight polar bear…

rpm_pseud0name's avatar

Ask him where is headed (what classes & such). Try not to start the conversation with a small talk ice breaker. Because from there, it’s just going to be a bunch of awkward pauses and fake laughes. Start with something that is the opener to a much deeper conversation. “What class you going to?...Oh yea?..What do you plan to do with that?...” This cause & effect line of questioning will give you a better understanding about who he is (because maybe you might not like who he is). Don’t be afraid to start with big questions. Of course start with greetings & introductions, but let that be it for small talk. Don’t get buried in questions about weather & bus station schedules. Most importantly, be qenuinely interested in what he is saying. We know when you aren’t paying attention.

TheOnlyException's avatar

@rpmpseudonym you have a point there. anything is better than pointless small talk, and then i can know if he is worth my time. :) thank you

Pretty_Lilly's avatar

Flashing always works for me !!

marinelife's avatar

Ask him if he’s familiar with this song.

No, seriously, just mention that you remembered seeing him last year and ask if he is in sixth form.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

Sometimes the old lines work very well to establish that you’re interested, and not just complaining about the weather, the bus, the other passengers, etc.

“What’s a nice guy like you doing in a place like this?”
“Come here often?”
“We can’t go on meeting like this.”

PandoraBoxx's avatar

“Hi, I’m ____. Are you still going to _____? Mind if I sit next to you?”

Guys are not really that complicated.

PhillyCheese's avatar

Don’t beat around the bush. Just say “hi, how’s it going”, and the convo will build from there. No need for any gimmicks like “where are u going” or “did the bus come yet?”.
If the seat next to him is free, then sit next to him. Be bold, he’ll appreciate it

Zaku's avatar

I’d do what JeanPaulSartre (the flutherite above) suggested.

Or you could keep playing that Hollies song in your MP3 player and looking at him. ;-)

JeanPaulSartre's avatar

Haha @Zaku I was just gonna post the lyrics!
“Bus stop, wet day, she’s there I say
Please share my umbrella
Bus stop, bus go, she stays love grows
Under my umbrella
All that summer we enjoyed it
Wind and rain and shine
That umbrella we employed it
By August she was mine”

HungryGuy's avatar


“Taxis are red,
Buses are blue,
latte is sweet,
and so are you.”

snowberry's avatar

And whatever questions you ask, make sure they don’t have yes and no answers.

neverawake's avatar

He probably already has a girlfriend.

marinelife's avatar

@neverawake Thanks for being a buzzkill.

wundayatta's avatar

Why beat it around the bush? Just hand the guy a 20 and tell him if he flirts with you, there’ll be another when you get off the bus.

thriftymaid's avatar

You are in college but I don’t know your age. I would think by now you would be mature enough to simply say hello to someone and start a conversation. Don’t think of it as flirting; just be friendly.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

@wundayatta 20 quid? Are you outta your bloody mind!?

TheOnlyException's avatar

@wundayatta LOOL NO HAHAHA god all these answers are killing my sides ahah

@marinelife and @Zaku LOL ahhaha brilliant! great now I’m going to have that song in my head everytime i see him

Thanks for all your answers

Zaku's avatar

@CyanoticWasp Maybe wundyatta meant a 20p coin.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

@TheOnlyException pulling an idea from another thread here… you could always open a Bible to a random page and start reading to him very loudly…

I don’t know if that would classify as “flirting”, but it’s closer to that than offering cash would be.

The_Idler's avatar

Evangelicalism is a good way to piss off a Brit.
Try conning him out of his most useful possessions at the same time, and he’ll be like,
“What is this, payback?”

TheOnlyException's avatar

lol at @CyanoticWasp and @The_Idler
haha I’m not trying to piss him off, but would be a good test of character for him, might just follow through on those ideas…. Unless it turns out he’s on a similar site asking a similar question getting similar answers making similar decisions :-i
if he also turns up with a bible I’m pointing fingers in this direction.

wundayatta's avatar

@CyanoticWasp Do you think that’s too much….. or too little?

I know if a girl on the bus wanted to flirt with me, I’d charge her at least $100. A guy has to have standards, you know.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

@wundayatta shoot, if you pay me $50, I’ll let you flirt with me.

No hands, though. I know guys in Boston: for $50 they’ll break your leg. For $25, they’ll break both legs.

TheOnlyException's avatar

Hell if i was feeling particularly big headed would probably get you to pay ME to so much as show interest ;) hahaha

a bit more and it would border on a certain illegal profession..

The_Idler's avatar

it’s only illegal to solicit in the UK, and, um, you mentioned it!

TheOnlyException's avatar

hahaha damn i live in the UK

mattbrowne's avatar

A joke perhaps?

Bob Rubin once said: Condoms aren’t completely safe. A friend of mine was wearing one and got hit by a bus.

TheOnlyException's avatar


wundayatta's avatar

@CyanoticWasp Only $50? Where’s your bus stop?
@CyanoticWasp I know you know this is a joke, but there are others out there who don’t.

Just kidding

CyanoticWasp's avatar

@wundayatta I didn’t know it was a joke! I was planning on what I could do with the cash…

wundayatta's avatar

Well, if that’s all it takes to make you fantasize, let me know your address and I’ll send you a fifty.

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