General Question

Mariah's avatar

Is it abnormal to miss or feel nostalgia towards a past situation that you hated at the time?

Asked by Mariah (25863points) April 19th, 2010

Don’t really care to elaborate on my exact circumstances, but I often find myself in this situation and I can’t help but think that it’s an unhealthy way to be feeling. It’s like some kind of twisted form of the “grass is always greener” saying – wanting to get out of a bad situation at the time, but inexplicably missing it down the road. Anyone else have a similar experience?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

9 Answers

talljasperman's avatar

yes .. I wondered if I could go back to grade school.. but then I hated every minute of it

Trillian's avatar

Yes, and it’s completely normal. Our memories of the past have a tendency to delete or diminish what,at the time, was unpleasant and we remember only that which gave us pleasure.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I don’t think so. To some extent we all carry the memories of the “good” parts of not so good situations if only to not negate the whole time spent, never to be recovered.

jaytkay's avatar

People prefer the known and familiar. Maybe it’s just a peculiar extension of that.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I don’t consider much abnormal. I think this is about longing for emotion.

cockswain's avatar

I have no clue if it’s abnormal, but occasionally I wish I could go back and handle a situation in which I was bullied or humiliated differently. Kind of one of those “if I knew then what I know now” deals.

Pandora's avatar

Yep. I hated my music teacher in High School but he taught me how to reach my full potential in singing which I loved to do.

mcbealer's avatar

I often find that in hindsight difficult situations are sometimes diminished once one has overcome them. What gets me though, is the naiveté of thinking things could not possibly get any worse or more convoluted… and then they do. As far as missing the drama though… no.

bob_'s avatar

I’d say it’s normal.

Then again, nostalgia isn’t what it used to be…

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.

This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.

Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther