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Kokoro's avatar

Why would a guy suddenly stop initiating contact with you?

Asked by Kokoro (1424points) May 24th, 2010

Used to be everyday they’d text, now it’s nothing. What should one do? I feel kind of teenagerish for asking such a question, but ah well.

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chamelopotamus's avatar

Just let it be. He wasn’t interested and he ran out of energy. There will be someone better who will fill you up with energy and you dont have to waste time hoping for a text.

nikipedia's avatar

He could probably answer this question better than us. Why not just ask him?

lilikoi's avatar

Did you recently start a new relationship with someone? Dudes always fade from my life like that when I transition from single to not. It’s annoying. You think they are friends, but shit.

perspicacious's avatar

Call him and ask.

zenele's avatar

He’s just not into you?

Syger's avatar

Have you taken into account how you’re acting? Perhaps you’ve been cold towards him recently, causing him to back off a bit. If it’s been going on awhile just confront them politely and ask what’s up. Do not accuse him of anything, just say it feels like X, because Y- or something to the similar effect. I use to be really lovey and text/talk at every opportunity with my girlfriend (with little to no reciprocation most of the time) but she didn’t seem to really appreciate it so I backed off; you don’t really tell us much about the situation, but just take into account that your actions have effects on others’.
(I’m not trying to blame you or anything but the way you phrased your question implies you’re looking solely at him as the cause/reason for your discontent)

krose1223's avatar

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It’s one thing to send the cute “been thinking about you” or “I hope you have a great day” text message… but if all your relationship was just a bunch of text messaging I would say you should be glad it stopped. In my experience those relationships where it’s just a bunch of texting usually means there is something going on…another girl…he’s was just using me as a booty call… whatever. Go find a real man.

Disc2021's avatar

Why not try contacting him?

Only try once. If he’s still being shady, perhaps it’s time to move on. It happens.

lexiilectric's avatar

He’s probably not interested in you anymore, and you should definitely back off. He Just don’t stalk him. Guys hate that. Especially if they have no interest in you.

cornbird's avatar

Try contacting him and find out why. You will never know unless you initiate contact.

chamelopotamus's avatar

Love interests don’t always volunteer information about how they feel about you, but they act it out in life by the way they interact or don’t interact with you. Why call him and ask when he’s already telling you through his actions?

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