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Should I tell him how I feel?

Asked by iluvyou (47points) May 28th, 2010

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about a year ago after a 2 year relationship. After we broke up I started seeing another guy and then lied to him about it and he caught me in my lie and told me he would never be able to forgive me. Since then we have gotten over our differences and become friends but lately we have been seeing each other a lot more than normal and he has even been staying the night at my house almost every night for the past couple weeks. Since we have been spending all this time together I am starting to have feelings for him again and he makes me feel like he feels the same way although we haven’t talked about it. I want to talk to him about it but I really like the way things are going and I don’t want to say anything that would scare him or jeopardize our current friendship. That being said I also don’t want to keep going the way we are if he feels like it would never be anything more because of how I hurt him in the past. So what do I do? Should I say something or just see how it goes?

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Primobabe's avatar

Talk to him. What do you have to lose? If you lose this guy’s friendship, he really was never much of a friend at all.

ruk_d's avatar

I think that it would be better if you just let things go the way they are right now. If you’re not being hurt and vice versa why bother trying to change anything. Now, if you are certain that you would like to start a commitment again with this man then most certainly you should be as straight up as possible about the way you feel and where you want things to go. And also ask him if that would be what he wants as well. It has be mutual. Now, if he’s not being forward about his feelings its because he probably does not want anything more than what you guys have going on now. I suggest that you just have your fun and don’t worry about how he feels about you. He will let you know if he wants more. I guarantee that.

perspicacious's avatar

Talk to him about how you feel.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I think you should tell him how you have been enjoying your time together recently and ask him how things from the past affect how he sees your current relationship. What do you think about that?

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

Talk to him. Either your impressions are right and it could go further, or you are wrong and you will remain friends. If you dated him for two years you should know each other very well, and you should be able to talk openly and freely. Even if he doesn’t share your feelings, you could easily move on from an awkward conversation in a matter of days and remain friends. If he does share your feelings, every minute you delay is a minute you are missing out on spending with him.

FishGutsDale's avatar

Honesty is the key. If it changes because you’re honest about it then it wasn’t going anywhere to begin with.

chels's avatar

You should always tell people how you feel because there’s a chance that if you don’t, you might regret it.

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