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How do I show a girl I like her?

Asked by PauloD15 (48points) April 8th, 2010

I am shy and there is this girl I like. How do I show the girl I like her?

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DarkScribe's avatar

Smile? It is the purpose of a smile, sometimes people forget that.

wilma's avatar

Yes, Like @DarkScribe said, smile. Say “Hi”, small talk just try to be a bit friendly and see how she responds.

skfinkel's avatar

Pay attention to her.

wundayatta's avatar

I don’t think you should kidnap her, take her home, and force her to eat your lasagna. She might think you like her a little bit too much.

Anyway, the key is to have opportunities to do things with her—preferably in a group, so there’s not so much pressure on just the two of you. I don’t know. This is pretty geeky, but in high school there was this girl I liked. I was on the debate team, and I urged her to join, too, so that we could go to the library and research together.

It worked, and we spent a lot of time together doing research, but things never got any further because she was pretty religious. I did get to the point of telling her I liked her, but that was about it.

I was never one to just come out and ask a girl to go out. I was too afraid of rejection. So I had to resort to these other strategies. There was one girl in high school I knew from band and because she lived near me. I think we had one date—a walk in the snowy woods.

Embarrassing. But you know what? You do what you can. Some guys are confident and all the girls love them without them having to do a thing. Others guys have to work a lot harder and learn more about what women want. Let me tell you something. If you work hard to understand women (who are really people, like anyone else), it will stand you well later in life. Whoever you end up with will really appreciate all the work you’ve done to become a gentleman.

Captain_Fantasy's avatar

Play it cool.

The moment you go up to her and say “umm… well you know, I kinda like you, and you uh… wanna go around?” you’re doomed.

Just talk to her for starters.

And don’t try to move too quickly.

tubby's avatar

Do you know her, and douse she know you, are you friends… I cant help you with out info. Do you have classes with her? Most importantly has she made eye contact with you, if so than what did she do before and after the eye contact? If not, try to, see if she sorta smiles when you do or even when you try to.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

@skfinkel has given you the best advice and it always works for me too. Pay attention to her. Just hang around and pay attention to her. When your mouth opens, tell her: “You’re a very special person”. Better have a few reason ready to speak because she _will ask why.

babaji's avatar

Talk to her.
introduce yourself and give her some energy.
like see what she is interested in and find out something about it so you can break the ice…
Catch her eye, don’t stare but flirt with her for a nano second.
if you catch some warmth in her look, cool enough, but don’t be too aggressive or it might backfire. Make her feel like the world revolves around her and treat her with respect
Be yourself, be happy, be friendly, be real, don’t play any games, and don’t worry about it, if it is meant to be, there will be signs that you can pick up on, and your paths will continuously cross.
Good Luck

St.George's avatar

Be nice. Ask her if she wants to go for coffee/tea/cd shopping. As you’re walking there be interested in what she talks about, ask questions. Don’t be afraid; you’ve got nothing to lose. Confidence is attractive, so if you don’t have it, pretend you do. Be who you are.

Cruiser's avatar

River dance! It gets their attention every time!

tubby's avatar

ummm…..I have already answered this question!

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