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Ladies, how do you feel about your significant other's enjoyment/use of porn?

Asked by Primobabe (1652points) May 29th, 2010

I’m borrowing this intriguing question from another Flutherer, who posed it to our male friends.

Ladies, does your boyfriend/husband enjoy porno and, if yes, how do you feel about that?

I’ll get us started. Pornography does absolutely nothing for me. I don’t find it the least bit provocative or stimulating; to be honest, I think it’s silly. But, my husband does enjoy an occasional “girlie magazine.” I have no problem with that whatsoever. I’m not jealous of or threatened by the fact that he’s a healthy guy who likes to look.

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Silhouette's avatar

It doesn’t bother me a bit. He got bored with it a long time ago.

chels's avatar

I could really care less and tbqh, and I think it’s a good thing! I like porn myself, and if someone told me I couldn’t watch it or that they had a problem with it, I would think that they had a problem. As long as they’re not substituting porn for sex with me, I don’t really see the big deal. I’m pretty open about it and wouldn’t mind watching it with him.

MissAusten's avatar

As far as I know, my husband doesn’t spend any time on porn. We don’t have any adult videos, and if he surfs the web to get some X-rated kicks, I’ve never noticed. Sometimes someone will send him (actually us, since we have the same email address) an explicit email. Usually it’s this one particular cousin. My husband only looks at them if I tell him it’s worth it.

He probably used to spend more time looking at porn, as a younger guy. He’s probably just too busy and not particularly interested anymore. I’d imagine that after a while the novelty wears off and a person just has better things to do with their time.

I don’t think I would mind him looking at a certain amount of porn. If it was excessive, it would probably bother me. Porn doesn’t really do anything for me. Way too graphic. My husband used to have a subscription to Playboy, which his parents of all people! renewed for him as a gift each year. At first I had no interest in the magazine, but then I started reading it and began to look forward to it each month. I think I liked it more than my husband did. At some point the subscription was never renewed, and I’m tempted to renew it for him. The only thing is that I’d really be doing it for myself, so I always end up giving him something he actually wants or needs.

casheroo's avatar

@MissAusten I remember reading my dads Playboys with my mother! We actually read the articles, honest to god. haha.

I don’t care. I’d find it weird if he hid it from me, but like @MissAusten my husband doesn’t look at it..and if he does, it’s usually us looking at funny porn together. We both don’t really have a lot of time for that sort of thing.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I have no problem with it. I actually watch way more porn than he does. I think the only time he watches it is when he’s with me, actually. Neither feel any need to hide from each other and we often visit adult stores together.

@MissAusten @casheroo: Hah, I remember finding a playboy of my grandfather’s several years ago. As far as I know, it’s still hidden under the cushions of the spare couch in my grandmother’s living room. I’ve never been able to smuggle it out because I am rarely alone in the living room when visiting Grandma. ;)

xxii's avatar

I actually do have a problem with it. For obvious reasons, I guess. The thought of my boyfriend being attracted and sexually excited by the sight of other girls doesn’t particularly thrill me. I personally don’t see any value in porn and have never watched it for personal enjoyment.

It’s a little strange because I never had a problem with any of my previous boyfriends enjoying porn, but I guess it was something I just accepted even though I wasn’t completely happy with it… sort of like, I knew I was nowhere near as “sexy” as those girls were so I couldn’t really ask them to stop when I couldn’t compete. My current boyfriend chooses not to view porn – without me asking him to – and I guess I really appreciate that.

QuartzKitty's avatar

I watch porn myself (as does my current girlfriend), and I’ve often watched it with my partners. I don’t have a problem with my partners watching it, but I so oppose someone trying to dictate to me that I can’t do so.

Trance24's avatar

Ok so my take on it is, it is a natural human behavior to be attracted to others even when you are in a relationship, even a long termed one or marriage. Its not like you get married or involved with someone and then your brain is turned off from all other attractive people. I will watch porn, not nearly as much as he does but in other words I don’t have a problem with it. Its not like he would ever leave me for such a person, its just a means of arousal. He doesn’t need it in order to have sex with me, so its not like im not attractive enough so why have a problem? Sometimes we will even watch it together. I use it as a reference of what I can do to be more creative in bed.

OpryLeigh's avatar

My boyfriend and I sometimes enjoy porn together but he says that he doesn’t watch it on his own. I have no reason to doubt this as he knows full well that I don’t have a problem with him watching it. If what he says is true then I am far more turned on by it than he is. Providing it doesn’t become and obsession I don’t have a problem with either of us checking out some porn together or seperately and he knows this.

Seek's avatar

I’m actually really weirded out by the fact that my hubby has no interest in porn at all. None. Is that normal?

sleepdoc's avatar

@Seek_Kolinahr myabe it is not the norm. But at least you don’t have to deal with any of the repercussions of it.

Trance24's avatar

@Seek_Kolinahr My best friend is the same way, I think some guys are just like that.

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