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Gruesome dream of baby dying - interpretations?

Asked by JTSTs2003 (295points) July 7th, 2010

If anyone out there has skills for dream interpretation, I would really appreciate your help!

I have a history of nightmares. As long as I can remember my dreams, I’ve had nightmares. As I get older they seem to get worse. Almost always I “watch them” and they include people that I don’t know.

I was actually in last night’s dream. It’s so disturbing to me, so insight is very appreciated! This is just the most disturbing part…

I driving my boyfriend’s car (which I don’t particularly like -I prefer my own) with a sister that I have had a strained relationship in the past (real life). We go into a ditch. We freak out and are scared we will sink and be trapped, We get ourselves and our son’s out of the car. My son is 6, but in the dream he was 2 or 3 yrs. Turns out the water wasnt very high at all, and the car was just stuck.

My boyfriend (not son’s father in real life or in the dream) comes with a girl that I don’t recognize. I get the feeling that she is actually his girlfriend, or maybe wife, but I am completely fine with that, it’s like it’s natural and there is no feeling of us being a couple like we are in real life. He helps us get the car out of the ditch and on our way.

As we’re backing up onto the road to leave (it’s a country road, one lane each direction), an accident happens. Not sure if we caused it, but we were involved. There were three crumpled cars maybe?

My son was thrown from the car. My sister & her son were fine. I run out to find him, he’s perfectly fine by the car thank god.

I look into the opposite lane (we are in the correct lane) and see that a baby has been thrown from a car that was involved in the crash. I don’t see anyone else but I realize that I dont know if they are alive in their own cars. I wasnt sure the baby was alive, it was laying on it’s back in a white sleeper on our side of the yellow divider line, but ON the line. I get the feeling that it’s alive…it must be about 3–4 months (est?), old enough to be chubby, but not old enough to really turn over or move around.

As I sigh from relief, I realize a big rig is headed our way, and there isnt enough time to grab the baby. I pray that it misses the baby since it is on the divider line, but it doesn’t. I watch as the tire goes right over the baby. The baby gets pressed, pieces break off, blood and guts everywhere, it’s white sleeper stained red. Once the truck leaves the baby’s torso is flattened, and pieces of it are around the body.

I start wailing uncontrollably…I look over to my son, and realize that the mother would have to see this, and deal with her child’s death, and I start screaming bloody murder while still sobbing – I was hysterical. All I can do is scream and cry and feel this immense heartbreak.

I woke up, obviously disturbed and in a panic. I had the immediate feeling that I can’t have another child – that I missed my chance and someone was telling me that. I know that doesnt really correspond with the dream, but I just felt like that it isn’t going to happen now. (we aren’t trying, or anything like that).

Any insight????

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Cruiser's avatar

These things are so involved and to get to the root takes more than just a forum post….but you asked and I am game.

You say how you don’t like your boyfriends car and perceive it as unreliable…so perhaps you may see him as unreliable as a persons car is often very much an extension of that person. You have your son, and he was put at risk because of this “unreliable car” due to the accident and thankfully your son was unhurt yet you are still in this awful ongoing saga of wow shit the car in a ditch and an innocent baby about to be run over by a truck could reveal a lot of uncertainty with your own ability to provide safety to your child and brings into question your boyfriend.

IMO I think you are afraid of your own ability to provide a safe and secure environment for your child and that child getting squished by the truck is an talisman struggle of your insecurities of allowing another man into your life to be a apart of you and your sons lives.

MaryW's avatar

I think that you are aware that something you are putting together for your security is doomed. No protections are in place. Look at your life and see if you can set something you are building or wish to build on more solid ground.

Coloma's avatar

@Cruiser

Wow…I’m impressed!

Will you sleep with me?
I mean..ya know…just as an interpreter, in the name of science? lololol

Cruiser's avatar

@Coloma I have not been really all that fond of science…white lab coats and all…but if it is an opinion you seek I am more comfortable helping you through interpretive dance or kazoo! Very therapeutic I am told! :))

Coloma's avatar

@Cruiser

Okay..well if I have any kazoo playing dancing dreams I’ll drop a note.

No nightmares on my Elm St. lol

sliceswiththings's avatar

I’ve had this dream!! Obviously not exactly, but the part with the baby and the road, and the truck, thinking it would miss, but it doesn’t and blood and guts go everywhere. I talked to my friend’s mom, who’s a Psychologist, afterwards and she said it’s normal for women around my age (22) to have catastrophic baby dreams. Basically for people either feeling a maternal instinct or who actually care for children, we have subconscious stresses about things going wrong, and these dreams manifest all that. I imagine since you already have a kid it could be related to worries about him, or general concerns about responsibility. I hope your mind is cleared soon, you must fear bedtime for these horrible dreams.

I had another dream where I baby I was babysitting drowned in the toilet and I had to tell the parents. No thanks.

Flavio's avatar

@JTSTs2003
This is a great topic, very difficult to really tackle this in a forum.
I think paying attention to dreams is critical because they are a window (albeit muddy and very difficult to look through) into a person’s subconscious emotional life.
Also, there is no rote dream interpretation. Each person’s dreams have symbols that have specific meaning to that one individual person, and while similarity between different people’s dreams can be interesting, one can never be certain that the underlying meanings are vastly different.
I think the most important thing to consider in a dream is the emotional content. From your description, there appear to be strong undercurrents of anxiety, anger, fear, and powerlessness (the makings of a perfect nightmare). The first questions to consider is why are you feeling these emotions and during your waking hours what are you doing to suppress these so that you are not allowing a conscious experience of all this negative stuff. Why repress these emotions? How long have you been repressing them? What psychological defenses are you employing? What benefits do you derive from this emotional repression?
The individual items in the dream should be examined separately. Each may have symbolic content that may or may not be related to the underlying dream narrative, but is likely related somehow to the emotional content of the dream. The underlying meaning these items have for you may help you understand why you are having these dreams. Items could be tangible like the car, the ditch, the water in the ditch, the truck, the divider yellow line or intangible like your relationship with your sister, your sense of motherhood, the presence of a competitor for your boyfriend’s love/his betrayal. I don’t know. These are guesses from your narrative. All the stuff that appears in the dream is fair game for having underlying symbolic value for you.

I would also be curious about other dreams you are having and if there are any similar items that appear or if you have other nightmares that have similar emotional content with a different narrative.

Of course, if I were your psychiatrist, I would also like to have a thorough understanding of your current state of mental and physical health, a detailed history of your childhood and adolescence, understanding of your important relationship (parents, siblings, significant others, friends, etc), your occupational/financial/educational/social/racial/gender/etc background, any potential trauma history.

So none of this is very practical advice. If you can, it may be useful to you to keep a journal or a taperecorder by your bed and develop the habit of immediately recording dreams when you wake up. you may find important themes that can also help understand the meaning of these awful nightmares.

good luck. It’s possible to do this. I have been keeping a dream journal for about a year and I have discovered a lot of wacky and unexpected things about myself.

dorisger07's avatar

Hi everyone! I’ve been having “dying people dreams” for a while but I’m gonna tell you about my last one and hopefully you’ll be able to help.
I was walking in the street and saw a woman throwing away her baby ( who was much smaller than a normal one). The baby ended up under a parked car. While I was approaching the baby, whom I thought was dead, my father (in real life is an engineer, in the dream he was a doctor) came by asking me to check if he was still alive. When I checked, the baby was alive, so I picked him up and took him into what seem to be an industry. The baby was near death and, with the help of others, I was caring for him; giving him shots, oxygen via mouth to mouth etc. After a while,we all got separated and things got crazy. We where running up and down the stair and all doors started to automatically close and we started to run out of O2. The door opened up, the baby’s mother died of asphyxia. A moment later another woman who was helping with the baby got lost, and when they found her, she was dead (don’t know the how). I still had the baby and was constantly checking if his heart was still beating. Then, I woke up.

JTSTs2003's avatar

Me again…I came here to ask a question about something else. I had completely forgotten about this dream.

This is kind of spooky…but I got pregnant 2 weeks after I posted this. I chose to abort, which was an extremely traumatic experience. Basically the feelings I described once the baby in the dream died, I went through. I’m sitting here in shock…

Now I wonder if the feeling that I won’t have anymore children is actually going to come true also…

I guess to decipher the dream now, I would say that the sister I was with, I took to two abortions myself. I had always been against them, but I supported her as my sister. The boyfriend at the time and the girl…I believe he cheated, but when I was pregnant he was still supportive.

The car that I am driving that went into the ditch – i think represents our previous efforts at getting pregnant (we couldnt). I got pregnant by someone else (drama = the crash) who pressured me to abort. The truck barreling through…the morning of the abortion I was sitting in my car debating going to the ultrasound without him (I was intent on keeping it), when he came driving up the street like a bat outta hell to pick me up…the same way the truck was in the dream. The baby ON the line – my decision.

I dont know what else to think…but this is freaky as hell…

PullMyFinger's avatar

I think that random memories (old and new) swim around in our brains, then while we’re asleep, just take turns floating to the top. How else to explain dreaming about some kid you knew in 2nd Grade, but hadn’t thought about once in 40 years (and hardly knew him back then) ?

These memories somehow crash into each other, making it perfectly believable in the dream that someone’s father is a doctor, when in reality he is an engineer.

Once my wife woke up at 3:00 a.m. screaming like a crazy person, then ran into our 2-year-old son’s room to check on him. She had a dream that we were on a boat, and King Kong was next to us, waist-deep in the water. He began pounding his chest, and when he opened his mouth to roar, our son was in there, apparently….you know….dead.

What did this dream mean ? I say, probably nothing.

Just random memories, crashing into each other in the mind of the dreamer…...

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