When is the right time to tell someone you love him/her?

When it feels right to you to say those words. There is no rule book to tell you when to say “I love you”.

@chyna‘s right. When you feel like it’s the right time, it will be.

You can preface it with “I don’t want you to feel pressured into saying anything you don’t mean. I just want you to know I really like our time spent together, and have grown to love you.”

Give him a hug, change the subject. He has an opening to say what he wants, but if you change the subject, he has an out, too.

When you mean it and believe they’re ready to hear it.

There shouldn’t be timing on when you tell someone you love them. You should let them know how you feel when you feel that way. But another thing to watch out for is weather or not you really love them. Make sure your not just trying to say it to him to impress your friends or make yourself feel better about the relationship, it has to come directly from the heart and be meaningful. Dont be worried or scared if he dose not say it back to you right away or even gets a kinda shocked face at first, some guys are afraid to let there emotions show. But if he really loves you back he will most likely say it back and if not then just give him sometime. Dont force him to say it what so ever though! Hope this helps.

I don’t believe you can base your feelings on what someone else feels. If you love him, tell him. But, to expect anything in return is playing games. Be honest, and except things as they come. Ask your self, if he said he loved you, and you weren’t sure how you felt, would you tell him you loved him too, just to be comfortable?

When you can’t stop yourself from saying it.

Three months seems early in the relationship to do it in the normal course of things. On the other hand, as others have said, it is said when it is felt.

Depends on how old you are. If you’re younger than 20, don’t say it. If you’re older than that, wait a couple more months and see if you still feel the same. I’d say after a good 6 months to a year.

When it is real. I hate it when it’s just the next step.

If it feels right and you mean it, say it? You kind of just have to gauge these things on your own. Three months is definitely not “too” soon, but chances are if you’re asking this question, the uncertainty would probably indicate that it could wait.

totally agree with @marinelife :it is said when it is felt
I think you’ll figure out how to tell him without freaking him out.

Like @Jeruba, I say when you can’t keep it to yourself any longer. I think my own declaration came out during a sleepy snuggle up on my partner’s chest where I burbled out “my love…” meaning, “awwww, my sweetie pie” but my true thoughts leaked out instead.

I just go with the rule that if I love someone, I tell them.

If you say it first you’ll regret it. I wouldn’t even Consider it ! You will be taking away a beautiful moment for yourself so don’t . Be a liberated, modern woman in some Other way.

The first 3 months of most relationships is what I consider the “honeymoon” phase, where the partner appears to do or say nothing wrong. Then reality starts to set in. My recommendation is to save the “I love you” until you know it is really, really true. In the meantime, feel free to use it for specific things like, “I love your humor”, “I love your ethics” etc.

i agree with JeffVader; never, under any circumstances be the first to say the “L” word—its a disaster waiting to happen, please resist the temptation

@bigfootprint lesbian?

In another question I affirmed my belief in love at first sight, in spite of my previous skepticism that such a thing was reasonable, much less possible. But I fell in love at first sight, and said so within 24 hours that we had our first date. We have been together for seven years and no sign of stopping. Both divorced, both with children, putting off the question of marriage, but it does not seem to matter one way or the other.

Excuse me?