How to overcome mother-daughter relationship problems?

I’m 24, single and I work for myself. My mother and I often argue with many things. she really tend to give negative comment on whatever i do, which includes skincare that i use, my clothes etc.. well, who does not feel dissed if someones always criticize…criticize and criticize. It drives me crazy seriously.

We use the same car when we go to work. I pay for most of the fuel and my salary is not that big so I think it is normal for an individual to save their every penny. The problem is, I really do not favor the way she drive the car because she does not use appropriate gear and like to accelerate suddenly, etc.. This cause quite remarkable fuel wastage, you see (proven). I often reminds her and sometimes i was being harsh. So we had a very serious quarrel where she shout at me and said ridiculous things that I think a mother should not say.

I am the only daughter in the family, so I thought that mother is being intolerant towards me all this while as the reasons to protect me. But what I see is mother is always by the boys’ side eventhough it is clear that I am in the right side. One could tell that any argument between siblings, mother will defend the boys, really.

Everyday, I try to keep our relationship better. I give little money to her every month, so does my much-bigger-earning brother. I’m the only child that give her body massage everyday (seriously), chat with her more, jokes together, serve her drinks, pluck her white hair. Of course she is happy with all these which exactly what I wanted. But yeah, unfavorable situations often come.

When I have my own problems, I always come to my mother. She would give me advices, but not being a shoulder to lean to. My friends also can give advices. But what should make a mother different is their mother-ly character. I am certainly seeking that from my mother that I would say she has NEVER give, but only to my brothers which I seldomly saw with my own eyes.

Sometimes I just cry like a small kid, alone, and I did not know what to do. I just go to sleep and wake up in the morning pretending I was okay and talk less…