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Do you think I over-reacted?

Asked by joni1977 (822points) May 21st, 2010

Any time there are cameras around, I try to make it very clear that I DO NOT like being photographed. So, I’m sitting at my desk at work and a client comes out of nowhere, yells my name and snaps a pic. At first, I was pissed, but quickly composed myself and calmly asked the guy to delete the pic. His only response was, “too late, I’ve already got it”. I then went into a bit of a rage. Was I wrong? I know that in this day and age there are cameras all around us and we’re being photgraphed in just about every place of business or street corner whether we like it or not, but shouldn’t there still be some shred of consideration from jerks like this that just snap at will, right in your face? please be nice

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DrBill's avatar

you have a right to your image. this was not a security system (that we all live with) it was someone who purposely took your picture without permission for their private use.

You were fully justified.

YARNLADY's avatar

A ‘rage’ is probably not the most effective way to handle it, but you were certainly justified in lodging a complaint. I would ask my supervisor to consider bringing legal charges.

tinyfaery's avatar

Does that person have to remain a client, because that was rude?

joni1977's avatar

@tinyfaery Unfortunately, yes he does. He’s actually a resident at the facility where I work. After my fit, he assured me that he deleted the pic, but I didn’t see it. He later returned and told me he was going to visit family and friends and just wanted them to see the ‘nice’ people that worked with him to get him a place to stay. I felt kinda bad after that, but I still do not like being photographed – for whatever the reason…but that’s a separate issue. lol

CyanoticWasp's avatar

Yes, you over-reacted if you “went into a bit of a rage” for something this minor. You can “not like” what he did and you can express your displeasure, but going “into a bit of a rage” is excessive.

If he already knew that you didn’t like being photographed (you didn’t say what this client knew or didn’t know) then it was rude of him to take your photo despite your expressed wish that he not do so. Even so, people are rude to us in minor ways all the time, and “rage” is almost never the way to respond to that. (For minor offenses, that is.)

Had he taken a photo of you that was sexual in nature, or provoked you into deliberately embarrassing yourself before taking the photo or at a time that would make you look bad, then that would have been “more rude”. Still, you need to control yourself, too. If you don’t, then you risk worse, because the next time someone might take the photo of you “in a rage” ... and then escalate your embarrassment.

joni1977's avatar

@CyanoticWasp I see your point and ‘rage’ may have been a little over the top, but I definitely do not consider this minor. If you’re not camera shy and don’t mind being photographed, then you have no idea what it feels like. The fact is, I let him get me more upset than I should have, since I was on the job and may have reacted somewhat unprofessionally. Only because, after I repeatedly expressed how much I disapproved of his sudden snapshot (no, he had no prior knowledge), he continued to taunt me with, “it’s too late, it’s too late…” Joking or not, prior warning or none, it was out-right rude. It had nothing to do with my self-control.

Buttonstc's avatar

There’s something I’m not clear about on this, so I’ll just be blunt.

I’m aware that the PC parlance is client, but is this person a psychiatric patient or one with developmental delays?

I’m asking because you mentioned finding him, housing so I’m assuming a facility of some sort.

I guess I’m questioning whether your expectations of his conduct might be too high compared to the public at large.

Or am I misinterpreting something here?

joni1977's avatar

@Buttonstc Good question. We do have on-site case management, but no he’s not a psych patient nor does he have issues any different from the norm.

Silhouette's avatar

Yes, and no. The rage was because you asked him to respect your space, he refused. People have differing needs for personal space and yours was violated by someone who refused to yield when asked. He should have deleted the photo when you asked nicely.

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