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What was or will be your wedding like?

Asked by shpadoinkle_sue (7188points) April 2nd, 2010

There’s that old thing that little girls dream about their weddings. I wasn’t so much like that growing up. But I have these big pearl earrings that I’ve never worn and probably won’t unless it’s something really fancy, like my wedding.

It got me wondering. What were other fluthers weddings like? If you’ve not had one yet, what would it be like?

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TexasDude's avatar

I’m never getting married. I will have a harem of maids who I will rotate out as they reach the age of 30 and I continue my march into feeble and aged lechery.

prolificus's avatar

Haven’t had the ceremony yet… hopefully someday.. but my dream wedding is on a beach, while I’m barefoot and wearing a simple, off-white pantsuit. Three-piece acoustic / string musicians playing Vivaldi. The sun is setting and the weather is mildly warm. There’s more along these lines, but this is the basic image.

rangerr's avatar

I want a lightsaber tunnel. You know, like the swords…

El_Cadejo's avatar

Alice in wonderland themed wedding.

rangerr's avatar

@uberbatman With a tea party reception?

Just_Justine's avatar

I am not fond of weddings in that people spend too much on them. But I hear your question so in the spirit of that I will keep my (second) wedding very small. It will only have a few close friends all I know is that I want to wear scarlet my dress will be a long plain scarlet dress. I wont have bridesmaids I don’t see the point in them, but I would have a person of honour which may be my best gay guy friend. I think it will be more of a small intimate party finished off with loud electronica music and dancing.

DominicX's avatar

Hopefully by the time I want to get married, it will be legal for me to do so here in California. Otherwise I’m going to have to go to some other not as cool state to do it…either that or Spain.

I never thought much about weddings as a kid, but I do know that I want ample amounts of classical music and flowers. :)

davidbetterman's avatar

It was a Native American ceremony at the newly established Shawnee Sacred Grounds in Fort Frederick, Maryland.
The bride wore a beautiful wedding gown (regalia) made of deerskin (with tassels), bangles and janglers while the groom was dressed only in a white loincloth made of the softest deerskin, a medicine man necklace and knee-high moccasins made of white deerskin with soles made from Buffalo hide.

jeanmay's avatar

I wanted a private wedding, and I got one. Only my close family attended, all eight of them. My husband’s family would have also been there, but they couldn’t make it due to certain obstacles, one of which being the Atlantic ocean.

We got married in England, in a registry office, one month before the birth of our first son (he he). My dad and his wife were witnesses, and my mum and her husband were ring bearers. I wore hot pink, silk. Although we had ordered a lovely corsage for my husband, I ended up having to fashion him one from my bouquet of roses as I neither of us remembered to bring it.

When we booked the registry office we asked them if we could bring our own music, as I wanted to walk down the aisle to ‘Born to Run’ by Bruce Springsteen. They told us it wasn’t possible, however when we turned up the day of the wedding the first thing they asked us was if we had brought any music we wanted playing, grr! Instead I got an incredibly cheesy version of the classic Wedding March, which had us all in such fits of laughter that we could barely get the vows out!

You can write your own vows for registry office ceremony, or you can just do the standard ‘Do you take etc’. We hadn’t really discussed it, but a few days before the wedding my husband-to-be commented to a group of friends that he had already got his vows written and memorised. I hadn’t even thought about mine so that night I locked myself away and frantically scribbled something down. It wasn’t until the actual wedding day that my husband admitted he had been joking, and he hadn’t really written anything! I still read mine to him though, although I did feel like a right plonker doing so.

After the ceremony we went to a local country pub, where my little brother read a speech and beautiful poem he had written for the occasion. We all cried. My brother’s girlfriend then read a message from my husband’s brother, and we all cried again. I spoke to my new mother-in-law on the phone (whom I had never met). She said, ‘Hullo Mrs. Scott’, and I said ‘Hello Mrs. Scott’ back to her, then we all cried some more.

Later we went to a quiet hotel located amongst rolling green hills, which my step-mother had booked for us. We had no idea what to expect, and on the way there, thinking it would be a fairly modest affair, we joked about having tea on our private terrace. As it turned out we did have our own terrace with views out over the valley. We drank tea and watched a most beautiful sunset. I can honestly say it was the best wedding I’ve ever been to. We had a three course meal for lunch and dinner.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

I can’t even imagine what my wedding might be like, because I seriously wonder if I’ll ever get married at all.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

We got married in front of a judge and two witnesses in a small courthouse in North Dakota.
It was simple and suited us just fine!

DarkScribe's avatar

We had a ceremony in a beautiful eighteenth century country chapel – with a cleric – not a “celebrant” ( a woman who has swallowed a dale Carnegie volume without chewing) – a horse and buggy rather than a Limo, a fantastic reception followed by a honeymoon on a coral sea tropical island. It was all good.

partyparty's avatar

We had a Christmas wedding, married on the shortest day. Fur muffs and boleros.
It had been snowing, so added to the ambience. Lovely tiny country church.

snowberry's avatar

My mother was all set on a HUGE wedding, but I was blessed with needing major surgery a few weeks before the event, so they spent all their cash on that. This meant we would have a much smaller wedding, which suited me just fine. By the time of the wedding, I was still pretty tender there in my tummy area, and swollen also. Fortunately I had a stretchy material for my dress, and couldn’t wear a girdle, so I LOOKED about 3 months pregnant. You can see it in many of my wedding pictures.

We were married in the mountains in a tiny chalet chapel. Six weeks before the wedding there was 5 feet of snow in the ground. Then we had a heat wave and it almost melted completely off before the big day. But we were the first folks in the building after the winter, and nobody thought to turn on the heat. My uncle, who was an electrician, shimmied up the pole in his suit and turned on the heat.

I shivered and shook for the first half of the ceremony, but it wasn’t due to nerves. It was so cold in there you could see your breath. Fortunately I was wearing long underwear under my dress, but the place still didn’t warm up until half way through the ceremony.

We had a blast. Edit: I also hated white wedding dresses, so mine was pale green.

janbb's avatar

Just lovely. We got married in a registry office (civil service) in England near my husband’s family. 22 people only. Then a wedding breakfast (brunch) at the house of his grandmother with food made by us and my husband’s mother. My parents and younger brother had flown over for the wedding. I wore a long Mexican embroidered white cotton dress, and a wool cape and cap made by a close friend. We played a mix-tape at the breakfast of folk and rock love songs. It was a simple, homey affair and I treasure the memories of it. A week later we made a party for friends in the group house we were living in with loud music, sandwiches and beer.

Facade's avatar

I’ve been going back and forth on this for a while. I’d love a huge, dramatic wedding. But those are extremely expensive. I think we’ll probably have a very small ceremony with our closest friends and family. I also can’t decide on whether I want an expensive ring of diamonds or just a gold wedding band…

Jack79's avatar

I’m a man, and can assure you that weddings (like most social functions) are a nightmare for us. Most men would avoid them, if they could, and I think we should think of a new ceremony where the groom’s attendance will not be necessary. I think his absence would go unnoticed in most cases anyway.

My own wedding felt a lot like the movie “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” with lots of relatives, guests, loud music and utter chaos. The food was crap, it was very hot and I wanted the ordeal to end as soon as possible. There were more than a thousand people at the church (it took us an hour just to get through the crowd) and about 700 at the reception. The whole thing cost a fortune and it was certainly not worth it.

I divorced that bitch less than a year later.

My sister got married at the town hall wearing a simple white dress. The whole thing took 10 minutes and was attended by 5 close friends. Then we went to her new home where about 20 of us had a nice barbeque and sang songs for the rest of the day. It was wonderful.

She’s been happily married for 5 years and her husband is the most loving and caring man in the world.

DarkScribe's avatar

You aren’t seriously;y trying to suggest that the complexity and cost of a wedding has any relationship to the longevity of the marriage? It would seem that you are.

casheroo's avatar

We had a small wedding, 15 people total (not including our 1 yr old at the time). It was at a lovely Vegas chapel, and a sit down dinner reception afterwards. I loved my dress, and flowers..just because it was small didn’t change anything about the details.

ShanEnri's avatar

My daughter was already 1 month old so it wasn’t a white wedding! lol We were married by a JOP with a few friends and my parents!

partyparty's avatar

@Jack79 Aw I do sympathise, I suppose the wedding IS all about the bride.
At least you have been honest about your wedding.

jeanmay's avatar

@partyparty Did someone lie about their wedding?

partyparty's avatar

@jeanmay If you read @Jack79 response to the original question, you will know why I have written what I have. Hope this makes sense.

ThrallKiller's avatar

We had a pretty normal church wedding with the reception in the church banquet hall, which meant no champagne or dance floor, unfortunately. But, it was absolutely beautiful, and watching my gorgeous wife walk down the aisle made my breath catch and my heart stop. We plan to renew our vows for our 20th anniversary, and do it up right. Outdoor wedding with lots of flowers, champagne and chocolate fountains, and LOTS of dancing!

veronasgirl's avatar

This is something that I never really thought about until my current SO. But since, I find myself thinking about what I would want. I want an outdoor garden wedding with twinkle lights and lanterns everywhere, maybe close twilight. Romantic, with lots of nice finger foods and dancing! Simple but beautiful, because it’s really only important who I am standing next to that night.

rangerr's avatar

@uberbatman That sounds lovely. Lets get married so I can have a tea party too.

Freedom_Issues's avatar

Well my boyfriend made a comment like, what’s the point of getting married, so I don’t know.

jeanmay's avatar

@Freedom_Issues Maybe there’s not a lot to be said for marriage, but there certainly is a whole lot to be said for commitment.

Jack79's avatar

@DarkScribe no, obviously not. Nor do I think there was any correlation in my own and my sister’s weddings and marriages. I just used two examples to illustrate two points:

1. That I personally find fancy weddings to be a drag. If you really want to have a ceremony to celebrate your bond with another human being, keep it simple and focus on the essence of the ritual: ie the love between the couple. It’s not about the size of the cake, the length of the dress or the weight of the diamond ring. It’s supposed to be the first day of the rest of your lives together, and it’s supposed to be a happy day (which it never is for men, and in fact I don’t think it’s a happy day for women either, what with the stress and all). My sister’s example proves that a wedding can be enjoyable for everyone involved.

2. That we should not confuse marriage with wedding. A wedding is just one event that lasts no longer than a day. A marriage is supposed to be forever, and it’s the daily routine of two people struggling to keep things together. It is based on love, understanding and compromise. Not on your ability to dance or how good you looked in that dress. And no amount of wedding guests can help you keep your marriage together.

DarkScribe's avatar

@Jack79 keep it simple and focus on the essence of the ritual: ie the love between the couple.

That us where we differ. The pomp & ceremony is a distinctly female thing, a very important thing, it sets the stage for her married life – your married life – and if you care about the woman who you are marrying – you support her and become fully involved.

lemontree's avatar

It must be very romatic and moving! What’s more important is the wedding dress I will put one. It is really exciting!

snowberry's avatar

I always have thought a bit differently about weddings. I had a light green dress. We were married in the mountains at a church camp. It was 6 weeks after a huge snowstorm, and a week before the wedding we thought we might have to go in there on snowmobiles. My uncle, who was an electrician had to shinny up a pole to turn on the electricity in the chapel. I wore long underwear under my wedding dress, and the service was almost over before I stopped shivering. About the same time as the snowstorm I had my gall bladder out, and I was still quite swollen at the time of the wedding. I definitely looked like I had a “baby bump”. Our rings had opals and diamonds in them for stones.

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