Did he really love me?

so i had a boyfriend called tom who was really sweet and i thought loved me. we were together for a month and i thought we were happy. i certainly was. i was worried seeing as he’d had past sexual relationships that he’s expect it from me, and i knew i wasnt ready so told him i wanted to wait, to which he replied not to worry and he wouldnt pressure me to do anything i didnt want to. about a week later, we go to a party. i was quite drunk, he wasnt, but nothing happened. we were just kissing and dancing and having fun with friends. I text him the following morning and he never replied. He didn’t speak to me for 5 days, ignoring me on msn and ignoring my phone calls. Then we were supposed to go to a meal with friends, which i was invited to because i was with him. I showed, he didnt, and didnt say a word to anyone. I was so annoyed when i got home that i went on msn and told him straight out that i wanted to knwo what was going on and that i didnt deserve to be treated like that. He replied saying “all this time ive been trying so hard not to hurt you. ive been trying to find the best way to do this but im sorry now youve pissed me off bye” and that was that. he blocked me and we obviously had broken up. So now im thinking he used me and broke up with me because i wouldnt have sex with him. he later told me he didnt have to explain himself to me, and then told my friend it was because we didnt feel right after the party. which has left me thinking it was because i was drunk and wasnt completely all over him. Is this true? is he a jerk?