What should I do about my career?
I have been at my job three months, relatively new to my field. I really like my co-workers, but my one boss treats me very disrespectfully. I am the only one who works with them, which makes it hard to ask for a solution from my office manager (who is also my boss’ spouse, which I wasn’t told when I was hired). I was mislead about a few other things in my job, and it has really rubbed me the wrong way. I have the opportunity to possibly work at another place I would like. I don’t like to give up on things or be flaky, so it bothers me that I might upset a lot of people by leaving a new job so quickly. I also don’t want to be someone who sticks with a job that makes them miserable and doesn’t look at other possibilities. Advice??
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Why worry about the feelings of people at a place where you’re treated disrespectfully and weren’t advised about the whole truth of whatever situation you were stepping into?
Good luck in the new job. Go soon.
starting lookin for another job now. it’s not worth the frustration.
They say you should start looking for your new job the day you start your current job. I totally agree. I was in a similar situation to yours (being misled, working under people who are married, disrespectful condescending attitude), and I say move on. Try to negotiate a better salary at the new office and then it will be a no brainer. I know it is hard to feel otherwise, but you don’t owe these people anything. Give your two weeks notice and don’t worry about it. It is perfectly reasonable, I think based on my experience (having started professional work fairly recently myself), to not find a perfect fit right off the bat. As a side note, some people just have a condescending/disrespectful/angry management style. I’ve seen it several times, unfortunately. I don’t think it is very effective or efficient or pleasant personality to be around, but some people it seems really can’t help it and it isn’t personal.
Tell us what better opportunity you find that offers a better work environment. You will find it!
Not telling you that the office manager is the spouse of your boss is hardly being misled. You haven’t given a fact that would lead me to tell you to change jobs. But if you know you are not going to be happy there, there really is no reason to stay if you have something else lined up.
If you’re not happy, go elsewhere, but be aware office politics exist almost everywhere and it’s a good idea when you’re in a career early on to work at the same place to establish you do play well with others and you’re not just jumping from place to place
yeah that’s exactly my problem because I don’t want to jump from place to place but I don’t want to work somewhere where I am miserable either. There are just things that have really made me feel really disrespected. Having your boss tell you to lint roll his shirt? Not in my job description. Being told you will be working full time and not getting forty hours a week, not cool. I am thankful to have a job, but there is a fine line between working your way up and being treated badly.
I do not think people generally become unhappy with you if you move to what is a better job or a better fit for you. They might be sad to see you go, but in general, everyone you should care about understand the need for such moves.
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