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How do you deal with a person who won't stop talking to you?

Asked by shpadoinkle_sue (7188points) May 1st, 2010

When I used to visit my sister at college, I took the bus and one time I had this guy who just started talking to me. I had my headphones on and was looking out the window almost the time. I even went to the bathroom and he kept talking to me when I got back. I tried to be polite, but it was for the whole 3 hours, and I was wondering how you’ve dealt with people like that. Maybe some advice for next time? How long should you carry on a conversation that you’re not interested in?

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rpm_pseud0name's avatar

I’d say bring a book. Even if you don’t intend to read it. Just bring one with you, a thick one. Nothing too popular, because he may have read it & will want to discuss it later (when you finish it). When he starts the conversation up, just pull up the book & politely say,‘I’m sorry, I really wanted to get some reading done on this trip.’ Already have the book open & ready to read. After a few trips of you telling him that you want to read instead, his need to converse with you will most likely fade.

Other suggestion, talk with him or any one else. You never know what they could be dealing with. Why are they on this 3 hour ride with you? They could be going to see their spouse or child in the hospital who is getting treatments. Some people need to talk to feel at ease. Enjoy the company of strangers. It’s a 3 hour ride, have fun with it.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

Unless the person is unable to converse coherently, I will engage them in conversation. I have learn amazing things from talking to people about things they know about that are new to me.

If their conversation is inane or terribly dull, then I reserve the right to fall asleep at any time I choose.

thriftymaid's avatar

It’s OK to say to someone, “I’d rather not talk.”

AshlynM's avatar

I think if you ignore them enough, eventually they’ll lose interest and stop talking to you. Bringing a book is always a good idea. That shows the person you’re not interested in talking to anyone and would prefer to be left alone.

Don’t make eye contact. Don’t look at them or encourage their conversation. Don’t give them any kind of recognition. Perhaps even move to a different seat.

ucme's avatar

Three responses in the following order }

1.Yawn constantly
2.Feign sleep
3.“Shut the fuck up dickwad”

Foolproof system, infallable.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Put your hands over your ears and hum loudly….—or tell him that you’d rather not talk—:)

aprilsimnel's avatar

If you really, really, really don’t feel like talking, you have the right to be left alone.

“Sir/Ma’am, I am not looking to have a conversation right now. You’ll excuse me if I don’t talk. Thank you.”

This should be said firmly and directly. No one need to have any excuse to tell someone else “no” to a request.

janbb's avatar

I say bring a book too. Then you can politely say after a time, “I’d like to read my book now if you don’t mind.”

BishiAfi's avatar

this works well where i live.
1. “My mum told me not to talk to strangers”.and ignore them. Gets them every time! lol
2. text someone to call you. Answer it talk for a few minutes, hangup and call someone else. To make you look busy. Or set your phone to alarm and pretend it’s a call. or that would be a good time to check ALL of your voice mail.
3. Take a portable gaming device and play till your hearts content.
4. while he’s talking rub your forehead constantly and kindly ask him “would stop talking i have a headache’ and pretend to sleep for a while.
5. Never respond, don’t shake your head when he asks you a question, just pretend as if he was never there, and say nothing to him.
But there a generally nice talkative people so you just assess the situation and operate accordingly. Good luck!

Berserker's avatar

I’d ask them something like, ...yeah so anyway, is it normal for the inside of my ass to itch?

YARNLADY's avatar

Just ignore them, you have no obligation to engage in conversation with strangers.

Silhouette's avatar

@Symbeline Speaking of itchy assholes, that Glen Beck is a real hemorrhoid isn’t he? Won’t be 100% effective, some people just don’t shy away from itchy assholes.

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