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Jude's avatar

Ever felt that your life was spinning out of control? If you did, how did you get your life on track?

Asked by Jude (32134points) April 26th, 2010

This has nothing to do with me. I’m fine. It’s a family member..

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eponymoushipster's avatar

Take a vacation.

btw, if it is you, i hear two doses of sexy monkey sure can do wonders. ;)

zophu's avatar

Live another life for a while. Like a long vacation but with purpose other than indulgence.

Coloma's avatar

Shift happens, don’t resist.

Cycles, cycles…it’s all perfect, really! ;-)

zophu's avatar

@Coloma yeah, it’s just when perfection doesn’t need you to live, it’s annoying.

Coloma's avatar

The very nature of life is one of periods of stability and periods of transistion…go with the flow.


You are here now, therefore you are meant to be! ;-)

You don’t HAVE a life, you ARE life!

zophu's avatar

The cycles of life and death are beautiful; but when death isn’t avoided by life, there might as well not be any. And that is disgusting. My point is, there’s some very ugly instability that should not be accepted, even if it can be factored into the wheel of life and death somehow. Let me be angry at the flow for a while, @Coloma, I’m still young.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

When I got divorced some years ago, I had a tough time adjusting to a new lifestyle. I got so depressed and panicked. The business I’d created with my husband couldn’t continue without his fine skill and I had no resources to court and hire someone else. I had no idea what I was going to do for a ‘normal job’, I had no car, no credit cards, no savings, nothing.

A co worker took me under her wing, even made a habit to do her own bills alongside me, sharing her tips for negotiating bill payments, grocery shopping and contacting the IRS and credit bureaus in order to start repairing my stuff. I got through a few tough years by her support and eventually bought my first brand new car, got a gorgeous apt. and caught up with bills.

Whenever I’d have a panic attack then she’d sit me down with a notepad and we’d start jotting everything down, scratch out what didn’t make any sense and then prioritize stuff, add stuff up, divide it, schedule it, etc. She helped me develop a strong sense or persistence and faith in “The Big Picture” and how to keep myself from straying too far from it.

Draconess25's avatar

Well, I felt like that until a few days ago.

Me & my mom have been arguing a lot lately, so we continued to distance ourselves from each other. During our most recent argument, we discovered that we needed to spend more time together, not less. We forgot who we were to each other, & what made the other tick. Now, we’re hanging out like we used to!

janbb's avatar

Good therapy helps a lot.

Jude's avatar

@eponymoushipster it’s not me, sexy monkey.

Just worried about a sib and I see her going down and we all don’t know how to help her.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

@Draconess25 “Me & my mom…”… My mother and I…
And I’m very pleased to hear of good mother and daughter relationships.


Let them spin… spin again… and spin some more…

Pretty soon they’ll get dizzy and land flat on their back. Then and only then may they see the sky.

Coloma's avatar


You got it!, go fully into your angst. ;-)

Trillian's avatar

@jjmah Oh lord, I know the feeling of watching someone circle the drain. There is such a feeling of helplessness. I won’t pry for details. Is this person willing to get some help? Doe she feel the need to ask the question that you have asked? Does she feel out of control and in need of help? If not, I honestly don’t know of anything that you could do short of a violation of her free will. Until she recognizes a need for help, she isn’t likely to respond to any outside advice in any way but negative.
I hope, for your sake, that this turns out better for all concerned than the current prospects seem to indicate.
You might try prayer. Positive thoughts have more power than you might imagine. I don’t mean in the christian sense, but in the sense that the universe will help you get where you want to be if you envision the result. The universe can fill in the how and why for you.

Draconess25's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies One of the few grammatical errors I tend to make!

SuperMouse's avatar

I am kind of going through that feeling right now. It spins and feels like I am losing control, I grab and pull it back in. It spins again, I grab again. I feel like that guy trying to keep the plates spinning on sticks. Most of the time they are all spinning pretty smoothly and just need a slight tap. But there are times, like the past couple of weeks, where it feels like all of them are wobbling and as soon as I get one moving well it slows and threatens to fall.

There is a prayer by Bahá’u’lláh that begins, “O Thou Whose tests are a healing medicine…” That becomes my mantra during especially challenging times. I try to remind myself that there has got to be some purpose for this and if I don’t stick through to the end I will never know what it is.

I also go with the Dory world view and I “just keep swimming…”

kenmc's avatar

I had no idea life’s could be on track.

YARNLADY's avatar

Life often spins out of control. The best thing to do is just give it free rein and in time, everything works itself out.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

@Draconess25 I think it’s cute. Reminds me of when I was your age… Everything was “Me and my…”

Then my mother would always correct me.

Silhouette's avatar

I have and I slowed down. Too much, too fast, like a run away train. I stoppped, I did nothing, I thought about nothing and when I caught my breath I got up and got busy again

Kodewrita's avatar

It helps if you have failed before as you have a reference point to compare with your current situation. When things started spinning out of control, i could see the signs because it had happened before.

I guess you should reconnect with the ones you really love and also accept the aspects you cannot control.

Just keep it in your mind that it will get better soon.

SuperMouse's avatar

@YARNLADY what do you mean by “give it free rein”?

Draconess25's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies How do you know you’re not still my age? How do you know how old I am? Are you stalking me?! XD

chyna's avatar

@YARNLADY I’m afraid I would have to disagree with giving a life spinning out of control “free rein’. I think if a life is truly spinning out of control, it needs to be brought back in before damage is done to the person or anyone near enough to get caught up in the spinning. “Free rein” could lead to self hurting, suicide, or other erratic behavior that could get so out of control that it would be too late to rein it back in.

janbb's avatar

@chyna Not to mention great emotional pain. I strongly suggest counseling for someone who feels out of control.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I waited…

xRIPxTHEREVx's avatar

Stop and take a break. Get away from all the madness and listen to some music. :)
That’s what I always do.

YARNLADY's avatar

@SuperMouse @chyna there is very little anyone can do when trying to solve someone else’s problems. Unless it is life threatening, it is best to just stand back and mind your own business.

SuperMouse's avatar

@YARNLADY I agree with that, but the question was about what I do when my life is spinning out of control. That explains the misunderstanding.

YARNLADY's avatar

@SuperMouse good point, I took the details as part of the question

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