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Is 18 to young to get married?

Asked by swisschese (10points) March 9th, 2008

I want to get married young but my parents disagree.

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flowerchild's avatar

I think 18 is way to young.

Riser's avatar

Depends on the circumstances. The fact that you’re asking something like this publicly tells me you aren’t ready, that’s not intended as an insult.

Let me put it this way… I’m gay, when I was 18 I was telling people I was straight and was in a relationship with a girl.

A lot can change in a very short period of time, not saying your orientation will change. Mine didn’t but my projections certainly did.

allen_o's avatar

if you really love them go for it, if you have doubts hold on and see how you feel in a few years

wired's avatar

Yes,in a word

delirium's avatar

No getting married at 18. WAY too young.

spywacko's avatar

At 18, are you in college or moving on to a college? What about the person you want to marry? How long have you known them?

I’m 23 now. When I was 18, I thought I had a lot figured out and I knew exactly who I was. After college, work experiences, and meeting new people, I learned a lot more about myself.

What is stopping you from continuing to date them? If they truly are the love of your life, they will wait for you and vice versa.

Justnice's avatar

if you feel like your in love then go for it. Dont let anyone talk you out of doing something you want to do.

boffin's avatar

Oh , Yeah… Way to young…Right now your just “Twitterpated”...
If it’s the real deal it can wait a few years…

Fallstand's avatar

I think yes.. But my parents got married at age 19 or 20 and they’re the happiest couple i know..

eadinad's avatar

Yes, I think it’s too young. And if you’ve really found the right person, they’ll still be around in five or ten years and you can get married then.

evander's avatar

If you are to marry, two years more dating will be a pleasure. Live together; one learns much doing so.

cake7's avatar

I got married at 17.

osksav's avatar

you are absolutly way to young to even think of such a committmemt. First of all say you do get married how are you going to support your wife or god forbid a child. If you have a job can you afford not to go to school. Being a hamburger engineer at the local fast food joint will not cut it. Think about your future, time waits for no one!!!!!

cake7's avatar

ok everyone is saying all the negative. My husband and I have been together since we were 14 we got pregnant at 17 and decided we wanted to get married so we wouldnt raise our son in a broken home. ( not that it is bad) I’m going to admit it was hard. We finished school I got my tax licence he learned how to weld. We make it work, not saying it going to be easy because its extreamly hard. But here I am three wonderful children later and still happily married.

MissPriss's avatar

in this day in age, there are a lot of differences from the past, where in early times, people got married at a young age, and stay married till old age, and a dozen children later. The difference between then and now is today a lot of values, and perspectives have lost importance, and the sanctity of marriage has lost importance. Individuals have lost the value of family, broken homes are more prevalent, and divorce is more and more at an all time high. Statistically, I’d have to guess that in these times, 18 and young marriage leads to divorce. There are exceptions, however, I’d suggest you think it out, and be engaged, spend more time, enjoy being young, and tackle the problems of adulthood prior to making an extremely, lifechanging decision, and possibly regretting it in the future.

Maverick's avatar

I’d say nobody should get married before about 25. Not because I think it can’t work, but everyone should have time to grow personally, on their own terms, before getting married. You certainly haven’t had that opportunity before 20, and you should do so for at least a few years.

delirium's avatar

If i’m still with my boyfriend after college, then I will. I think that’s a good marker. Graduation.

TheGreenBrideGuide's avatar

Some marriages at 18 last a lifetime, others fall apart. As far as I know there are no statistics proving that waiting leads to a better chance of success. That said there is so much you learn about yourself between 18 and 25 or even 30 that it might make sense to wait a few years under the “what is the rush” theory. If you do choose to move forward I encourage you to have a wedding that is true to your values. Good luck! ~ Kate at

curtaincall's avatar

I just got got married six months and people say my wife and I were too young at 25 and 26. Have you lived with your significant other? If you haven’t I highly suggest that first. If you do get married young I strongly advise pre-marital counseling.

qashqai's avatar

Yes! Yes! Yes!
I am now 25 (still absolutely not ready for any kind of serious engagement) but if I look myself at the age of 18 I see a child that was living in his own fluffy world.
Are you that mature? Lucky you then, good luck and best wishes.

cwilbur's avatar

I think 18 is too young to get married, yes. You don’t know yourself well enough, and you’re still growing and changing, and so is she.

Why do you want to get married so young? Take two years of courtship and engagement to make sure that you’re compatible and that you’ll still be compatible as you grow into adulthood, and then get married.

emilyrose's avatar

Yes. Lots of things in your life will change between now and then. You will be shocked at how quickly you start to grow and change in the next 10 years. I am in my late 20s and even looking back to my early 20s I am shocked at how much I have changed. I could never have made that kind of decision at 18.
There is no way I would ever want to be with the guy I was with at 18. Even though he is an amazing person, he is not for me. But if you had asked me at 18 if I would want to marry him I would have said yes, and we would be divorced now or in an unhappy marriage.

There is no rush for you at your age. Hold out a least 5 more years and see how you feel.

JackAdams's avatar

Country singer Loretta Lynn got married at 13, and had 5 kids before her 19th birthday.

She stayed married to her first husband, until the day he died.

Folks said she was “too young.” Was she?

August 23, 2008, 5:10 AM EDT

thegodfather's avatar

Not unless you are living in an agrarian society and come from a non-dysfunctional family. But in modern society, and the psychological pressures that seem to abound, I don’t know that an 18-year-old has had enough adult-level life experience to be prepared well enough for marriage. While some 18-year-olds make it, and in generations past it was much more common, I do think circumstances have changed dramatically for today’s 18-year-olds, and that you’re likely to be better off if you develop your adult-level sense of self for at least a few more years. 21, 22, 23—at least before getting married.

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

You should be able to earn enough money to pay your bills and live on your own. Some people can do that at 18, most cannot. It’s important to be able to do this before you get married because a significant number of marriages end over money problems.

While relationships work when you get married young, they work better when you have been able to do things on your own, fulfilled some of your own dreams. Think back to when you were 11 or 12, what did you want to be or do?

lakersfuture's avatar

Well to start off if you even have to ask that question it shows that you aren’t ready. Personally I would hold off for a while and see how things work… I mean if you love this person then what is a few more months or even years going to do to change that????

bananafish's avatar

It’s a high risk situation: 18 year-olds aren’t done yet. They’re still growing, finding themselves.


This isn’t a judgement of your love: You may really have found the love of your life! But just make sure first that when you’re really fully grown. I’d advise waiting 2–3 more years if you can stand it.

If he’s really “The One”, he won’t be going anywhere and will love you EVEN MORE three years from now. And then you’ll really know for sure that you won’t grow apart.

Otherwise you risk divorce and heartbreak.

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