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How can I non-offensively reject a repeating invitation to "hang out" with romantic intentions?

Asked by jz1220 (829points) March 20th, 2008

He’s been pretty persistent but I am not interested in dating him. I’m running out of excuses to the point where they cannot be believable any longer. I don’t want to piss him off or lose him as an acquaintance but I don’t want to hang out with him knowing I would lead him on.

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sfgirl's avatar

I think being upfront with him is the best option. I think you’re misleading him by giving him excuses – so the best thing to do is to tell him that you don’t have those feelings for him but that you want to be friends.

kevbo's avatar

“It’s very sweet of you to ask. I think you’re a great guy, but I don’t want to give you the impression that I’m interested in a date. If I think of anyone who’s a great match for you, I’ll send her your way.”

Thesilvertiger's avatar

Have u ever seen White Chicks, if not see it and do what “she” did.

Hollister0221's avatar

I agree honesty is best. But of course being honest can sometimes be hard I’m sure. You guys sound like good friends but obvious his feelings go deeper. Its only a matter of time before the truth comes free so tell him how u feel. Who knows after you tone down his persistence he may become somewhat more attractive. Good luck

cwilbur's avatar

“I’d love to hang out, because I like you as a friend, but I’m worried that I’ll send you the wrong message, because I’m not interested in a romantic relationship.”

Making excuses doesn’t help, especially if they’re believable, because he can delude himself—“oh, she really likes me, but she has to babysit her aunt’s pet rock,—if she didn’t, I’m sure we’d be having a great time together!”

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