Isn't pleasure the primary reason people have sex despite what people say to the contrary?

I was talking to a girl about how I wanted sex and she told me of course I wanted sex because it such an “incredible connection” to another human being. I had previously asked her how much pleasure she got from sex on a scale of 1–10 and she told me that it was a 10 for her. Well, how on this green earth can she say that the reason that I or anyone else would want to have sex is for the “incredible connection” when it is so ridiculously pleasurable?

How can people say they are motivated by the connection per se when that connection is associated with a degree of pleasure which people describe as a 10? You would think that at the very least such sex would involve a dual motivation for the connection and the pleasure associated with that connection.

note:by “pleasure” I mean how good sex feels in its entirety… not just the physical aspect…..

note: I am not making a normative declaration here…. I am not saying that s.e.x should be without feelings of connection and love but I am strongly suggesting, and this is a subtle distinction, that it is impossible to be motivated purely by the desire for those feelings when the pleasure is so intense.

But isn’t it positively absurd that anyone would say otherwise? What is going on in this world?

Would somebody please give me a sane and clear answer that makes sense and isn’t condescending and judgmental?

note: please do not branch off into a discussion on how women have sex for pleasure and men have it for connection (or is it the other way around? whatever!) because that isn’t really relevant to the question. Because at least in the case I describe the women thinks sex is a 10 but somehow doesn’t see that as the central motivating factor in the way one would normally imagine it would be if anything else in life was a 10.

@futurememory…..you missed the point of the question entirely because my question acknowledges that pleasure does come from connection…