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Is it possible to change your opinion on a relationship you've had in the past, whether you were in love, etc. if the relationship you're in now has changed your outlook on life?

Asked by see_turtle (31points) May 21st, 2010

I question what my relationship with my ex was based on since my current relationship has made me reevaluate my values, what I feel is important, etc.. When I look back on my past relationship I feel as if I was extremely naive and immature. I would have described conversation I had with this girl as magical, but the person I was in that relationship is different from who I feel I am now. Is it possible to change your outlook on who you were based on who you feel you are now?

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jazmina88's avatar

of course…..Time means change and relationships develop throughout your life. Each has lessons and special memories, I hope.

Congrats!!

Blackberry's avatar

Yes, it’s called reflecting….....

partyparty's avatar

Throughout our lives we are changing, both physically and mentally. We learn as we go through life. That’s natural.

CMaz's avatar

Yes. It is called life. And, life is about learning.

If you can accept that change of your opinion. You grow wiser, instead of ignorant.

marinelife's avatar

Yes, you gain perspective on your past through the stuff you are learning in your present.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I would say it’s not only possible but probably and highly recommended.

evandad's avatar

It’s good to find someone who can do that for you. I think that connection is a great motivator. You may end up a better person because of it. Like Brad Pitt.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Yes.I have concluded that dating “Psycho Bob” was insane ;)

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Sure. I’ve learned how not to argue, how to compromise more and keep my positive love alive instead of burning it down just so I can make my points.

perspicacious's avatar

Yes it is. I’ve heard people say “now I wonder why I stayed so long,” or “I should have stayed; what was I thinking.” I just think that as you age and have experiences and gain wisdom you see your past in a different light sometimes.

Kismet's avatar

I believe so, of course, I’ve never experienced this first hand.
I have noticed my boyfriend’s opinions on his previous relationship have sort of twisted into him thinking that it was just an overall bad relationship and it shouldn’t have gone as long as it did. This may have something to do with how successful and happy we are in our relationship together. . . I honestly don’t know too much about this previous relationship and ex-girl, because I try hard to avoid the topic unless it brought up by him.

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