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Is dating a younger guy a bad idea?

Asked by AuditoryHaven (54points) July 18th, 2010 from iPhone

I’m a 26 year old female dating a 23 year old male. We’ve been dating for about nine months. Any reason dating a younger guy is a bad decision or in any way setting myself up for dissapointment?

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jazmina88's avatar

That’s not much younger. and nothing wrong with it at all.
age is irrevelant…it’s the meeting of the souls that count.


He’s not that much younger, so no, I don’t think it’s a bad idea. If he’s mature enough and responsible——that’s what matters.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

I wouldn’t worry about the age difference in this case. Three years, at both of your respective ages, isn’t that much. If you’ve been dating him for 9 months already and haven’t seen any warning signs, I think you’re good to go.

curlyz's avatar

you have nothing to worry about. 3 years is nothing.

TexasDude's avatar

Like others have said, 3 years isn’t that big of a gap.

meatheadbox's avatar

I don’t know if this sets any precedence, but it seems to be working out nicely for Ashton Kutcher & Demi Moore. They got married in 2005 & have a fifteen year age difference.

Seaofclouds's avatar

Age isn’t really the concern, it’s more about where the two of you are in life.

zenele's avatar

I’m with @jazmina88

When you’re 26 and he’s 16 it could be a problem. Same if it were reversed. But three years difference either way… perhaps he’s immature – is that why you asked it?


@AuditoryHaven My wife is almost 10 years younger than I am, so chronological age does not really matter, in my opinion, unless the guy you date is a boy. Lol. Which makes me think….when my wife was 12, I was already in my 20s, but I wouldn’t have dated her then! Ha.

snowyowl_ecs's avatar

Noppers. I could see how it might be a problem if you were 20 and he was 17 (because of the whole law thing), but not at 26 and 23. If you like each other age should be a problem.

perspicacious's avatar

That’s not much difference at your ages if he’s age appropriately mature. Some 23 year old guys are still pretty much kids. The older you get the less significant three years will be.

NaturallyMe's avatar

Ya, what everybody else said.

So i think you have your answer now. :)

jesienne's avatar

It will never be bad if only for love.

Austinlad's avatar

Three years isn’t much of a different at all, especially if you like each other. Now if he were, say, 12… that would be too young.

kevbo's avatar

As others have alluded to, probably the greatest risk you run in this case is being with someone who won’t rise to your level of maturity anytime soon.

My gf is 15 years older than me, and we’ve had a great relationship for 5 years.

A family friend dated someone 15 years younger than her for two years. They ended it because she wanted kids and he didn’t or wasn’t ready. She’s 40 now. So, there’s something to be said for practical concerns as time marches on, but you still have lots of time.

MaryW's avatar

Age difference matters less as you get older and as you and your partner mature. So if you date long enough, a year, you should have had enough experiences together to know. As you have been seeing him about a year and are asking this question I would carry this relationship on for a while more and experience some interaction over some issues together. If you are worried then something is bothering you. Do a sport together. Go out as a couple with other couples. Discuss finances. Discuss moral issues. Discuss goals. Can either of you support yourself in a pinch so that you can marry because you want to be together not because you need to be together.

tedibear's avatar

Three years at your age isn’t a big deal. If you were 15 and he were 12, that would be concerning to me. My husband is 5 years younger than me. (I’m 46.) Our issues have nothing to do with his age.

Jabe73's avatar

23 years old to 26 years old? Nothing drastic there. It all depends where each of you are in life. Some 23 year old guys are mature for their age and some are not. Like @perspicacious said the older you get the less the 3 year gap will seem. Now if one of you were 18 and the other was 15, well that would be another story now.

kfingerman's avatar

I’m a man and am married to a woman 3 years older that I am. There’s no problem for us. If you think this has potential to be a long-term thing, the only thing to think about is how far each of you are from being ready for marriage. For better or worse, men tend to be older than women in our culture when they get married and this could become a problem if you become ready before him. For now, I say run with it (you’re still young). I wouldn’t make it an issue with him unless you’re hoping to give your 23 year old man a heart attack. But mark that as something to come back to if you’re still together in 3–5 years.

Loner2011's avatar

I am 41 and been with my 21 year old sweetie for 3 years and counting.
It does work…

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