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How would you feel about a friend dating one of your parents?

Asked by hug_of_war (10725points) March 31st, 2010

Assume everyone is of legal age to be in a sexual relationship and your parents are divorced or widowed. Would you forbid them from being together if they were attracted to each other?

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ubersiren's avatar

It would be especially weird for me since all of my friends are either married or gay. But if the really wanted to be together, I’d tolerate it, I wouldn’t love it..

j0ey's avatar

I must say I would be a little disturbed… one wants one of their friends banging their mum.

JeffVader's avatar

Oh heavens-above, what a thing to have to consider. Well, I wouldn’t forbid it, after-all I’d have no-way to enforce this…. but it would be sooo creepy!

j0ey's avatar

….and saying that, no one wants to have their best friend talk about how good your Dad is in bed, and then be like “ohhh thats right, hes your dad…sorry”


JeffVader's avatar

@j0ey “one of their friends banging their mum”..... well, I think it’s about time to go scratch my eyes out now!

j0ey's avatar

@JeffVader hahahahahahahhahaha

JeffVader's avatar

@j0ey Hehehe….. thats just soooooo wrong girl!

j0ey's avatar

@JeffVader its just the reality of the situation…

JeffVader's avatar

@j0ey & you just had to paint it in such vivid colours….... Well, I think that bottle of JD in my kitchen will be taking a hammering tonight :)

janbb's avatar

Weird idea, but not mine to control. They might not remain such a close friend, though.

j0ey's avatar

hahaha dont turn to the bottle @JeffVader…..only do that if you find out its actually happening.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I would have to

Cruiser's avatar

I would laugh my ass off that any of my friends would date anyone that old and if they did I would seriously beat on their head to try and knock some sense into them.

JeffVader's avatar

@j0ey Still, better that than….... killing catering with a thought! ;)

j0ey's avatar

@JeffVader hahahaha stop making me laugh…I’m trying to study

whyigottajoin's avatar

I’d still feel FRIKKIN WEIRD about it =S

RandomMrAdam's avatar

@hug_of_war Is this hypothetical? Or is this an actual situation that you are facing? I would think that a good friend would not even get involved with another friend’s parent. There are plenty of other dating prospects out there that won’t ruin a friendship (potentially)—Or I would only find it appropriate if he/she asked for your permission first and got your approval.

whyigottajoin's avatar

Can we say fuck or fucking here on fluther? We can can’t we? O_o! Why am I censoring myself lol.

JeffVader's avatar

@whyigottajoin Pretty sure we can….. Dr Reed.

j0ey's avatar

@whyigottajoin let the colourful language begin!!!

Exhausted's avatar

Hey, I’m all about people living their lives, regardless of their relationship to me. I don’t see the point in trying to direct other peoples lives because of my desires. I can only control me and my behavior, so they can do as they please and I will do what works best for me.

iphigeneia's avatar

The thought that they could one day be considered my parent instead of my friend… that’s just not on. They could take any other 50-something-year-old they wanted, but not my mum or dad.

RandomMrAdam's avatar

@iphigeneia I agree. If it was a close friend, this wouldn’t even be a possibility (I would think) Almost sounds like a spiteful act to do something like this.

j0ey's avatar

@Exhausted… your saying you would be ok with a friend banging your mum? you would have NO ill feelings toward the situation even if you didn’t verbalize them??

rahm_sahriv's avatar

I wouldn’t forbid. It isn’t my concern what my parent or friend does in the bedroom providing they are of legal age (and leave animals out of it :P).

Not saying it wouldn’t be awkward for me personally, but that is my problem to get over, not theirs.

stump's avatar

I think I would lose in that case. I don’t think I would be comfortable being around them. It would be sad, but that often happens when people become couples. In this case it would just be a little creepier.

Trillian's avatar

Too late for the bucket. Bring the mop.

janbb's avatar

@whyigottajoin You just did, and yes, you can.

Exhausted's avatar

@j0ey I would have to say yes I would have to accept it, whether I approved or not. There are more ways to live your life that I can possibly fathom. Each person has a right to live their life the way they choose regardless of how I feel about it. Who am I to expect anyone to live their life in a manner that is best for me? I don’t have to like it, but I have to accept it. If it were my parent and a good friend, to resist or attempt to persuade them to do otherwise would mean I would lose my parent and my friend. I would rather live in an environment that is peaceful and serene than struggle against something I have no right to change.

ThrallKiller's avatar

Eeewwww. Just eewwwww.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Any one of my friends would be discouraged from dating either of my parents but not due to age issues. Our family has a history of mixing it up when it comes to age differences and multiple spouses, that’s been the least of any problems.

CMaz's avatar

Well I am 45. My parents are 76.

It would be creepy, but more power to them.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I don’t know anyone who’d in my circle that would tolerate my mom’s beliefs so it’s really unlikely but if it happened then it’s fine by me.

Scooby's avatar

I’d feel sorry for them! My Mams quite a handful :-/

ucme's avatar

By definition i’d be forced to call him a Mother fucker.

Just_Justine's avatar

Well I wouldn’t mind at all. I wouldn’t forbid it either, each to their own life I say.

cak's avatar

True and really weird story. My father passed away last January. One of my friends approached my mother and asked her if she would be interested in going to dinner. I didn’t know until after the fact, when my mother slipped and told me – after two glasses of wine. She thought it was sweet, but declined. She isn’t even interested in dating and it wouldn’t have been him, if she was! I was a bit floored, and wondered why he was dodging calls about an upcoming event at my mother’s house. Guess I have my answer, now!

j0ey's avatar

@Exhausted I was just drawing attention to the fact the question was “how would you feel if….”.....not “how would you react if….”

aprilsimnel's avatar

Now, it really wouldn’t matter. 20 years ago would’ve been another story, and I would’ve been very upset. The age difference would have made it a much bigger deal to me.

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