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Do orgasmic births really exist and, if so, how?

Asked by stemnyjones (3969points) April 8th, 2010

I recently found a disturbing (to me) collection of stories from real moms who claim they had an “orgasmic birth”. They claimed that they actually had an orgasm when they gave birth, making such statements as “He ricocheted off of my g-spot, and it made me cum so hard” and “It’s like having sex inside out”.

I, as a mother, can say that although my labor was relatively short in term of labors (5–6 hours), the physical feelings inside of me were nothing short of torture. It felt like the skin of my vagina was being torn apart, because it was.

So, what are your thoughts on this? Have you or someone you know had an “orgasmic birth”? How is it even possible, with all of the pain (or numbness from an epidural)?

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trailsillustrated's avatar

ew. I have never heard of that, but I have had friends who nursed for a for a ridiculously long time, ( till the kid was 4) and described orgasmic breast feeding ew, I was like, whatever, why don’t you nurse your man

desiree333's avatar

Wow this is really disturbing. How could a birth possibly be orgasmic. It sounds terrifying to me!

trailsillustrated's avatar

where did you see/hear this?

Jude's avatar

The whole thing grosses me out. Sorry. Being honest.

casheroo's avatar

I wouldn’t call it disturbing, but I think it’s a bunch of crap. There’s nothing orgasmic about it.

But, I also have never given birth without pain meds. I had narcotics and an epidural with my first. With my second, I only got an epidural because I learned how to manage the pain better..and I bet if I could have stayed focused, I wouldn’t have gotten the epidural but I didn’t plan on a natural birth so it didn’t happen (ended in c-section).

holden's avatar

I, for one, can think of nothing more arousing than having my vagina expanded to 10 times its normal width and pushing out a 7 to 8 pound human baby.

stemnyjones's avatar

@casheroo They gave me an epidural, but they let it wear off before they broke my water bag, so I did the actual birthing without it. Trust me, stick to the drugs LOL.


Here are a few excerpts:


“As the baby crowned, I knew from Jean’s look and sounds that she was having an explosive orgasm, which rolled on and on.”

“Each time she had a contraction she would cry out, ‘Oh, baby, I love it. More…more!’ ”

augustlan's avatar

Um. Wow. I had three kids with no epidurals, and there was nothing orgasmic about it. Though, breastfeeding did feel awfully good!

stemnyjones's avatar

@augustlan See, I breastfed for a few months, and although I agree that it feels good in a beautiful, life-giving way, I do find it a bit disturbing when people get sexual pleasure from it.

Ever since I stopped breastfeeding, actually, my partner can’t even play with my nipples to get me turned on anymore; she has to wait until we are in the middle of it to even touch them, because it doesn’t feel sexy anymore, it just feels like I’m going to feed a baby.

And I stopped breastfeeding over 4 months ago.

jeanmay's avatar

Nope, nothing anywhere near orgasmic for me, and I also had no pain relief. Before I gave birth some one did say to me that birth is a ‘sexual experience’, but I have to disagree.

casheroo's avatar

@augustlan I wonder why that happens. I don’t get this feeling every time, but at night when the little one wakes up and I breastfeed, it’s almost like an adrenaline rush, I get excited (not sexually) and super happy/hyper. I tried explaining it to my husband..but he just thinks I’m weird lol

@stemnyjones I’ve only been breastfeeding about six weeks, but I think it’s just the person. I can completely separate feeding and sexual touch. But, I did NOT want my breasts touched at all until about 4 weeks when they stopped hurting so much!

faye's avatar

This whole world is being sexed up way too much!! I had 3 babies with no drugs and there was no orgasm! These women just want their 15 minutes of fame.

stemnyjones's avatar

@casheroo I had that happy/hyper feeling too… I don’t know if it’s hormones or what, but I think it also has something to do with the fact that you have this tiny little being in your arms that you made and you are caring for! ^_^

trailsillustrated's avatar

@stemnyjones I am talking about orgasm from the nipple stimulation, I was shocked to hear about it, from a really good friend… it sorta creeps me out- the birth thing I just had no idea, gross

Jeruba's avatar

I never heard of this and think it is most likely to be complete baloney.

I didn’t have any meds. For me each time, it was nothing but waves of pain, bigger waves of pain, and then a whole lot of pain, and then relief. I can’t even imagine what it would be like to combine that with some kind of pleasure. It would be easier to imagine enjoying falling off a roof.

meagan's avatar

I think some women just take pain differently. I remember watching a woman give birth on television and she didn’t even wince. No pain medication or anything.

davidbetterman's avatar

Did your read this in the Penthouse Forum or Hustler?

DrasticDreamer's avatar

@trailsillustrated What your friend said is extremely creepy. If someone gets an orgasm from their baby breastfeeding, it’s time to stop breastfeeding. Fucking disgusting. I kinda wish I hadn’t clicked on this.

meagan's avatar

@davidbetterman No, its a real thing.

davidbetterman's avatar

@meagan Oh…Okay, then that is really cool. Much better than experiencing pain, I would think!

DarkScribe's avatar

“He ricocheted off my G spot”? What was he doing – traveling through the Brooklyn tunnel? I would take the whole thing with a large dose of salts. I have been present at the birth of all my children and If there a less “sexy” arena I can’t even guess at what it is.

augustlan's avatar

Just to clarify, I didn’t experience orgasm from breastfeeding. It just felt… good, you know?

jeanmay's avatar

@augustlan Mmm, just lovely.

faye's avatar

I loved it, too- such a peaceful time and I’m still awed that my milk kept little humans alive!

susanc's avatar

Welcome to the great American world of self-censorship.
I’ve never given birth, so I haven’t had this feeling, but I read a lot, and apparently a lot of women do have it. I see than none of you have, and that if you did you would lie about it.
What a waste.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. I remember many months back seeing a segment about that on 20/20 or Nightline. Some women actually believe they have done it. Not having done it myself I can only give them the benefit of the doubt. The one gal who allowed the cameras in to witness did not seem to be in any painful duress as one normally see in child birth. Maybe the birthing pool had sometime to do with it. It appears they started to condition themselves to it early in the pregnancy. Who can tell what the power of the mind can do. If monks protesting the Vietnam war (yeah too early for most of you to remember) can douse themselves with gas and set themselves on fire and as their flesh burned off sat there like statues legs crossed and hands in a praying position and not flailing about as most regular people would, if one controls their mind who knows what they can do?

jeanmay's avatar

@susanc What in particular makes you think we would lie about it?

thriftymaid's avatar

I had a non-medicated delivery and felt EVERYTHING. None of it was “pleasant.”

XOIIO's avatar

It actually help diallate the vagina, allowing for an easier birth.

Just don’t try to have one of these by using a didlo.

ucme's avatar

So that’s what all that noise is about.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I know of a lady who claims to have had an orgasm whilst giving birth to her son. He’s an adult now and cringes everytime she tells that story which she does quite a lot apparently!!!

OpryLeigh's avatar

Having read some of the above posts I find it weird that people are disgusted by this when, if these women are telling the truth and they do orgasm during childbirth, I’m assuming they can’t help it. What is there to be disgusted about exactly? If I could choose between the pain I hear most women complain about or an orgasm during childbirth, I think I know which I’d choose!

DarkScribe's avatar

@Leanne1986 I find it weird that people are disgusted by this when

I don’t see disgust, pregnancy is created by orgasm (at least one) – what I see is skepticism.

As some people – both male and female – are sexually aroused by pain or abuse, I suppose that it is possible. Just unlikely. Forgetting all else, you are in a room full of bright lights and other people taking an intense interest in your “orgasmic” bits.

OpryLeigh's avatar

@DarkScribe I’m assuming you read the above posts?! Some people have outright said that they are disgusted by it. @DrasticDreamer and @jjmah for example. I can understand skepticism but not disgust if it is something that can’t be helped.

DarkScribe's avatar

@Leanne1986 DrasticDreamer and @jjmah for example.

I saw drastic dreamer reacting to connecting sex and breastfeeding, jimah seems to be the only one who really objects. That is very much a minority. Most people simply seem skeptical. I am skeptical, even though I have met a women who makes the same claim. She would also make it about all manner of unlikely things, like riding on escalators, or water skiing. She also professed to be a masochist – I didn’t get to know her well enough to find out.

OpryLeigh's avatar

@DarkScribe They may be the minority but they still count as people and I am sure they aren’t the only people that feel this way which is why I posted the above comment.

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