(NSFW) Is it normal to be a 33 year old virgin?

He doesn’t seem to have a lot going for him at this point.

@chyna but is it normal?

Not where I live, but there’s not much else to do here.

@chyna any hope for this person?

It is Most unusual. He could have a social phobia or some mental abberation. There is a man near us who lives with his mother too. He is in his fifties and people say “he’s schizophrenic” and things like that. He drives, though, and goes for walks alone. My husband met him and attempted to shake hands and he goes, “no, I can’t; I have a cold” and clapped his hands together just like a toddler would do.

Any hope in what way? Do you mean will he ever have sex, leave his parents house, or get back in school? If he ever gets any motivation for any of the above, yes there is hope. If he has medical, mental issues, probably not.

@chyna so this person should give up? what if he is motivated but has little oppurtunity to get ahead…and ruined credit…but managed to pass high school just to fail out of university

No one should ever give up.

A crazy thought: would some people rather be HIM or….
a guy who digs holes in the street for a living in hot weather with six kids to support?
Chew on That one! The man I mentioned lives in a VERY nice house and may have it super easy. Ignorance is bliss?

@GrumpyGram so he is very lucky?

What is it exactly you want to know? Is this person you? 33 years old is not middle age as your topics state.

@Anonamoosed Is “who” very lucky? Your guy. No; I’d certainly never say that. I’d say to some he may be better off than the workman I mentioned. Depends on his ability to know what he wants out of life. He won’t get too much living with mom I don’t think.
Is this about you? If so, my answers still apply.

It may not be normal in some circles, but you must realize everyone is not destined to have sex.

It’s normal to be a virgin until you decide to have sex. I guess your age doesn’t matter so much.

Those are very limited comments about the guy. Surely, that can’t be all there is about him. Is this all you know? For most people, it probably wouldn’t be the norm…but, there’s always “characters”.

Well there are two words that come to mind here. Uncommon and abnormal.

Unfortunately, abnormal is frequently associated with pathology of some sort, accurately or not. So it has a critical judgemental feel to it.

This situation is certainly uncommon. But it may be normal for him. I think more info would be needed.

If he were the type of person whose religious beliefs were against pre-marital sex, then this would be normal within his moral framework.

If he didn’t like living alone and his Mother enjoyed having him there, that could explain that part of it.

There are all kinds of factors behind people failing out of school, not the least of which is a combination between immaturity and laziness. There are numerous others.

Both of these can be remedied at any time if the guy gets some renewed motivation.

Of course there’s hope for this guy, but he needs to get off his duff and develop some pride in accomplishing things.

If there are some sorts of mental health issues preventing either working, socializing or studying, that can also me remedied. He would need professional help, but it’s certainly not hopeless.

There really isn’t enough info about this person and his motivations and life history to determine abnormal or not.

Uncommon? Yes.

Abnormal? Not enough info to prove definitively.

Tsk, wait til whoever it is hits forty, they’ll make a freakin movie about him then.Whoo Hoo!!

It sounds like the person might have more problems than just being a virgin at 33. I suspect if whoever it is gets some help through counseling and begins to build an interesting life for himself the question of viriginity and relationships would resolve itself. Dsicussions of what is normal are not usually very helpful in these situations; the more valid question is; “Is this person happy or not happy with their life?”