If your relationship ended, would you destroy all the intimate stuff your former lover had given you?

Lovers write letters or give lingerie or make valentines or send intimate pictures or videos. Lovers give each other gifts—some of which may be quite valuable.

These things may contain painful memories of the relationship. Or they may contain memories you want to retain. Or, you may have exchanged some pictures you wouldn’t want to see on one of those jilted lover sites. So you might want to hold onto some things as leverage against such an injudicious use of such materials. Or you may regret giving an extravagant gift—like a jilted fiance who asks for the diamond back.

Which wins out? Getting rid of the painful memories or protecting against blackmail? Or do you want to keep it anyway, just because? Would you ask your former lover to destroy the material you had given them? Do you now regret spending so much on the diamond? Enough to ask for it to be given back?