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What are the best predictors of "social success" (friends, relationships, job, etc.)?

Asked by guitarhero1983 (135points) June 13th, 2010

One might say that the among SAT scores, high school GPA, recommendations and essay, one’s SAT score is the best predictor of academic success in college. Well what if we pivoted this question to the social realm. I’m interested in hearing what people would consider predictors of “social success”—those traits, experiences, behaviors, activities, etc. which makes certain people good with people and relationships in general in social, romantic and work contexts. It seems to me that certain people are simply very good with people, and thus in life in general, whereas certain other people are not—but it is not always evident exactly why this is, as well as how those who are not as successful socially can improve their social skills. An interesting corollary question might be, what are the predictors of social failure?

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eden2eve's avatar

Talents that are socially recognized as being desirable, i.e. musical ability, athletic ability.

Self confidence. That difficult-to-qualify charisma.

Empathy. Ability to relate to others.

Good communication skills.

SmashTheState's avatar

“To succeed in the world it is not enough to be stupid, you must also be well-mannered.”Voltaire

janbb's avatar

I think if someone has enough self-confidence or ease to have more interest in what is going on with other people than their own internal affairs for much of the time, they are likely to be socially successful.

Cruiser's avatar

Being attentive and a good listener are qualities common to people I respect socially and professionally. Add on a great sense of humor and sense of style and IMO you almost always will have a recipe for success in all that you do.

asawilliams's avatar

you dont care about it and do what you love

Draconess25's avatar

Trust between yourself & your loved ones.

dpworkin's avatar

Actually the Wechsler is considered one of the more important predictors of academic success, not the SAT.

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Neizvestnaya's avatar

Who your friends are. They reflect who you gravitate towards and who you accept to be close to you. Your standing with them reflects to others how you maintain what you establish.

LuckyGuy's avatar

At what age and what sex?

Children? Income and education of the parents.

Young Adulthood? I’m going with looks and body shape as being very high on the list.

Adult? Perceived income potential.

Old age? A car and night time driver’s license.

gailcalled's avatar

Once you’ve become a teacher or administrator in an Independent school, the predicting factor seems to be height. Headmasters are taller than average (and usually lean).

Draconess25's avatar

Oh, & my girlfriend says “kickass music taste”.

talljasperman's avatar

meeting one’s expectations

gailcalled's avatar

My former husband was a Headmaster before his thirtieth birthday. He was a master at interpreting the will of the community, he was a futurist, he was articulate and most importantly, he listened better than anyone I’ve known. At faculty meetings, everyone talked, talked, talked. When each person had had his say and finally wound down, all heads turned to the Head.

He then gave an opinion and everyone agreed. That is what he had planned to happen. He functioned the same way at meetings with his board of trustees.

In the field, he was considered the Henry James of Headmasters, if you get my drift.

However, he was a negligent parent and an indifferent lover and friend.

guitarhero1983's avatar

@worriedguy What would you say the approximate age brackets for those life phases?

lilikoi's avatar

Lacking hermit / recluse tendencies is a good start.

bolwerk's avatar

Confidence is probably a big one.

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